I have always openly and willingly given my husband sex any time he wanted, but now I wonder if I should hold back sometimes. I think men may want you more if it's not always available to them like I am to him. He takes it for granted and often doesn't act like he wants me at all. I know a lot of wives hold back sometimes and that way when the husband gets it, he enjoys and appreciates it more. I don't want to use sex as a favor, but at the same time, I want things to be exciting again. Most men love a chase, right?
2006-11-27 01:27:24 · 21 answers · asked by mrsleslie_lady 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think many people are misunderstanding. My husband DOES NOT want sex very often and I am CRAWLING the walls wanting it. So I was thinking if I hold back, maybe he will want me more.
2006-11-27 01:56:49 · update #1
if it aint broke, dont fix it... why play games w/ your husband? only causes probs
the way to get him to appreciate you more is not via witholding sex. he might end up having less appreciation for you.... and even if he does have more, it's false appreciation bc you are just manipulating things.
2006-11-27 01:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want sex more so you think holding back will work?
Kind of a convoluted path don't you think?
How about use it or lose it?
Maybe you should try initiating more often. Many times guys just get tired of being the one to have to be in charge ALL the time.It is fully possible he is mirroring the attitude he gets from you. ask yourself when the last time you went to him and HAD to have it.
Yes you give in, where's that at? You want desire show him some.
You are responsible for your own sexuality. get to work.
2006-11-27 02:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That isn't sex, it's rape. Anyone who says otherwise is a fool. Any man who would HURT his woman and not care is hateful and cruel. Sex is supposed to be an act of love between two people, rough sex is great as long as BOTH parties are enjoying it, obviously this is not the case here. What is the rest of your relationship like? Is he a thoughtless jerk, a controlling angry abuser, or what? Or is he kind, loving, affectionate and helpful? You two need to have a serious talk. He needs to understand that he is hurting you and that you cannot enjoy sex if it is careless and painful. If he won't listen to you, seek counseling/therapy preferably with him but alone if need be. Best wishes to you.
2016-03-12 23:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love it if my husband wants more sex! Why are you holding back? There's so many ways to spice up the bedroom and have a good time and keep him wanting more ... holding back only frustrates him and is really not healthy.
2006-11-27 01:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by Charlotte 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't hold back with your husband... it IS your job as a wife to keep him happy. If you hold back he'll just go elsewhere. If the only thing thats missing is excitement then don't punish him...maybe he is bored! Buy some toys or something or try wearing new lingerie. Don't punish HIM just because it's boring now. You can try telling him what you want him to do to please you... guys like pleasing their woman so don't be shy.. don't hold sex from him...thats just mean! good luck!
2006-11-27 01:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think holding back is good. It should keep them wanting more of you. Sometimes when it is available, you get too used to it and it becomes a habit. I would hold sex back and then when I finally gave in, he would ravish me, which is what I wanted!
2006-11-27 02:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am the same as you. I believe in being there for your man when he wants it. Instead of holding back to get his appreciation spice things up. Do something different and raunchy that will blow his mind. He'll definitely appreciate that!
2006-11-27 01:36:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thts why men marry is to have sex when they want.Its a given.Although I do think men get lazy on foreplay after marriage on the romance ect.It is just a normal thing .I wouldnt hold back just u adjust to his way.Be glad he wants it all the time alot of men when they get older will slow down and u will want it more so go for it now! Im sure thts why they call it a poke! lol!.......
2006-11-27 01:51:28 · answer #8 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes...it's true that most men love the chase....but not husbands! They feel they have "earned" the right to have you anytime! I know how that must sound...but I'm afraid it's true! Manipulating your husband with the refusal of sex is just wrong......
2006-11-27 01:37:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't do that. He may go looking else where. If you want more excitement, then look me up.lol my wife does not give me enough sex, but then I am 49...lol
2006-11-27 01:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by bob s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋