Have you ever left someone you still love? Someone you still love as much as the day you met them?
I am, or at least I need to leave my fiance. He has done nothing but impact my life negatively and it's time to cut my losses and get out. Have you ever found it in yourself to leave someone you love? Whats your story and how did you do it. And if so... without me he has nothing. He is going to loose everything he has... but I won't. How do I live with that?
2006-11-27 03:05:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes,i did many years back,was in love with this guy since i was 15,he was my first love.my world revolved around him,until one day i discovered he made another woman pregnant,and already had another child from her.said he doesn't love her,will marry me ,not her.this all occured before we became ON.i can't bear take him away from this woman who had 2 kids from him.the rest is history,i moved on,but still thinking what would have been if i married him.
2006-11-27 07:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by dra shelley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and done that. Lived with a guy I loved as well as his 2 kids for 3 years. Between his lying, cheating, negativitiy and just plain being a jerk, I finally had enough. If it weren't for his 2 kids, I'd have left him a long time before that. I went to our house one day, and he was there alone for the first time in 3 years, so I went in and explained to him that although I loved him, life was too short for me to live in pain and crying myself to sleep. He was angry, of course, but over time he finally realized that I was indeed right to get out. He called me 2 years after the break-up to apologize.
2006-11-27 03:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently had to end a bad relationship. I still love the man he took me on trips we had a lot in common spent time together and had so much fun together. He was successful, good looking and we were perfect in every way. With that said he was doing drugs and was very mean to me when he was high. He would break up with me and go to clubs pick up other women and then call me the next day telling me he loved me. I was addicted to him it was an up and down roller coaster. finally we broke up and he was about to go out of the country for a month. I saw him before he left and spent the last 3 days with him he promised things would be different when he came back but I knew they wouldn't. He called me 3 times while he was out of town but I just knew it was over. I loved him so much but he would never be mine I couldn't trust him and he was making my life a wreck. It was hard but I had to swallow it and just end it. I still love him but if he truly loved me he wouldn't have treated me so badly. He texted me on Thanksgiving and I didn't respond you can't you have to move on. It is hard but sometimes you have to make the right decisions because this is your life and no one elses you have to think of you first.
2006-11-27 03:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done this twice. Both men were extremely bad for me and leaving them was the best decision I could have made for myself. The first one was cheating on me, lying to me, and ended up getting the girl he was cheating on me with pregnant. I broke up with him over the phone. The second one was an alcoholic and verbally/mentally abusive. We were living together and I was primarily paying the bills. I realized I had lost interest in the relationship when I started going out a lot to a club with a friend I made from work. He started accusing me of cheating on him (which I wasn't). I saw this as an out, so I said that I wasn't willing to stop going. He told me if that was the case, I can forget about a relationship, so I said OK! and packed my things. He followed me, left me pages of poetry on my car, even tried to kill himself. He also had practically nothing when I left him, but I knew I had to put my feelings of sympathy away and take care of myself.
In the end, YOU have to take care of yourself! If this man is bad for you, you have to put your emotional feelings for him aside and remember that you have to do what's right for YOU. I've had a few boyfriends that ended up with practically nothing when I left them, but these people are grown, they can take care of themselves. And if they can't, all the more reason you shouldn't be with them! I know it's going to be hard, but it's better to risk hurting this guy by doing what's healthy for yourslef than to stay in an unhealthy relationship just because you feel sorry for him! I now have a wonderful life with a man who loves and respects me and doesn't rely on me to put all the bills in my name, pay the car note, etc. You have a great life ahead of you, you just need to do some of the difficult things it takes to get there. Good luck with that, all the best to you!
2006-11-27 03:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes!!! i have been in the exact same situation. i was with "him" for 6 years and for those six years he did nothing but bring me down. i thought we would end up getting married and having a family and never thought about breaking up with him. then one day i woke up and i knew that i needed to end it with him. it was the saddest, most awful day of my life. he looked so stunned when i took my things out of the house. i cried so hard in him arms for about 5 mins, not wanting to let go. then i gave him a kiss and told him i loved him... and that was it.
as for you... i must tell you that you are making the right choice but after you do it you will be questioning yourself. it has been almost a year and a half now and i still feel sick just thinking about it. so good luck!
2006-11-27 03:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
As for your current problem, I say: leave him and move on. Life is short, dont waste it for negative partners.
2006-11-27 03:10:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I'm in love, but she's not good for me, so I left her.
2006-11-27 03:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him
2006-11-27 03:07:20 · answer #8 · answered by Precious J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋