I married a guy that i fell in love with about 3 yrs ago .Someone who I thought was going to make a life change for the better but instead has made life a living hell. when I frist meet him he was a hard working man. He would work days in and out but since i've married him that has all changed. now he not able to find work at all. I've always work and can do it all by myself but now i'm afraid because i did say until death do us part through thick and thin. we have no kids and i tried of the baby mom drummer alone with the inlaws i'm wanting to call it off how more can i take?
2006-11-27 03:13:13 · 7 answers · asked by Jennifer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there is always the "til death do us part" but there is also so much that you can put up with. I am divorced and remarried and it was the best thing that I could have done. My ex husband "left" me in ways other than physically leaving. He started drinking very heavily and became very abusive verbally and emotionally. I have a son that I didnt want growing up thinking that was the way that he was to treat his future relationships so I decided that it was best for both of us to leave. I talked to my pastor about it and when I remarried, I did get remarried in my church. But you should only have to deal with so much. If you have thoughts of truely leaving that is usually a sure sign that its at the end anyway! Good Luck
2006-11-27 03:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by dnmhbk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 18 years and I do understand what you are saying because I got to that point that I didn't want it anymore either but had a son that was in my life so I tryied to make it work but it didn't work at all. If you are unhappy then move on.
2006-11-27 03:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so your man did not turn into the guy you thought you could change him into .well grow up little girl and put on your big girl pantys .as change happens both good and bad you should understand that this to well pass .if you dont have it in you to be there for him then like i said pull your pantys on and get out of there the sooner you decide what your going to do the quicker you can get on with your life
2006-11-27 03:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you stated for better or worse, it is a two way street. He has to be able to play his part in the relationship and if you have to do it all alone then you need to be out on your own. Men think that women need them for everything and there are men out there that will contribute.
2006-11-27 03:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by Sandie/Patrick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not grow to love him. You may learn to cope and tolerate him but you both deserve more than that.
I would try to talk to him about how you feel and tell him you don't feel he is doing his part.
Depending on his reaction, I would start thinking of finding a divorce attorney.
2006-11-27 03:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by snippers72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need him to help you as you cannot do it all by yourself and have a quality life.
2006-11-27 03:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um..."Till death do us part" doesn't only mean physical death.
If it helps, try this..."Till death (of our love) do us part"
It doesn't make any sense if you are not happy.
2006-11-27 03:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋