I think we are like mirrors, what we project comes back to us. Am I right?

Question

My life changed when I thought about what I projected to people, ( most of it negative) as soon as I turned it around life just seemed to get better.

Answer 1

I hope not, I'm surrounded by idiots.

Answer 2

You've changed your attitude and things are going great. I get what I give, so to get good I give good. Now that's all fine. You have to keep one thing in mind though, what happens when it hits the fan? Bad things happen, that's just life. Does your new theory fall apart or will you be able to adjust to the low time in your life? The mirror theory may get a bit weak here. But, if you can believe that having a positive attitude, which is what I would be tempted to call it, will carry you through, you'll be able to pick yourself up and keep going. A positive attitude can make a huge difference in your life, also how others perceive you will change to a certain extent. And positive attitude is something you can reinforce even when things get tough. So I think you're concept is a good one, I would just consider altering the mirror comparison as that would suggest that only good things can come to you as long as you project goodness. You can be as happy as a lark and still get hit by a truck, with a positive attitude you may be able to cope with it. It's just a different image really.
These are just my thoughts, don't go pitching it out if you can't see my angle.

Answer 3

Freud postulated this idea in the defense mechanism he called projection. Freud, being a true pessimist, postulated that we project our wishes, fears, aggressions, and sexual conflicts onto others without recognizing that these projections are actually within ourselves. For instance, "My mother hates me" is really the unacknowledged, "I hate my mother".

I am not a fan of Freud (though I will acknowledge that he had a great mind), and I am a bit more optimisitc about human nature. That said, yes, I think we do project onto others, and not just the unconscious wishes, fears, and drives but also our conscious wishes and fears. If you believe yourself to be an honest person, do you not assume that others you are dealing with are also honest (unless there is some evidence to the contrary)? If you are interested in someone romantically, do you not look for the slightest hint that s/he may be interested, too? Perhaps even taking something benign, like a smile, to be indicative of interest--when in fact, it is your interest that is being projected onto the other person.

Good question--thanks for asking and all the best to you :-)

Answer 4

Many of the great thinkers have postulated ideas similar to yours. Its often about how and what you think, even how you speak to yourself. If you're into this now there are tons of great authors to check out. Just a couple: Wayne Dyer, Napolean Hill, Esther and Jerry Hicks, Joel Osteen, anything on Neurolinguistic Programming(NLP). Even some popular relgious books are similar. Good luck in your endeavors.

Answer 5

I think that as a relationship develops between people the "mirror" effect becomes less and less, but at first a person does reflect back the things that they think the other wants to see or hear.

Answer 6

Very simplfied quantum physics (in my limited understanding) says that everything is connected down at the very base level (the energy particles that everything is made of) and that like attracts like.
So...if you're putting out good stuff, good stuff happens. If you're putting out bad stuff - which includes fears of bad stuff - bad stuff happens.
In my personal experience and perception, this actually works. It's not easy to conciously always put out good stuff, but when I really work on it I am always amazed at what comes back to me.
Best wishes!

Answer 7

Yes, read this little book; "As a man thinketh" by James Allen ; Your environment is but your looking glass. Karma,actions in thought,word or deed,determine your condition in life & your destiny.

Answer 8

You developed a positive attitude when dealing with things? I think that helps enourmously. But if you mean if you do good things then good things will happen to you, I don't think so because I've seen bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people.

Answer 9

Is that like karma? Or like, as some people say "You reap what you sow" kind of thing? Do onto others what you want others to do onto you. Hmm...

Answer 10

if u think of just one phenomenon u can come up with a BILLION explanations...it doesnt matter...u cant value it only because it explains this particular phenomenon...i cant say ure wong because i can draw the line anywhere...all i can say is that its not very useful

Answer 11

Glow worm philosophy.

nice.