Please help???????I am scared???

Question

I am 15 and i am not stupid i am an honors student also i am part of the honor society at my school so please dont judge.I started going out with this guy the end of last year 21 yrs old well i met him at a frat party me and my friends snuck into.I really liked him and wanted to date an older guy to be more popular at school yes i know that sounds bad.Anyway i lied to him and told him i was 18 and a first year at another college.I ended up loosing my virginity to him about 3 months ago we are still together but last week i took 3 pregnancy tests all of them came back positive. I have not told anyone and am scared i dont know what to do?i would have to be 2 1/2 months by now.I dont know if i should tell him this and my real age?

Yes i am 100% sure he does not know my real age i also have him pick me up at my fake college .

Answer 1

Oh honey you need to be honest with him. He could be in real trouble. He could go to prison for your lies. You need to tell him everything (your age, possible pregnancy) it is only fair to him that you are honest. Do you have anyone you trust to go to. Talk to your parents and tell them the truth. You should tell him first though to give him the heads up that he may have your parents contacting him. If you have no one you trust call the pregnancy hot line in your local phone book.

Answer 2

Hmmm, you are in a tricky spot.

I assume that since you are an honors student, you have plans for the future, like going to a real college and a career. You should tell your parents immediately. I don't at all want to impose any views upon you about abortion, but you should seriously consider what having a baby at your age will do to your future plans.

I'm only 13 years older than you, which may seem like a lot to you, but trust me, high school was only a minute ago to me. This guy isn't the "one," or you would have told him the truth about your age by now. I don't think he's going to stick around too long once he finds out the truth, either.

But, the truth is, this pregnancy is your big problem, not your boyfriend. You need to tell your parents immediately and get medical help. Together with your parents and your doctor, you should decide immediately whether you are going to carry the pregnancy to term. You don't have much time to decide, so you should not at all delay in telling your parents.

Oh, and be 100% truthful about all of this to your parents and your doctors. At the end of the day, you're the one having the baby, so you need to be truthful about the facts and your decisions.

Answer 3

OMG honey you've gotten yourself into a big mess here. First of all you need to tell the guy that you are pregnant because you are. Pregnancy tests can be iffy when it comes to negative signs but if you took three and all three are positive, you're pregnant. The second thing that you need to do is let him know that you've been lying to him from the beginning and that you're only 15.

You have to be prepared to lose him because you're entire relationship is based on a lie. Not only that, he will go to jail for statutory rape regardless of the fact that you consented or not. You need to tell your parents and tell them OVER and OVER that he did not and still doesn't know your age and that you've even gone as far as to have him pick you up from this other college. Then what all of you guys need to do is sit down and discuss what your options are.

I was a 15 year old mother and it's extremely hard. I wouldn't change it for the world and love my daughter beyond belief but I'll be honest and tell you that your teenage years are out the door now and you basically will have no social life. Don't have that baby because you'll think that you can keep him either that's not going to happen. If he's there that's fine but don't assume or expect for him to stay with you forever because of the baby. I'm so sorry that you're going through this but you should have used protection when having sex with this guy, you're lucky that's all that you got because you could have also caught a std. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

Hmmm, Well, just in case your parents would want to press charges against the guy for rape , you better say that you had lied to him, or he can get into big trouble. He thought you were 18, so he figured it was ok. But Im sure if he would have known you were 15 and can go to jail for that, he wouldnt have done that. But just tell your parents, and yes everyone will be upset, but things will calm down after a while and become ok. If you are already 2 1/2 months, you really need to start taking good care of yourself. You will already be out of the first trimester in few weeks. So yes tell someone and go make a DR appt. Good luck with that all.

Answer 5

Okay. You made a mistake and you're smart enough to be trying to figure a way to handle this instead of ignoring it. Keep your head and although the next few months may be difficult, you'll be okay.

You need to talk to your parents. If you're closer to your mom, try telling her first. It might be easier. I would suggest starting with "Mom, I made a big mistake and I need your help."

I promise you that there are very few moms on the planet who (when faced with a kid admitting a mistake and asking for help)wouldn't immediately feel a surge of protectiveness for their child and want to do whatever they can to help you.

Then explain that you have been lying to this guy and what has happened. I would be frank and honest about what you've done and how you feel about it now. Write a letter saying what you wrote here and have it handy in case you have a hard time talking. Realize she's probably going to be disappointed in your actions and you may even want to address it "I know you're disappointed in me..."

The key here is to ask for help and understanding.

If you and your parents aren't close, do you have an older sister, aunt or other adult family member who can help you talk to your folks?

Speak to your parents before you say anything to your boyfriend.

People are going to tell you that your boyfriend is guilty of a crime and you may feel that you don't want to tell your parents because of what could happen to him. Don't let this stop you. In many places the fact you've been lying to him would mean he won't be prosecuted.

There are those who will tell you to go to him first to protect him or that this is something you can work out together. I am sorry to say that this is highly unlikely. He needs to know how old you are and if truly does NOT know, then he will be upset with you for putting him in this situation. Once he does know, he will not be able to continue to have a sexual relationship with you because then he WILL be committing a crime.

Whatever you do, don't sneak off behind your parents' backs to get an abortion and try to keep this whole situation hidden from them and the boyfriend. Get the whole situation out into the open now and a year from now you won't be facing regrets or the knowledge that you are still lying to your parents.

Courage. You can do this.

Answer 6

I'm sorry that you are in this situation after one mistake.

Because of your age, you need to talk to your parents before you do anything else. They will probably be disappointed, but it sounds like you are generally a great kid, so they shouldn't be too terrible. You have a lot of decisions to make, including whether or not to keep the baby, and they can help a lot more than some college kid can. If you feel you can't talk to your parents alone, I would recommend that you talk to them with an adult friend, like a guidance counselor or a friend's parent. Be sure to tell them that you did lie to your boyfriend, or he could be in huge, huge trouble.

You do need to tell your boyfriend your real age. He needs to know how that, because what you two are doing is illegal, and he could go to jail for having sex with a minor. Whether or not you tell him about the baby depends on whether or not you keep it, honestly.

Also, if you intend on continue to have sex, please use better birth control. Especially condoms!

Good luck with this. I know it is a difficult time!

Answer 7

Well, sweetheart. You should tell him, and maybe even your parents because if you dont get the medical help you need, then you could have some serisous compications. And in the first place, you should realize that you could get this guy into a lot of trouble and it was wrong to lie to him... But that is somthing you are going to have to live with... But like one of the other people said if he loves you then he will stay with you and see you through this... but if I were you I would prepare for a break up. Its not going to be easy and people may look down on you but you have to keep your head up and the best way to try and fix it is to be honest with all the people that you need to be. Starting with the baby's daddy. Being honest may hurt you and many others, but lieing is going to hurt even one so much worse. I suggest the sooner the better because you really need to see a doctor... it can be very dangerous if you dont!!!

Answer 8

Smart people sometimes do some pretty stupid things. But it's kinda late for a scolding. Right now you have to stand up and make some wise choices.
Your first concern needs to be for this young man. Because you lied about your age he could face criminal charges. Their first instinct will probably be to pin it all on the boy. You need to make sure your parents understand that he didn't know he was doing anything wrong.
Next, take care of yourself and this new life. In the midst of seemingly bad situations there is the potential for something wonderful. This is your something wonderful.
Finally, Be strong. The shock will blow over and your family will still love you.

Answer 9

dont worry about getting him in trouble , just focus on going to the doctor and getting ur natal care started that is what is most important...yes u need to tell him, but take an adult with, so u probably need to tell a parent//guardian//close relative soon, like now. im not gonna chastise u for ur actions, because even though you're young, you were of sound mind ( while makin the decisions that u did)...as for the young man, well if charges are pressed, it would be more than right for u to be honest, as this boy didnt even know the truth....i wish u the best of luck sweetie

Answer 10

Well I am sorry that you have to learn the lesson like this, but, he does have every right to know. You not only lied to him, but depending on the state you are living in, you could potentially be signing his card to go to jail. It is called statutory rape and if your parents wanted to they could go after him and he could face jail time, no matter if it was consensual between you and him, you are considered a minor. Which means your parents still get to decided what happens. Maybe go to your a plan parenthood to make sure; they should be able to give you a more definitive test. Or you may just want to bite the bullet and tell your parents so they can take you to the doctor. I hope all works out for you.

Answer 11

I understand that you are young and don't really realize the result of you actions yet...I've been there as well...I am totally against lying to somebody about your age, especially if you are a minor because my boyfriend and i have taken in and helped two girls that said that they were over 21 and they were only 14 and 15 years old...Its not fair that our life has to be put in jeopardy because somebody thinks its 'cool' to lie about your age....this is very very serious and you need to tell all parties involved....i know it doesn't sound like the easiest or best thing to do but its now or never...you can't hide forever...be strong and everything WILL work out OK..it might take a little time but take it from somebody who has screwed up repeatedly and i can assure you that you will be OK....good luck to you and your baby