I just married for 3 months. Every sat, my hubby and me have sex. Sometime, he wanted to have on weekday, but I rejected him. We quarrel. I just dont feel like having it. What can I do or have so that I want to have more sex? I am scare that my hubby look for others.
2006-11-27 03:30:40 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-11-30 15:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your body might be going through some hormonal changes that is causing you not to have a desire for sex, If that is the case you really need to see your Doctor. He can get you balanced out.
OR your hubby might not be making it worth your while and you might think it's more of a job then a pleasure. If that is the case then you need to talk to your sweetie, be careful how you tell him, you don't want to give him a complex. You need to tell him what makes you feel good or maybe you take control in the bedroom. It is OK to feel frisky and be the aggressor. I know that through the week sometimes at the end of a long day it is hard to muster up the energy to have sex. Foreplay is a must especially on a tired night. I know sometimes if I don't have my make -up on or I am not wearing sexy clothes then I don't feel very confident. Make sure you take a little time to make your self feel pretty before it is bed time. You initiate the foreplay before you get tired. Maybe have a glass of wine to loosen you up. Just have fun and be confident, experiment around with each other. Find out what he likes and tell him what you like. It helps sometimes to stimulate yourself in front of him to let him know what you like plus that is a turn on for both of you. Just let loose and have fun.
2006-11-27 12:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by horsecrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasy and variety! He obviously wants you. Think about a past experience with him or someone else that was very special and go for it.. Change the day of the week, time, positions, etc. It is a bit unusual for someone married such a short period to not want sex more often than once a week. Your husband could be thinking that after a few years little sex will become no sex. Compromise with him. If you only do what you want, he will feel left out and may stray.
2006-11-27 11:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the marriage bed is hot when you just got married. Learn to enjoy with your hubby. It is fine and healthy for newly wedded couple to enjoy sex regularly during first few months of marriage.
If you think it is too much, you can work out a plan with your hubby. Maybe you can do it twice per week or three times two weeks at this moment, then slowly decrease it to once a week or three times per month...
Don't reject him. Let him have it. Hope you can enjoy him with love.
2006-11-27 19:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by AH HA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through this and I know that it can be very difficult. You love your husband, but sexual intimacy isn't something you crave from him. Think about this; is he intimate with you in other ways? Do you have a emotional connection? Many times a lack in emotional intimacy is the reason behind a lack in female sex drive. Women and men think differently, so your husband may be using sex to show you how much he loves you, but failing to show you in ways that truly matter to you emotionally. Another thing to ponder: It may be that scheduling sex on Saturdays isnt the way to go about it. Sometimes when we schedule things they turn into a chore and the "fun" or in this case, the pleasure, is taken out of it. Try being spontanious. And remember to TALK to your husband about it. Communication is key. Don't be afraid to introduce new aspects into the bedroom as well. For instance, massage and oils, candles, anything that sound good to you. Or hey! Try it in another room! Have fun with it. He is your husband and sex is a good part of marriage. It shouldnt be a chore.
2006-11-27 11:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by aclevelandmk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are facing the same problem as me. But im not marry. The best thing is to talk to ur hubby. I wont denied that he will look for others bcoz u cant fullfill his "needs" but try to make it a point to psycho urself that u wan to love ur hubby.. and the best way is to impress him. Slowly build up from there.
2006-11-29 04:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by Its me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only married for three months! Damn you should be doing it every chance you have, both of you need to go away for the weekend, try different things, maybe get some toys, whatever it takes, keep the intrest at home girl!!
2006-11-27 11:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by jeepit123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He must not make it very exciting for you, if he did, you would be all over him when he brings it up! This is something that he can work on if he is truly interested in more sex.
Just so you know, my average is 3-6 times a week, so he is not asking too much here. But he does have to make it fun for you.
2006-11-27 11:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems as though you maybe have intimacy problems and I commend you for wanting to make things better because it's a blessing that your husband wants to be intimate with you and not anyone else but if you keep rejecting him then eventually he'll be found outside the house with someone else. My advice would be for you to find what turns you on and embrace it. It's going to take you to find your peak and then you go from there with your husband.
2006-11-27 11:35:30 · answer #9 · answered by bettyspagettii 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, unless you keep hubby happy, he is going to seek happiness elsewhere....After 3 months of marriage, you should be having sex every day....Sometimes twice a day....Do you orgasm ??
If not, perhaps that is the problem...He needs to work on that....
2006-11-27 11:37:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking "Spanish Fly", u can buy thru internet..
If you're not shy, then go to the chinese medison shop to buy those that are needed to stimulate your sex drive.
It will sure help alot... by then you might needed sex everyday..
2006-11-27 23:20:31 · answer #11 · answered by Love69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋