I've known my friend for like 10 yrs. I feel she doesn't respect me though.
For example, I'll be talking to her on the phone and she'll tell me she'll call me right back. She ends up calling me like two weeks later. This has happened several times.
Another time, she told me she was coming to see me but she never showed up or called.
Last month, I asked her if I could come to her house and she was like "I'll call you later to let you know what time you can come." Of course she didn't call me until about 2 or 3 wks later. When I confronted her, she acted like it was no big deal.
I always apologize when I've wronged her but she never does.
Otherwise, she is the only real friend that I have. She has been the greatest source of support for me. Yes I know she's busy and she has a life.
I know I can't stop talking to her. What do I do?
2006-11-27 01:25:26 · 11 answers · asked by Tina M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She doesn't sound like much of a friend. You shouldn't have to apologize all the time either....Maybe she is just very busy and forgetful. Next time she cuts you off and says I will call you right back, say "ok, talk to you in a few weeks take care" then hang up, maybe she will get the message...there really isnt anything you can to do change her...
2006-11-27 01:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by rufnready 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is just not that into you... it happens in friendships not just romantic relationships.
Just let it go. Wait for her to call you. Maybe she has oblilgations and can't stay on the phone for long. Or maybe she is genuinely busy. Some people prefer not to have close friends. It sounds to me like she is more of an aquantance than a friend and wants to keep it that way.
Respect the boundaries she has set up, she may have a reason for them. Perhaps she has been hurt by close friends in the past and is afraid of letting people get close. There are of possible scenarios.
Instead of spending time worrying about it get out there and get to know more people. You shouldn't ask to go to her home, if she invites you then fine, but if not that isn't your place. Perhaps you are a negative person, are you always calling her complaining? I have a friend like that and I have to limit my time with her as she is depressing. She never sees the good in anything! She isn't interested in hearing about anything good happening in anyone's lives. Then there are the people who ALWAYS have to top whatever you are saying, that is so annoying. Or the know it alls that have seen it all done it all and know all... Be aware of what you are discussing when she has to get of fthe phone, that may be a clue as to the problem.
She could be genuinely busy! I know I am. Sometimes I mean to get back to people and it just doesn't happen.
If she is genuinely hurting your feelings speak to her about it in a non accusatory way. Just say I know your busy but it hurt me when you did........................... tell her you waited for the call back and you would appreciate if she isn't able to speak to you that she at least let you know she won't be calling back.
2006-11-27 09:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If any freindship, be it a close one or not, brings you pain, hurt, or any adverse feelings, THEN you should back away. This friend has no time for you, I'm sorry to sound harsh, but its true. You can confront her again, cos you said you have already confronted- BUT ask yourself, what you hope to achieve with that confrontation. My advice: Don't call her. Don't go visit her. If she really wants to be your friend, she will make more of an effort. I know it will be hard at first, BUT you sound like a really nice person. very patient and I'm sure there are many other people out there that will value your friendship and time more than the 'friend' you have now.
2006-11-27 09:54:37 · answer #3 · answered by Rozcoco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh..it sure sounds really sad...I knw how u feelin cos i have been through this and all i think would be right is to just confront her and tell her all you feel...make her listen to your thoughts..your feelings...believe me..if she's a real friend..she'll realise her fault...and if she aint..then u shud b friends with her for sure but just move on with your life....okay.....just tell her..somehow im feelin she will understand..all the very best! it sure will work out...
2006-11-27 09:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by mysterious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound so great to me! She sounds selfish and You sound desperate. I'm sorry but its true. I think you are a true friend to her but she on the other hand doesn't need you as much as you need her. Keep her as a friend and find new friends. Who says you can only have one good friend. Share your love with others, there are a lot on lonely people in the world and you may be just the person they need to make them feel special. we all need that.........
2006-11-27 09:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by Adrienne C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your best friend? I don't think so. A real friend wouldn't dis you like that! I'd find some new friends!
2006-11-27 09:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some new friends. She knows you. She knows you need her.
2006-11-27 09:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by Wild Bill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to forget about her and get on with your life. Or you will never have one. Do it now.
2006-11-27 09:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by bubbabud416 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Instant-message me and I'll tell you more on this, I don't feel too comfortable having my answers shown.
2006-11-27 09:37:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
see someone like this cant be your friend and the basic funda is ignore her then she will feel your importance
bye
2006-11-27 09:45:21 · answer #10 · answered by sona 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋