what I mean by share, is share EVERYTHING they have, share in doing household chores, out door chores, ect.
I am sick and tired of having men who refuse to help around the house, insist that I HAVE to do everything inside and out, and also wont share their income with me, nor anything in their personal lives too.
THIS to me is NOT love
BTW I am "40-something" and "been there and done that" too many times. I am waiting to have an actual REAL relationship with REAL love!
2006-11-27 00:45:16 · 10 answers · asked by flyingdove 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Husbands thought that their only responsibility is to provide food,shelter,clothes for his family, not thinking that its not only their work that matters, but their emphaty, understanding and help FOR THEIR WIVES. So it is a wise move if before entering a marriage life choose a man who will be there for you for sorrow and in happiness, for your household works and not just in your sweet moments..We could check it if were able to know him deeply before saying an I Do. And inside a relationship you should have a one on one conversation with your fiance and talk about those things, if he could help you or not, why and your feelings about that.So when you get in marriage you'll be happy and not having too much burden in life because you have nothing to rely on but yourself.Husband should be a great shoulder for us women, helping us out and sharing our own chores because we really could not do all of it with our ownselves, we need a partner, not a master. I just hope you could still have patience in your situation, youre in a marriage and it is very sacred.But if you feel that youre not having a great life anymore but a bunch of tears and pain, then you could separate yourself with him, but before doing that just give a final confrontation if theres a chance to patch things up, if he could compromise that he could help you and be with you for everything..I cant believe he do not share his income with you, youre supposed to be the one will handle it because you're making the budget....So think deeply and act now before its too late for you to be sane and alive..And before going to another love just know the man fully and not rushing into another relationship, it could give you a fresh start by not making too fast decisions and take it step by step.Love is good someday it will find you, all you have to do is to be a good person and give also love for yourself.Hope i helped you thats all.
2006-11-27 01:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by missy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where they are hiding but I did find one. But he's not perfect. I'm 40 something too and we've been together 25 years. He does do dishes, laundry, all the outdoor stuff and our money is pooled. But I think that when you start out young it's different than getting together at our age. Remember that building a relationship takes just as much time at 40 something as it does at 20 something - it just FEELS like it takes longer!
Don't worry too much honey. He's out there and he's asking the exact same question looking for you. I promise - and I'm always right.
2006-11-27 00:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm here, but I'm taken. I work two jobs, cook dinner every night (except when I'm working of course), give my son a bath, take him to his swim classes, drive my wife everywhere she needs to go (she doesn't like driving even though she can), mop the floors, clean the bathroom, take out the garbage (we both do that), alternate doing the laundry, wash the dishes, and we alternate putting our son to sleep. Oh, and when we had a dog (which was hers), I was the one that always took him outside to go to the bathroom.
Maybe you're just looking in the wrong place, 'cause there are plenty of guys out there that will do the same for you.
2006-11-27 00:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by tipper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There out there, trust me I'm one! I wash clothes, wash dishes, vacuum, yard work, cook, and my wife and I both work normal jobs! We share everything!
When you date someone, check out their home! If there's a pile of dishes in the sink, an inch of dust on everything, you can see the roof of a car through the grass in their yard, a trail of dirty clothes throughout the house, chances are that's the way they'll be if you get together! Hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-11-27 01:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by pete 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you are looking in the wrong places and making the same bad choices time and time again....there are really good men out there that will love you, take care of you, share life with you....they are hard to find but if you really try you will find one....I did....Good luck to you
2006-11-27 01:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ever thought of becoming a lesbian. Maybe they won't share their income because they work all day and you sit at home and don't clean up the mess because you are too busy eating crap and getting fat. Get to the gym and work out, then come home, shower and clean the damn house and maybe a guy will love you and pay for you to do nothing all day.
2006-11-27 00:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by James 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I hear ya loud and clear. I've been married 10+ years and I can totally relate to what you are saying.
I know that there are real men out there.... somewhere.
2006-11-27 00:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm older than you. I've stopped waiting a while ago. Real love has been elusive - I don't think it exists for some.
2006-11-27 00:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You answered it yourself. Keep looking. This is not love, this is called using.
2006-11-27 00:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by Elfa T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry its been so hard for you...sometimes we have to, although its not a societally ingrained thing.
2006-11-27 00:48:26 · answer #10 · answered by David B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋