My partner sits playing his xbox live for hours even through the night leaving me to sit on my own fed up and ****** off. Drives me nuts and he never seems to think he's doing anything wrong. Before any smart **** guy asks yes he gets pleny of pleasure from me so dont suggest that. Just want him to read responses and see that he is in the wrong. All I want is him to spend some time with me.
2006-11-27 01:24:34 · 40 answers · asked by logan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Demand that he spends more time with you and if he says no....punish him !!
2006-11-27 01:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by IloveMarmite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Video games should be left for times when there is nothing left to do and everything has been taken care of. I occassionally play a game here or there, but only after the kids have gone to sleep and my wife is in the other room watching a show I don't like or is getting ready for bed.
If the games are consuming his life to a point where he's not spending time with his family, then maybe it's time to get rid of the xbox. Video games are a form of entertainment, not a lifestyle. Unless it's his job to test the games, then he should be waiting until the kids are asleep before playing. If your kids a school age, are they allowed to play games before doing their homework? Well, dad shouldn't be allowed to play until everything that needs to be done that night is done.
Set an example for the kids. They watch dad too, and if they see that this is what he's doing, they will have a valid argument against doing their homework every night too. Dad is setting a very bad precident. Make him stop.
2006-11-27 01:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Playing video games is fine in moderation, but to sit there all the time for hours is ridiculous, especially for a man w/ a partner & children. He should turn it off, get up & help out around the house & spend time w/ his family. An hour of playing here & there can surely be sufficient, but an adult has no business sitting in front of a tv for hours at a time like that!
2006-11-27 01:28:13 · answer #3 · answered by lop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to grow up and do the things that need to be done before more problems come around. Have made kids and got a partner so need to take care of the kids, partner and share of stuff to do around the house. The more time you spend with the kids the less time they will have to get into trouble especially as they get to be teens. Need to have a little free time but set a clock or trouble will happen.
2006-11-27 01:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
- Start an affair
- You and the kids start playing it with him
- Make a deal to limit his time on it and spend an equal amount of
with you and the kids
- Start buying loads of really expensive things from a shopping channel and charge it all to him. You need a hobby too - one which he can pay for in money if not his time
- go on strike and deprive him of other things (like your cooking/laundry/sex/cleaning/ etc unless he spends time with you)
- ask him to leave home, without the x-box and not come back till he's come to his senses.
- Find a hobby you can all enjoy together
- Tell his mum and all his friends how childish he is
- Write/phone a TV show who sort people with problems out (nationalise his neglect and embarrass him). Maybe Jim'll Fix It (it's coming back you know..maybe you could be their first request)!
- Totally ignore him...pretend he doesn't exist (as well as go on strike)
The thing is if you threaten any of these, you have to go through with it, otherwise he just won't take you seriously!
Good luck....
2006-11-30 01:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by nephtine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Video games are for the most part a very selfish pastime as generally they are done without other people being involved. Does he have any other things that he likes to do by himself? Maybe get on the computer a lot, rides a motorcycle or bike alone, goes for long walks alone, does he go out with the "boys" a lot, etc.? If so, those are all symptom that something else is wrong and driving his desire to do things by himself. Try to find out what that is.
You can also try to find out what other outside interests he may have and join him doing those things. Consider movies, museums, car shows, sports, photography, etc.
Norm
2006-11-27 01:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by nikonphotobug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get his Xbox and smash it up.Xboxs are for kids, and yeah, maybe a dad will play with his kids on it once in a while for an hour, but he must be a real saddo to swop childish computer games for spending time with his family. He really shouldn't need to be told how selfish he is being, if he had anything about him he would realise how much he is upsetting you, and sort himself out.If your not gonna smash it up, hide it and only let him have it when you feel its OK.if he's gonna behave like a kid, treat him like one!
2006-11-27 01:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you should discuss it in a civil manner. Try to work something out whereby he spends time with you but still gets some time to play on his x-box. This could be his way of relieving tension and is probably better than him taking things out on you. If you make demands that he stop all together that would cause problems, however, he should see that he needs to divide his time equally between his hobbies and his partner.
2006-11-27 01:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by Princesspoison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These games are addictive and absorbing. He doesn't realise how much time he is 'lost' inside these games whilst you and the children can only wish he, the person you all love, would spend more time with you. Tell him that you feel you and the children have lost him when he plays. Tell him he needs to give his children memories because life passes very quickly. Ask him when he has gone, what memories will the children have. Life is short. I don't want to go deep, but use your imagination, and ask him to embrace what he has.
2006-11-30 22:13:57 · answer #9 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem, tghe only thing was that i would not allow it in my home and my partner use to play on is xbox at his mother. His dad recently brought a new one and he has used the excuse that the old one his for our son to play on.
Since he has brought it home he has spent some time on it but not that much as yet for me to start kicking off. When he does, I will just donate it to charity.
2006-11-28 07:00:43 · answer #10 · answered by fire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Turn the power off at the switch, hopefully the television will turn off aswell.
2. Talk to him, if the television is still on turn it off. Men's heads seem to turn to the television when they are being told off.
3. Tell him what you want and if he won't do it.
4. Sell the xbox haha.
5. There's more to life than playing games, you know that, he should too :)
2006-11-27 01:30:26 · answer #11 · answered by phobzy85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋