Freinds for 7 years and married her co-worker 1 year and half ago. she wants alittle more now because its excites her. should I end my freindship.
2006-11-27 03:21:21 · 20 answers · asked by r m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
end it fast...just ignore the passes and make yourself busy...
2006-11-27 03:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by angelic1302 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you value your marriage you will. I also suggest that you avoid seeing this person alone. The backlash and possibility of her telling some phony story to your new wife that gets you into hot water is clearly a danger and a real possibility.
She wants "more because it excites her" is translation to "It turns her on to be fu*king a married man behind her co-workers back". You do not favors for your wife and I assure you if you do so and sleep with her....you're screwed big time.
On another note...if I were you I'd tell your wife. Explain you don't want to have anyhting to do with this woman. Explain why also. better you head this off at the pass than trying to explain it when the woman says you had an affair with her. Preventitive measures now...or damage control later. Your choice.
2006-11-27 11:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are humans too. They have needs like men have needs. If she's a good friend, then keep the frienship but perhaps you should start helping her address her needs like going on double dates etc etc. Introduce some potential prospects for her. You should not meet her alone from now onwards and perhaps bring your wife along to gently send her a message as to where you currently stand in all this. having an affair with a woman who knows your wife is not exactly the smartest thing to do.
If she's just a casual friend, then just ignore her and stay away. easier, less messy and less explainations to your wife.
2006-11-27 11:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by Doraemon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, I think the friendship needs to end because otherwise there is too much potential for people to get hurt. If she takes her marriage vows seriously (which I hope she would), then she really shouldn't be looking for more than friendship with you, no matter how excitingt she might find it. You would not be doing yourself any favors giving in to her... especially if you want to be someone of integrity. Good luck!
2006-11-27 11:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmyq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If she wants to end her marriage, that is up to her. Do you really want to volunteer to be the blame for all of the pain and retribution that can go along with that?
Stay away from anyone who is married. They may regret their actions later, and they may blame you. If their spouse finds out, you will definitely bear the brunt of his/her anger.
This is not a rational place for a free thinking individual to go. Keep your mind focused on something else and graciously decline her invitations.
2006-11-27 11:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by secondwish02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay married stop the friendship now. She sounds like she has no respect for you, your wife or your marriage. She's not worth it. Why ruin your life to give her a thrill?
2006-11-27 11:24:16 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to if you want your marriage to make it. You need to talk to this friend a tell her how you feel. If it doesnt change then end the friendship.
2006-11-27 11:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by J.D. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't quite understand your situation from the way you have worded it - is she the one who married her coworker or are you?
Either way, never mess with someone when you are married or they are. End of story. If it means ending a friendship, so be it.
2006-11-27 11:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by helly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Unless her feiendship means more to you than your marriage. That "a little more" can happen and you will probably lose a friend and a spouse. I've been there and I lost the friend and almost lost my spouse.
2006-11-27 11:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember your vows. Is sex really that important to you to want to end a marriage. Think about what you are doing. I would end it with the friend. No friend ever wants their friend to go to hell. Good luck and GOD bless.
2006-11-27 13:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not end the friendship just let her know where your priorities lie and be firm.
2006-11-27 11:24:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋