Ok, so I broke with my boyfriend on Thanksgiving Day because weeks of thinking he was married or attached came to a blow-up with me. I thought he was married because he lives in a different city and we never go to his house, we always hang out at my house. I wanted to spend thanksgiving with him he never picked up his phone. He wear a wedding band claiming that the girl he was supposed to marry 5 years ago died and that he really loved her and wears that band in rememberance of her. When he spends the night he leaves my house at 5:30am claiming to have be at work. I know, I know.. it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, it's a freaking duck. I've just had to listen to 50 plus tearful messages on my phone, dozens of flowers. It's really sweet but I'd rather be alone than the other woman. Your advice is greatly appreciated. I feel like I already know my answer just by reading what I typed.
2006-11-27 02:19:25 · 7 answers · asked by sweet_journey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank You All for GREAT Advice!!
2006-11-27 02:42:10 · update #1
Smart move. Your duck analogy is correct. More like "Something is rotten in Denmark". His failure to take you to his place, the wedding ring, the leaving early in the morning and the failure to get together on Thanksgiving pretty much cinches it.
I suspect my dear you've been bamboozled. For that I'm sorry. Some guys are thoughtless pricks who will go to any extremes to get laid. To be quite honest with you, I can't imagine how any man could possibly manage to keep up appearences with a wife and a mistress, keeping them both in the dark about one another.
Rather than take this further and see if he is in fact married or even telling his spouse (if you ever find out) I would toss in the towel and chalk it up as a life's experience.
You're not wrong in suspecting this and you're equally as smart for coming to the conclusion you have. The very best of luck to you and to hell with him. He's a user and a liar. Who needs one of those in their lives right?
2006-11-27 02:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will continue to cry and pout so long as you put up with it. I am the most gullable person, but this guy is full of crap. He is married and is doing a bad job about covering it up. I do feel for you, we have all been there where we truely want the other person to be telling the truth. Unfortunately, we need to sifer though the bull crap. Good luck and I pray you finally meet someone who is honest and doesn't have to lie to you. GOD bless you.
2006-11-27 06:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the gut.
How sweet are his overtures if you know he is just trying to manipulate you?
If you are not 100% sure, investigate a little, without being a stalker or being obsessed. Check marriage records, a home address, surprise him at work for lunch--see how that goes over. However, if you don't trust the guy now, I'm not sure it's worth your time and energy to do anything.
2006-11-27 02:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by bsamy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How previous are you returned? First issues... you 2 have toddlers mutually. What ever you do think of of the toddlers. Secondly, you began out asserting you and your boyfriend broke up, if so why are you having intercourse with him? quite if he's been along with his ex already and you experience like he's taken care of you like ****? right here is the way you come back at him... do not enable him the time of day. Do what's precise for the toddlers yet it somewhat is it. And maximum heavily do not... I repeat do not, provide him any intercourse.
2016-10-13 05:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just going to say the same thing....sound like you already answered this one. You are better off without someone like that anyway. You need someone who is going to be honest and who is not going to play games with you....you deserve better girl! Sit him down maybe and let him know how you feel. If he gets nervous when talking about it then you'll have the answer to your question right in front of you. Good luck with everything.....i wish you the best! *hugz*
2006-11-27 02:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by Andrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sucker you are letting your fears control you .if he has a wedding ring on then in his heart he is married and no matter if it is to a dead girl or living your the other woman .he must give up the past for your future .
2006-11-27 03:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worse part of your story is that you bought his song and dance. Smart move.
2006-11-27 02:50:18 · answer #7 · answered by gozedown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋