My husband and me had a baby 8 months ago. well 4 months ago he went from a great husband to lying cheating not coming home husband. he told me he needed space and moved out. On thanksgiving he got really sick and called me and wanted me to come take care of him. then he decided he wanted me to
move back in and he wanted to make things work. finally he told me that he was cheating on me and he wont do it again because he loves me and the only person he could think about when he was sick was me. we have been married for 8 years do you guys think it is worth it to try to work things out and do you think that we can, it really hurt me and I am still trying to forgive him.
2006-11-27 01:48:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Next time he gets sick, tell him to call his girlfriend. He's a waste of your time.
Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater.
Dump this fool and find someone who loves and respects you!
2006-11-27 01:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl please, this man told you his wife, he needs space, he should have thought about that before he got married, I understand that you have a baby by him , but so what, he wasn't thinking about the baby when he needed space, I myself would say move on, once a cheater always a cheater, he seems to me as if he wants his cake and ice cream too, but it shouldn't work that way, if you love your husband,and you think that he want do it again, then be with him, but if you have any doubt then I would think real hard before I take him back. Good Luck to you.
2006-11-27 09:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't.
This episode has shown him that you are "convenient". You are there when he needs you but I doubt he will need you for long. Of course you were the only person he could think about because you were the only person that would help him out.
He sure as heck didn't think about you all the time he was cheating. He thought only about himself.
He will probably do the same thing again and expect that you will be waiting with open arms.
2006-11-27 09:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by snippers72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should work things out. having a baby is a stressful time and sometimes people don't handle stress very well and do stupid things like cheat. has he been good for 8 years? if so, give him that second chance. has he had a history of being a jerk for 8 years? then take the baby and move on...
2006-11-27 09:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by _ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. It depends on how you feel and what you want. Some people say "once a cheater, always a cheater," but that's not always true. Sometimes it takes something drastic to happen for people to realize what theyre jeopardizing. Has he ever cheated before?...Do you think that you can trust him again?...If you can forgive and forget, then it might work. Good luck to you.
2006-11-27 09:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by BEAUTIFUL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this man is not worth keeping. He has and will cheat again sorry. Once the trust is gone you will never be able to recapture the closeness you have had in the past. If you can accept the fact that he cheats and live with it then by all means go back other wise move on..........
2006-11-27 09:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by michele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the only one that can make that decision. if you decide to stay you have to be willing to move forward and not look back on what happened but look forward to what can happen. you have to be ready to forgive and not feel forced or pressured to forgive and move on. it has to be on your time. if you think that your relationship has a chance and that you may still love him and in your heart you think that it can work then the two of you need to sit down and figure out how to make it right. things are not going to change over nite but in due time it could work.
2006-11-27 11:26:58 · answer #7 · answered by Machelle G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the first thing you have to consider is the fact that he did it once, whats to say he wont do it again. second everyone makes mistakes, so either Way its your opinion whether or not he deserves another chance. when you sit down and think what you should do, try to think of reasons why he might of done it, and work your Way from that.
Good Luck...
2006-11-27 09:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by latinkid7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well here I go again. There is never an excuse to cheat. Since he did, and you apparently love him, if you think that you can get over the fact that he was naked in a bed with another woman, huggin', kissin', touchin', and pleasin' her, I say go for it. Remember this one thing, the tool that you thought was exclusively yours, was used to weed another woman's garden!
2006-11-27 10:01:29 · answer #9 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this don't sound unexpected. You must known your man was this type of guy before you had the child.
You now have to think about the future of the both of you!
Forgive or build a future with the man your with, it's your CHOICE!
2006-11-27 10:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by honker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋