how do i love myself after a breakup this son of b i t c h lie to me over and over and also how do i move on i very depress,lonely, also i have put my life on whole for him. how can he do this to me. i really want to kill him for all the pain, and hurt that i am going through.
2006-11-27 03:53:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
honey, I'm going through the same thing myself. email me, we can exchange war stories! : )
don't beat yourself up over a guy, especially a liar, always love yourself above all others (sounds like you made him #1 in your life but you didn't hold the top spot in his)
I know it's hard. It will take time to get over the pain and betrayal. Just know that you deserve better and eventually you will find the right person for you.
Focus all your energy on things that bring you joy. Everynight before you go to bed think of at least 3 positive things that happened to you during the day and analyze them. This will force you to remember the good and will help you not to dwell on your negative feelings.
Seriously, email me, you need a friend now (and I do too). I'm sorry for your hurt. Be strong. You will feel whole again someday, I promise!
2006-11-27 04:03:04 · answer #1 · answered by smarty pants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not ur worst case scenario, that would've been if he actually stayed with u and u were still covinced that he's good and ur relationship is fine. You are better off without that kind of relationship with such a person, actually u have gained more than lost, u have gained time that u could've been waisting with that guy for God knows how much longer. Now it's normal to think of revenge and hatered, but if you give it some more time, and some less focus, that will go away and you'll move on. Accept what happened, take a lesson out of it, and be open to life's endless chances and surpsises that are waiting for you. KNOW that U WILL have great things yet to come, don't block that out by being negative and creating negative energy around you. You deserve so much better, and this whole thing happened not to hurt u, but to prepare you for something better..good luck :)
2006-11-27 12:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by GucciRush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if he's really that bad then you're very lucky to be rid of him now. It will take time for the pain to go away, but it will go away, and then maybe you can learn to not meet this type of person again. So, and I know it sounds glib, you are suffering some short term pain for some long term gain (i.e. never again being with such a deceitful person)
2006-11-27 12:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by Ego Fatigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break ups are sometimes hard and it appears you are very bitter over yours.
Remind yourself you are a better person. he lied, you did not.
you need to find an outlet for your anger and bitterness and seek happiness for yourself.
If you feel you are relly depressed , find a good trustful friend to talk to or a mental helth professional. depression can be bad for person.
Right now, find yourself a man that is a real man and it will be hard for a while to trust again. however there are some good ones out there. busy yourself go out and have a darn good time.
2006-11-27 11:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand in line with the rest of us! This happens all the time. Only time can get you through this. Why don't you focus on something that you like to do. Get rid of all his stuff (pictures and things like that ) until you are past this hurt! Pray a lot!!! It works wonders and change your life around.
2006-11-27 11:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by Child of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to find something else to focus on. Also, I would see a doctor about getting on anti depressants.
Hang out with friends, or else find an activity where you can make new friends.
I know it hurts, but the only cure is to divert your attention elsewhere.
2006-11-27 11:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend don't get mad get even. I am a breaka holic. I break up all the time with my bfs. My even E's are:Eyedrops-make him never leave the toilet;Exlax-Same;and Estrogen- make him feel like a woman going through meopause. And for you eat some chocolate. I promise you will feel great.
2006-11-27 12:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about him and move on. Start going out with your friends again or even dating if you feel like it. Whenever you are about to think anything that has to do with him, think of something else. In due time, you will forget him and move on with your life.
2006-11-27 11:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to consider the other option. What if he stayed with you but was very unhappy? At least you now know and can move on. I, personnally, would rather know and be done with it rather then continue on in a one-sided relationship. Its easier to say then do but... Good luck!
2006-11-27 12:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put all that energy into doing something for yourself ... U will get over it maybe not today or tomorrow but eventually you will...Life is too short to waste your love on someone who doesn't deserve it
2006-11-27 11:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋