I have been with my boyfriend for two years plus and we have had the discussion about marriage and children. I know that he loves me and wants to be with me, but does he want to marry me. We walked by a jewelry store and the reaction that I got from him was unexpected......meaning that is was a good one. But my question is who do you know when a guy wants to spend the rest of his life with you?
2006-11-27 03:12:15 · 18 answers · asked by Baby J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my opinion, you should pop the question yourself. That'll surprise the hell out of him! Good Luck.
2006-11-27 03:17:29 · answer #1 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a way, it is actually a good sign that a guy takes a while to make a commitment - it tells me at least he might be serious about his commitments.
Yet, when you've been together for two years now and are open to discussing a lot of different things, discussing where each one is in terms of "readiness" and "willingness" to make the commitment is a must. I don't see any harm in you bringing up the conversation with him. Asking him whether or not he is even thinking marriage, and if he is, what may be some concerns or burning questions he might have.
It might be just a bit easier for him to open-up if you told him how much you appreciate his presence in your life. Make sure you bring this conversation up when both of you have the time in privacy. And it will definitely help him to share your thoughts and values of what's in a marriage and how you see it.
2006-11-27 11:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweetheart thats the thing about love you can never understand it. but if he loves you shouldnt even have to ask. its something you should already know. by the way he treats and acts around you. think about it this if you had nothin i meaan you were broke poor and homless do u think he would still love and be without being embaressed ? you have you have to be with someone who love u for you not when u buy a new outfit and wear make up iF u cant say yesto that question without thinking about it then u know the answer to ur question. if you u love someone u dont even have to think or ask you should already feel it and know its there.if its sometimes then you dont have his heart 100% yet. so talk to him tell him how you feel and why you feel that why, communcate because if your thinking about getting married you have to be ABLE TO TALK ABOUT ANYTHING. look him in the eyes and let him know how you feel. because some guys do thing and they dont even know thats borthering you until you tell (just how guys are they dont mean too) but guys are not as emotional as females. we have PMS and were sensitive they have sport,football and the gym! see the difference. so dont give up on him i was in the same situation with my bf(enggaged) just talk to him tell him how you feel let him know so you can go throught it together instead of being alone on the subject, i bet he wont even know you felt that way. but most of the time there scared too. marriage is a big step and you'll have to get through it together not alone. so communicate, dont be scared to tell him the truth its the only way you'll feel better. its not like he going to kill if you tell him how you feel!
2006-11-27 11:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by butta77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see why you need to married to spend the rest of your life with someone. With divorce rates so high, I would avoid marriage if I were you.
2006-11-27 11:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by iturnrocks 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That a hard question and it is a big step for a man for the rest of his life that what scare a man. but it up to him but just take your time
2006-11-27 11:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by cave_21man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't girls get it? Guys are not looking for someone to spend the rest of their life with? That's just too weird. Yeah, we like girls and we like having someone to be with, but it's not like a life of death situation. Why do girls always want a guy to commit his life to them? That's just way to much to ask.
2006-11-27 11:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes usually you do. Maybe he is planning on asking you at Christmas. What a great Present I say. I would love that as a Christmas present.
2006-11-27 11:15:54 · answer #7 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best love is spontanious love if you ask me. He is delaying for a reason. Straight out ask him. Don't sit there and wait..Its your life too.
Love is suppose to be a rush rush feeling..and if he doesn't have it...then you are just babysitting.
2006-11-27 11:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i never want to get married. and maybe he doesn't for reasons like he sees issues with him family and marriage and sees people getting hurt maybe he don't want to get hurt in the end. just ask
2006-11-27 12:13:00 · answer #9 · answered by brandon_fargerson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You KNOW when he shows you and tell you. By the sound of your story... Sounds like a proposal may be imminent!
2006-11-27 11:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Saffire♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋