then why do we [females] still feel like its noy enough and want more and still find it hard to beleive....and always assume the worst and bascially are paranoid....
2006-11-27 01:27:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Saying I love you and actually meaning it and being loyal and true are so different! Love can mean a variety of things to different people. A true commitment is a declaration of love, and manifests itself in ways other than just simple words. I don't think we assume the worst, I just think we are living in reality and need assurance that we will be loved and cared for.
2006-11-27 01:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words are cheap and cost the person nothing to say the words you want to hear. I think the reason people always assume the worst and are paranoid(are you really paranoid, if there is something to fear?) is that experience has taught us to take declarations of love with a grain of salt. Only time will tell if the person is truly in love with you. If they treat you fairly and are trustworthy in other situations, you may have found someone that means what he(she) says. ((Doubtful!))
2006-11-27 09:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by breaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically it's fear. How many times have u heard those words from someone in your past and thought it was going to last forever and then boom they leave u. Eventually it gets to the point where confirming words of love and comittment are hard to believe for some people. I also think the more u care about the person the more fear u have of losing them. Show her more with actions then words alone. Talk alot about the future and things u want to do with her, it lets the person see that u are planning for her to be with u in the future rather than just the present.
2006-11-27 10:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the way that "I love you" is said. If it is lacking in sincerity it can be hard to beleive.
As for assuming the worst, that depends on the person. If you have been burned before it is quite natural to be more cautious in the future.
2006-11-27 09:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by Vanguard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find women are very insecure when it comes to there relationships. My ex- girlfriend used to give me hell if I even glimpsed at another women. She would say "do you want to date her to now, am I not attractive to you anymore". I used to get very upset with her because, I knew how I felt about her. I loved her and everything about her, but her possessiveness and insecurities is what really broke the friendship. I miss her, but I can't live like that. Look it is nice to hear that your girl gets jealous. It shows she loves, but being overly jealous and aggressive at the same time(WARDON) can become a little much.
The best thing you can do is ignore him, let him look at the end of the day he knows where he belongs.
2006-11-27 09:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying it and showing it are the differents in your paranoid feelings. I would feel that way iff the only thing I had was a few words to hold on to.
2006-11-27 09:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by ranchforman57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk is cheap.. if you truly love some then yo have no need to always them. Your actions should be speak volumes. We are not paranoid about our relationships, sometimes a woman may not feel like her partner is serious and feels she needs to be his welcome mat to keep him. If you have to be that way then you are better off not having that relationship. it's a two way street, if you are doing all the work then its not a relationship..
2006-11-27 10:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think its fair to stereotype females and say that we don't think that its not enough because i am content with those 3 little words and i have complete faith in my love and if she has doubts...does she really feel the same way 100% of the time???
2006-11-27 09:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋