Our love for each other is great, I would die for her. I talk to a sex therpaist and she indicate its me and not her. She says I need to improve on my sex appeal what ever that means. Can anyone add on how,what I should do...
2006-11-27 03:41:46 · 16 answers · asked by r m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you BOTH needs to talk to a counselor about this, and find out what she likes and what you want, and can do together to improve both of your sex life, as it takes two to tangle in bed! Good luck.
2006-11-27 03:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end, only your conscience can answer this question. Communication is always the key. See what you can come up together and go from there. Chances are she may feel as trapped and confused as you but feels she cannot express it. Kudos to you for being so concerned about your kids, that says alot about your character. I have a friend in the same situation, except they are going through the counselling. The wife, has threatened him if he leaves and has him scared enough to stay, even though he is in love with someone else. (and no they haven't done anything behind the wife's back) Its hard to make the choice between whats considered responsible and what may make you happy in the end. I firmly believe that everyone deserves to have a chance at real happiness. You have brought that to the world by giving your children life and if you can work out a way to work together for your futures, either together or apart, then you have a chance at your own
2016-03-28 21:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to seek counseling together. A proper counselor will start by talking to you together, then individually. There may be more going on than just sex appeal. Be prepared for tough answers. Is your wife happy with the sex? Since you have already said you think it sucks, what are you doing to satiate your drive? What is she doing to satiate hers?
Get this fixed or it will be over soon.
2006-11-27 04:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Dadofthree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like my marriage. My husband doesn't have much sex appeal either and I wish he did. What gets me is that sometimes when we are getting it on, he acts like a little boy in a candy store with giggles and all, such a turn off! Try being serious, like maybe it's the first time you two ever made love! And always remember, men are like lunch meat and women are more like a roast....we take a long time to heat up but are really yummy when we do!
2006-11-27 03:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A healthy sex life is very important. Without sex we sometimes tend to think we are unattractive or unloved. It is a form of expression that makes people feel good. I would try to find a way to add spice back into the relationship and get a sex life. Try to be spontaneous...kissing is a great way of stimulating your partner. It's sometimes the simple things that make the difference.
2006-11-27 03:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by Nana T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men get excited by senses and women get aroused by senses but mainly emotions. you may be doing some or all of these things already, but:
spend time with her - give an hour of your time doing nothing but asking her to talk and listen to her.
tell her shes special - think of about 3 good reasons you love her company and things she does for you that you appreciate.
do favors - if she works outside the home just to come home and work for you too, try to take up some slack, do the dishes - clean up after yourself.
- but now if you are giving too much attention to her she could feel crowded if so find a hobby that you could get interested in that could ignore her for a while so when you show her attention she will appreciate you more.
2006-11-27 04:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by situatednut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about lots of foreplay. Men are usually terrible at that. Try to make it last close to an hour. And working actually spending a lot of time "in the act" as well. You need to allow her several o's before you take care of your business.
2006-11-27 03:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by texascrazyhorse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sex appeal??? Hmmm could be anything from your personal hygiene to your approach to initiating sex. Why did you not ask what specifically she meant by "sex appeal".
Apparently wife is more sensual .... so have her teach you, add a little playfullness into your approach.
2006-11-27 03:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's about attitude. Think about sex 24 hours a day and you'll be more appealling.
2006-11-27 03:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationship between 2 people is lot of give and take.
there are a number of things that can make difference.
Women like lot of atmosphere/ambiance like how the room was set, pleasant talk,perfumed etc. No controversial subject.
Women like their smelling plesant and like lot of fore play, while guys like sto shake of and get over.
2006-11-27 04:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by Kutty_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋