My husband and I have been married for 5 months. We were both vigins. We are not experienced and now it is starting to become boring. I need fun ideas and positions!!!! I blow and suck but it isnt fun!
2006-11-27 02:34:49 · 28 answers · asked by Isabella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lol. let him put it in the butt. Also try the shocker!
2006-11-27 02:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Take a scenic drive somewhere and get out for a little bit. During the car ride talk about some of the things that get you excited and try to direct the conversation towards sex. It's rather easy to talk about in a car, even if you're shy, because you are both facing forward and not forced to feel awkward looking at eachother, and the scenery is constantly changing. Trust me it's the easiest way to talk about this stuff. But the best part is by talking about it you both can't wait to get home and rip each others clothes off. The sex is really good because of the anticipation the whole ride home and the feeling of being spontaneous the second you walk in that door... don't even make your way to the bedroom right away, grab the first counter or table or floor and have fun!
2006-11-27 02:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you all aren't talking to each other about what each others likes and dislikes are then sex will continue to feel routine. Explore each others body. If your the only one going down all the time then I'd be Board too. Have him go down and tell him what is feeling good and what isn't.Since you all were virgins before this is a time to explore each other. As long as the two of you are open and honest with each other. Sex will get better, but it definitely takes being 100% comfortable and knowing your own body. Different women like different things. Watch some porn, theirs all kinds, if you see something you like remember it, then play it out later on when you all are having sex. Don't always wait for him to be creative it takes both of you. But definitely learn your body. If theirs a certain way that you like to be touched show him, most women get lots of enjoyment when the clitoris is being stimulated during sex have him play with it or rub it when going down or during sex. If you all aren't talking to each other its just going to go down hill from here. Try using a pillow during missionary position. Place the pillow under your lower back to butt. It gives you deeper penetration and and if he grinds more the pumps, you will definitely enjoy it more. Your husband has to learn your body and he won't be able to figure it out if hes not getting any feedback. The more experienced you are the better it gets! Good Luck!
2006-11-27 02:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Vatsayayana says in his prologue to the book "Kama Sutra", arousal is the most fundamental elements of excitement in sex. Many of the suggestions you have here - porn movies, toys, even inviting a third member - are all about arousal.
Once you set aside being conscious about performing sex and start focusing on having fun - not just giving - but having fun, it opens up a whole different world of fun.
Some fundamentals of paying attention to each other's moods, desires, listening to each other's body-language, taking the time, always adding a small little element of surprise, constantly being playful, extending your foreplay, and doing the things you've done just a little differently each time.
What I might say might sound "duh, what's so great about this?". But how often the simplest of things are usually ignored. Kissing for instance. Kissing, touching, and rubs .... all used together ....... has the incredible power of arousing you to great heights each and every time. Just make sure there's a variety to what you do each time.
My general view is "patience" and "being playful" and "adding a variety" are always key to having wild and passionate sex. Everything else is a function of how comfortable you are - toys, porn, etc. After a while even the toys and porn get boring too.
Just don't worry about sex not being fun and romantic. Even if you guys have passionate sex once or twice a week make sure it is done well and leaves you wanting for more :-)
2006-11-27 02:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is always more exciting when you feel as though you are not supposed to be doing it. Find somewhere that there is a little risk of getting caught. It will always be more passionate.
Also, visiting different sex stores together is always fun. Go in with an open mind, and purchase together different oils, treats, games, books, movies, toys, etc. There are so many different books with positions and techniques, and many toys and types of sex furniture that can accentuate the experience.
Visiting a large sex store is a perfect way to spice up the relationship.
Enjoy!
2006-11-27 02:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by Marisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you blow and suck... good... what does he do? Right, wrong, or indifferent, it seems that sex being good or bad is often on the man's shoulders. Does he also think things are getting boring? What is your schedule like? When my wife and I were first married, I was working a lot of over time. Sex was usually pretty one sided, but I didn't have a lot of time to worry about her needs in bed. We had about two waking hours together when we weren't eating a day. It wasn't always the best for her, and when she pointed out that spending time with me was more important than money, I started turning down over time and was able to make it better for her.
That said, there are things you can do to take charge of the situation. Talk to him about what you wish he would do. Talk to your married female friends about what they do to keep things interesting. Put on a strip tease for him. Go shopping together and pick out cloths to strip each other out of. Talk about each other's fantasies, both sexual and non-sexual. Shower together before and after sex. Inturrupt him when he's doing something that's not very important and see if you can seduce him.
2006-11-27 03:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Wild and romantic are two different things. After 5 months the excitement of novelty might be toning down but the experience should never be 'boring'. Try tenderness, touching without sex, different settings, etc. Just play without expectation and relax about it.
2006-11-27 02:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by Cirric 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I hate to say this if you only been having sex for 5 months and you are bored then you and him are in trouble because I have been having sex for30 years and I can't wait till the next time. There are a lot of things you can do and you say you suck and all that but what about him he needs to do it on his end and he just do not lick you on your outside of your lips he needs to lick your C,L,I,T and do it easy and lick down to your all the way and lick everything and have him put a finger inside of you while he is licking you and suck on your C,L,I,T but soft not hard and then you have and Orgasm and then you let him in you and have him do it many time. . You should rent a dirty movie one so you can learn more and how to do some other thing and the other it is fun.
2006-11-27 02:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be trying too hard. Sex is adult playtime. Don't force it. Make games out of it. Buy a "Fantasy Coupon" book for starters. There are plenty of books out there that address keeping sex hot.
Since both of you were virgins, get some ideas from friends that have been married many years. They will have plenty of suggestions.
2006-11-27 03:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by Dadofthree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor you. That sounds terrible. Better experience a broad range of situations to understand what you like and what turns you on. I'd invite a swinging couple over for the two of you to watch and then maybe jump in. You'll get the idea of what unbridled passion can be. Let those panties fly and enjoy!
2006-11-27 02:40:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep blowing and sicking for one. He likes that.
But what is he doing for you? Anything? Watch some movies together or get some toys. Try roll playing. What are your fantasies? Tell him. Ask him what his are? Try it.
It doesn't have to be in bed all the time. What about the kitchen? Or living room? Just make sure the curtains are closed.
2006-11-27 02:38:11 · answer #11 · answered by tipper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋