My hubby thinks that wearing tight jeans and peddle pushers is being a prostitute.
i love dressing this way especaiily on weekends but all he wnats me to wear are long skirts.
is this fair?
2006-11-27 00:47:43 · 26 answers · asked by Essie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow. Where is this man's self-esteem and trust? As far as I know, there's nothing that says there's a dress code for married women. I think your husband's demands are unrealistic and are his issue, not yours. If you continue to let him control your life, eventually you will have no life at all, outside of him.
2006-11-27 00:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, while I do think that it can be a bit on the rude/bossy side for anyone to try to tell their spouse how they should dress.. I do think he has a valid point.
Personally, I don't think that any married woman should be running around, with their clothes so tight and revealing that the only message it's sending is "Look at me!".
I'm sure there is a safe middle-ground that the two of you can agree on, for what you should and shouldn't go out wearing. You can look attractive and respectable at the same time.. It doesn't necessarily mean you need to wear long skirts (if that's not your thing) but try dressing a little more conservative, and less revealing.. You're a married woman now, and there's really no reason for you to wear clothes that being attention to your body in a way that sends any kind of wrong message to those around you.
I'm sure things will work out for you.. just talk to your husband about it.
2006-11-27 10:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by lovable_deb_81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be insulted by his remark. Very manipulative, What else does he think of you and ask ???
Rather he was coming from a good place or not , bad choice of words But make no mistake this is a control issue and he is
trying to control you, how much of you he has NOW??? only you know???
So if you say OK Dear I wont wear them anymore. You're saying you don't care about yourself as a PERSON. Oh by the way he looks like a slut when he wears those shorts. he can only wear dockers. sounds dump doesn't it? that's what he sounds like.
If you don't believe that your jeans are tooo tight and you love your peddle pushers, than by all means , say so and stand up for your self.
2006-11-27 09:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just insecure......or really old fashion;either way, try to compromise. Maybe you could wear a pair of jeans that were a little less provocative. As far as the peddle pushers....I don't get where that's even close to being a prostitute.
2006-11-27 08:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you are married you still get to dress however you want. The husbands of the world can have an opinion but it is still your choice. Tight jeans is not a sign of prostitution anywhere that I know of.
2006-11-27 08:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by zara01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the other hand see the bright line around this gray cloud: he cares. My ex couldnt care less if I would walk around dressed as a real prostitute. He tried to buy me smaller clothes many times, that would expose more of my body. That would kill me to know that he didnt care other males could be looking at me.
Give your husband some credit for caring and talk to him until you both reach a point that is comfortable for both.
I guess it is normal that the guys worry about what their wives wear, up to a healthy point, of course.
2006-11-27 09:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by Graça 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to relax and not be so insecure. In fact he should be proud to have a beautiful wife. What you wear doesn't look like prostitute. You should show him real pictures of prostitutes they don't dress like that. He just has an insecurity problem but he just needs to understand that y'all are adults and he has nothing to worry about. It's definitely not fair. I hope he can learn to understand you. Good Luck!!!
2006-11-27 09:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by vato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure how old you are, but my husband loves the fact that I still can dress like i'm 20 ish. I dress respectfull, but just because I'm a thirtyish mom with three kids doesn't mean I have to dress like an old lady. My husband loves it when we go out and other men look at me... it makes him proud to have a wife that still looks good and takes pride in her looks. You can dress as young as you feel as long as it's still classy. Your husband sounds like he has big insecurity issues, and you need to stand up to him. Tell him that you love him etc, that you want no one else, and that he should be proud of you for trying to keep your looks up.
2006-11-27 08:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY!! He sounds like a jealous guy and that is not the kind of man I would want to be with. Does he tell you how much makeup to wear and when to be home too? Wear what you want to and if he doesn't like it he can leave...
Trust me.... been there... done that...
2006-11-27 08:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by kdbnsc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not fair. Does he want yoy to start picking out his clothes? If this is something he is just starting then y ou have to set him straight. You will wear what you want to wear.
Let him wear the long skirts.
2006-11-27 08:49:54 · answer #10 · answered by artimis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋