from a woman angle .....need answers for tonights talk with wife?

Question

please help , had a nightmare weekend .... my wife`s freind come round for a drink , but after to many they started to gang up on me ... so i said if you both feel that way get you cloths off and i will sort you both out ... any way to my amazement they both come back in sexy underwear .. so i did what any bloke would do . but this bit is the problem , 1/2 way through my wife walked out and never come back , but i did stay with her mate and carried on ..... the next day my wife said she wants me out the house and im a pig . we are meeting tonight to talk ... who is right or wrong on this one , i thought she wanted this to happen ????

i did go after her , she said she would be back in a minute as she wanted the toilet ... was i meant to stop and wait for her to come back ??

update ... wife has changed her tune and said she is sorry for letting me down , she said she was upset to watch me with this other woman and said can we try it again some time and she will be ok with it !!! thanks for your answers .. shows what a great wife i have ...she is a real woman !!! wwwwoooowww happy days

Answer 1

it sounds like your both in the wrong your wife might have wanted it at the time but then changed her mind and walked out saying she needed toe loo and then blaming you for feeling bad she should have made her feeling about how she felt at the time to you clear but i do think you should not have carried on with her Friend you all need to sit down and say that it was a mistake and NEVER do any thing like this again ( us women can get really insecure about ourselves a tell her that she was way better in bed then her friend and shes better looking too it works all the time )

Answer 2

I think you are both in the wrong. Too much alcohol is really no excuse. If it was god only knows we would have orgies everywhere, everytime someone had a party !! YUK !! Your wife was in the wrong for instigating the problem in the first place and you are in the wrong for taking up the offer. Needless to say her friend also has some explaining to do. I am sure that not all men think the same way you do. Besides when your wife walked out that should have been your cue to walk also, not stay and finish the deed. I think you both have some serious talking to do to sort out this mess. Good luck to you both, l really feel you need luck and plenty of it............I just read your adds, ofcourse you should have waited, you should never have come back without her !!!

Answer 3

If this is a real situation then it was obviously started as a bit of a joke. It became serious when your wife left which is the point you should have left too. This will be very difficult to come back from as you have broken her trust in a big way. You need to ask her if there is any way that she can ever put this behind her and start making things right because you were both in the wrong. She should never have started this, however, sexual experimentation is all fine as long as rules are defined and once your wife was unhappy, your loyalty should have been with her.

Answer 4

You are definetely the wrong one here. If your wife wanted a threesome, it could've been just the alcohol talking. If she really wanted it, you should of just let the women have fun while you pleased your wife. Doing things with the other woman was definetely wrong, especially after she left. Tonight when you talk, explain to her you are sorry for getting carried away. Tell her you thought that's what she wanted. Then ask her , " Exactly what were you wanting, sweetie?" You may get more then you were asking for, but you may get a recipe for some new excitement for the both of you. From experience though, inviting another person into your sexual relationship just ruins things. Maybe suggest porno to her. You get all the benefits of having others around, but still it is just you two making the love.

Answer 5

Wow, you are in a bit of a pickle, aren't you? I hope that you and your wife are able to straighten this out. Even if she thought she wanted something like that to happen, it looks as if she realized she didn't, and the fact that you carried on with her friend when she had walked out, does make you appear pretty guilty and selfish.

Tell her the alcohol messed up your head and you weren't thinking straight, that if you had been, you would have known better in the first place.

But, she also needs to know that when she lets her friend come on to you, that she is asking for trouble.

Many marriages have been destroyed by this very thing. Get some counseling and the best of luck to you both.

Answer 6

You are wrong on this one! I think maybe your wife , at first, wanted it to happen but then could not handle it. a women or men has the right to change their mind at anytime. however by you staying and doing it with her Friend, well that was a very bad choice, you should have gotten up and walked out with your wife.but you didn't, so now she is really sad and disappointed in you. she may forgive you, i don't think she will but i hope this helps. my advice is when you go see her bring flowers for sure and look really sad, cry if you have to, trust me! tell her you thought she was coming right back and when you realized she wasn't, it was over,tell her you are sick over this and you were only doing what you though she wanted. be prepared because some women do this type of thing to see if their husbands will do it and if the husbands do they already have it in heir heads to leave them. good luck. by the way do you find it funny that the Friend kept going without her too? might have been a set up. good luck.

Answer 7

it can b very flattering 2b in a 3some but there are inevitable problems associated. ur wife may have thought it a good idea at the time but may have become jealous.

u need to explain that it was honestly a mistake bcause of the drink and that u love her and still want her.

just blame it on the booze and promise it won't happen again.

i think she is at least 50% to blame but it will no good to argue who's fault.

you say, kindly we either forget it and carry on or finish.
or u could allow a cooling off period.

she might have thought u were ignoring her or that u preferred her mate. Between u and me, I think she has the problem and needs to sort out her jealousy probably but we all make mistakes and this one, on her part, needs to be forgotten about or it could signal the end.

curiosity is a terrible thing sometimes.

Answer 8

First of all, your wife shoudnt have let this happen. But i understand if she got jealous half way through. Alcohol was involved, it shouldnt have happened and i think you should have said no in the 1st place in respect of your wife, wether you wanted it to happen or not. If your wife walked out then you should have stopped with her so-called friend. You were probably turned on and put your satisfaction in front of what your wife was thinking when she left.

You need to let your wife know that it shouldnt have happened and it will never happen again. Admit you broke her trust and you feel ashamed. Also say that you will never see her mate again. Personaly no mate of mine would do this to me and if i changed my mind half way thorugh then they would stop and also want to comfort me. You need a good heart to heart. But even though she is wrong for letting this happen, i think she just changed her mind and she is angry at you for either going along with it OR not stopping when she got upset. Mybe she started to sober up half way thorugh and realized what was happening and got really jealous. Lust took over both of you. You need to beg and tell her shes beautiful etc. Good luck, i really hope it works out

ps
Can i just add, My bf tells me he would be turned on if i kissed and touched another guy in front of him to tease him, and he admits tho after the lust has gone he feels realy bad at the thought of this. So even though he says go and do it, i dont because i know how bad he would feel afterwards. Im just explaining that you need to put feelings before lust.

Answer 9

Are you serious?!

Most couples don't last long after having a threesome, but for you to jump in and do it without discussing it or thinking out the consequences is just really silly. The fact that you carried on after she walked out is so wrong! It was a clear indication that she was no longer happy with it, and you just carried on as if she didn't matter. Sorry to say , you were clearly only thinking with one thing, and are so in the wrong!

Answer 10

Really why would you be so hurtful to someone why not just divorce her if your going to do that. My husband cheated on me last year. Do you have any idea the hurt she is going to go through when she finds out? And believe me it'll happen one way or another regardless if it's a week from now or a year from now. Your just an uncaring decietful jerk and I hope you get what's comming to you and I hope she is smart enough to figure out your intentions sooner than later. And as for the **** ring ordeal no it won't work cause Jack ***. How bout you just overdose on Viagra that should do the trick and send your jerk *** to the hospital where you'll need to be anyway to get checked for an STD asshole.