Honesty is very important to me. I realize I can't tell if you are a predator, axe murder or some sort of deviat - none of which I want to talk to!!!! I desperately want to find a friend to talk to - preferably male. I am a married middle aged female that has been made to feel inadequate, unloved and unattractive by her husband. My goal in life??? I just want to be happy!
2006-11-27 03:30:13 · 19 answers · asked by Amy A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Everyone just wants to be happy. Set your mood every morning when you wake up. Every day, you can choose to wake up and say 'this will be the best day of my life', or it can be the same old, same old. We make life what we want it to be.
I believe that we control our own mood and how we react to things. If things don't go your way, you can sit and brood for an hour or two, or you can move on and be glad that it's over.
If I get angry, it's usually only for a short period of time. Life is too short to always be mad at something or someone. You just have to teach yourself not to worry or care too much about things that are out of your control. It takes time, so be patient.
2006-11-27 03:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by tipper 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My heart truly goes out to you. I am also a middle-aged married female but my husband is the total opposite. He makes me feel beautiful all the time, even after 16 years of marriage. You shouldn't have to endure anymore abuse from him and that is exactly what it is. Go out and get you a make over, like maybe a new haircut and color, teeth whitening, new clothes and what ever just to make you feel better. Please don't stay with this loser any longer.....you said your goal in life is to be happy and only YOU can control that. Good-luck my friend, we're here for ya!
2006-11-27 11:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amy, I was in the same boat. I can tell you from experience that there are wonderful men out there who will appreciate you and give you the strokes that you need.
Pull yourself up by the bootstraps and get out of your present marital situation. Give yourself some attention and praise. Go on a diet (if you need to), exercise and get out there in the world. Men who won't give you the attention you need are abusers. They make themselves feel good by putting you down and making you feel inadequate. There are good men out there who simply want the same thing you want - love and attention.
I felt the same way you do. I got a divorce and moved away. Now, I am in a great relationship with a man that I adore and who loves me unconditionally. He treats me like a princess and a precious thing. I feel pretty, sexy and loved. I was astounded that men came out of the woodwork after I got divorced. I am a nice-looking woman at 41. I got a big dose of self-esteem back just letting these men take me out and give me the attention I had been craving.
By the way, my ex cried like a baby when I left, even after making me feel like a complete failure for 18 years. To him I was never enough of anything. Now, he has found that other women won't give him the time of day. I felt powerful for once in telling him to shove it.
Once you get out, you will see the whole wide world of possibilities. Don't shut yourself off from, a fantastic future. If you need a friend, e-mail me and we'll talk. I think I know how you feel.
God bless!
2006-11-27 13:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you are looking for a man to stoke your ego in more ways than one. Yes a man can tell you things that you want to hear things you husband has not said in a while. I hope you dont end you taking the chatting further. If you arent in a happy relationship male or female friend would be helpful unless you are seeking more than a reply.
2006-11-27 11:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not trying to be mean about the situation...but, what could another man really do for you, when you can't even enjoy the company of the one you have?
I think you need not focus so much on the company of a new man at this point and time...and if you are then way not on the one that you have at home- that is causing you to feel so worthless!
( You need to fix the inside before you try to work on the outside_
Peace and Respect...
2006-11-27 11:46:32 · answer #5 · answered by passionfruit2571 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only you can make yourself feel inadequate or unattractive. You are a very beautifull person inside and out. Stop letting these feelings dominate your thoughts.
2006-11-27 11:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh, heh...well...certainally not a predator or an axe murder...which is really too messy anyway. Welcome to the club my dear. We all seem to be in the same boat. Pick up an oar and give me a hand will you?
2006-11-27 11:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like all of us, we all want to be happy. My greatest joy comes from helping others. Intuitive and understanding, I'll listen, share and just see if we want to become friends.
2006-11-27 11:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by seattlego 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going down a dangerous road. It sounds like the potential is there for you to cheat on your husband! I would divorce him first and then start chatting with other men.
2006-11-27 11:39:58 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So what is in it for us? I am looking for an axe murderer, but you must be an honest one. Reply if this is you.
2006-11-27 12:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋