The party will be all girls. They are a pretty good group, honour students, but they are at that experimental age. They want to watch movies and play trivia games.
2006-11-27 02:08:19 · 54 answers · asked by grapeshenry 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
OMG NO! I have Three "good" kids between 24 and 16 and let me tell you...no matter how good a child is, when the cat's away...the mouse will play. Dont underestimate the power of peer pressure and group influence either. Let's not forget liabilty either. What if someone is injured? Would the other parents be approving? It's a bad idea all the way around.
2006-11-27 02:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sean 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no, no, no! Red flag! This doesn’t sound like a good idea to me! While I was growing up (and I’m only 23 now) no friends were allowed in the house if mom or dad weren’t there. It wasn’t because my parents didn’t trust me, it was because you can’t really predict what other teens will do when there isn’t adult supervision. The party you’re suggesting sounds innocent enough, and it’s completely probably nothing will happen. It’s just that teens and young kids are particularly subjectable to peer pressure, and even the nicest kids and teens with the purest intentions can be talked into breaking house rules or doing something they might regret later. You, as a parent, don’t need to be at the party just be somewhere in the house, peek in on how things are going every once in a while or something while drawing little attention to yourself. That’s all that you should need to do, especially if said teenager would be embarrassed by your presence (which I think is dumb, but hey, some teens are like that).
2006-11-27 02:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by icarus_imbued 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that the group will follow the set policies that you set up go for it.
But I'd recommend setting up some clear guidelines on what is acceptable and what is not, and limiting the amount of time they can be totally unsupervised. How about a compromise? You will be there for the first and last part of the party?
They may be very willing to follow the rules, but what happens if the boys find out about an all-girl party??? All it would take is one boy-crazy teen girl there to talk the others into allowing the boys over.
So, you know the girls better than we do. Do you feel that the combination of these girls are trustworthy?
2006-11-27 02:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by Searcher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't.
I'd definitely have an adult around. They don't have to be hovering like a den mother/father or a gestapo or anything, but just check in with the gang every once in awhile. Just "be there".
It's definitely not a good idea, honor students or not, to leave teenagers alone at home for a party.
(How many stories have you heard about "the honor student that took the wrong path"...etc. Just because they're decent kids doesn't mean there's not going to be temptation or bad influences. All it takes is one person to bring in a "bad seed" or "illicit substance" to drag more folks down....)
Better safe than sorry - definitely a good idea to have an adult presence in the house for the party....
2006-11-27 02:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by Lexie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 or less, yes, but let her know you will be calling to check up, and once they are there, they should not be allowed to leave, if any of the girls have a car. More than 9, stay home. And you should check with the other parents to make sure it is OK with them. And lock up all the booze where they can't get to it. And you should at least be there until they have all arrived, and don't be gone all night, be home by midnight, but don't tell them an exact time you will be home - keep them guessing.
We did this and it worked out fine with our daughter and her friends, but we knew them all, and we live way out where they can go outside and make some noise and there are no neighbors to bother and no boys could just walk over. listen to your instincts.
2006-11-27 02:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by boonietech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to say no....why? Some of the "wildest" kids I know are honour students. An honour student in my older sons class celebrated his friends 16th birthday at a house party...ended up in hospital with alcohol poisoning and a smashed in face.
A girl my daughter used to hang out with, honour student, got caught shop lifting, another decided to try and play chicken with a transit train (lucky she wasn't harmed). Another girl, honour as well and is in all Gifted courses, seems to change into this wild eyed, will do anything type child when she isn't near her parents.
So, again...I'd have to say no...honour students are just as likely to want to let of steam...but some of them (just like average kids) go a little too far...better safe than sorry I think. Besides, when they are in your home, you are responsible for them...
The only other suggestion is to check with the parents and see what they all think and go by the concensus.
2006-11-27 02:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it somewhat is a suckish occasion, no offense. If u do not enable ur daughter play with human beings exterior of ur relatives, then she would be in a position to enhance as much as substitute right into a crab (she'll by no ability choose to bypass out and meet new human beings). U would desire to have a drink and relax. U r too paranoid. additionally, ur daughter should not be obliged to have "play dates" together with her mom! Plus, ur youngster could be waiting to have candy sometime or yet another. isn't ur youngster warm interior the summertime if she would not positioned on shorts? additionally, write on the invitation that the toddlers purchase her "academic video games". All in all, u choose a drink and throw ur daughter a occasion. U r loopy, guy. relax and enable her stay her 6 year previous life. P.S.- If u do not purchase cookies or candy for the occasion, the toddlers will by no ability play with ur daughter or come over ur abode returned. P.P.S- Her cousins do not would desire to c her 24/7. provide her some area and butt out, woman! P.P.P.S.- If u make the toddlers take a snooze, they'll disobey and make u disillusioned. R u loopy, woman? pay attention to particularly everyone else, u r a wack interest. Get a phychologist!
2016-10-13 05:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why it should matter that you are home. If all the girls want to do is watch movies and play trivia games your presence will not affect their plans. I don't believe that I would leave them alone, maybe just stay out of sight and if you hear anything that sounds suspicious make an excuse to check on them.
2006-11-27 02:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough eh, i think giving a 16 year the responsibility of behaving, is a brave risk, but a step closer in gaining her respect. It depends on your relationship with her though, and what kind of a person she is, and what friends she has, and how strong she is. My mom and i had a great relationship, she was there at my parties, and she hung out with my friends, but then again, my mom gave me plenty of freedom, and because of that i didnt want to disappoint her, i told her everything, and she always knew what i was doing. Kids are kids, they'll always find otherways of doing what they want, with or without you, so at least give her the choice, i believe respect encourages good behaviour. but hey, everyone is different... see it as a test, be there when it starts, and come back later, make sure she knows where you'll be (visiting close by :) and she has all the necessary phone numbers handy.
2006-11-27 02:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by poxyboggards 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea go ahead... just stay close to home. Girls will be Girls and you have to learn your not goin to be able to watch over your daughter all the time. Just lay down the ground rules and explain the punishment for breaking those rules. Plus this is a good way to see if your daughter really respects you. and heck, if your daughters gonna try something wouldn't u rather her do it in your house instead of some strangers....?
-ash
2006-11-27 02:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by Ash420Granito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋