I think there is really something wrong and I'm hoping I can get some answers. My boyfriend is 36 yrs. old and his mother acts as if he is still a child,she gets jealous if he and I invited to events with friends and she's not, she gets sort of a high when he and I fight, yet depressed and somewhat angry when we get along, when we have private conversations she wants to know what was said between us, when have an argument she wants to know what its about, she constantly on a none stop basis compares him to his dad that left them 34 yrs. ago and who is now dead, she actually told me that she knows her son is well endowed because when he was young and she would bathe him he was endowed them, this just sickens me,she is always trying to out do me in what he gets, needs, wants etc. She has interferred in every realtionship he has ever had, and makes a point of telling me just as the others that he will never marry that I should treat us as a friendship. Sick and twisted?
2006-11-26 23:48:19 · 8 answers · asked by jenznrn09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Does he live with her or something? Why is she such a big part of your relationship?
She definitely has control issues. Jealousy issues, separation anxiety issues. She is certainly trying to make it difficult for her son to sustain a relationship. If she actually is having sexual feelings about her son, that is definitely a psychiatric problem.
I am the mother of three sons, I don't have sexual feelings for any of them. I encourage their relationships, and stay out of their arguments. I don't get angry when they make plans with out me either. Its normal to make plans that do not include your mother.
This behavior is unacceptable. You have to ask yourself, is he okay with what's going on? If he is okay with it, he needs psychiatric help.
Does he know that she says all of these things to you? If he knows all about it and says nothing to stop it, you have a big problem that is easily solved. Get out. Run do not walk. You aren't going to be able to fix this. Counseling isn't going to help either. This woman has spent a lifetime working on this routine. She knows exactly what she's doing, and she has no plans to let you have her son. Its decision making time. Good luck.
2006-11-27 00:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom has a problem and so do you. Its the son/boyfriend. He allows this now and will always allow his mother to interfere in his life. Its his safety net. As long a mom is in his bed he never has to commit to anyone. ( bed=business)
But, mom has an even greater problem. She has an unhealthy attachment to her son. In her eyes he has grown from her little man to the man in her life and it is truly sick and twisted.
RUN AWAY AND NEVER RETURN!
2006-11-27 08:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by Adrienne C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad part is HE is ok with it.....
Its really kinda normal for women to put son as sort of a lover roll in their lives, and in some cases the sons find their moms as their first loves....
Take a step back and look at yourself and the whole situation....and ask yourself as if your the third person....."Is this something that you want to deal with for the rest of your life?"
I think your answer would be No.
Now make them mental effort to disconnect yourself from it and move on...dont look back, dont think about it, just move on.
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2006-11-27 07:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The woman is sick, she needs elp, she is not treating hm as a son but as a kind of possession and a lover as weird as it sounds, i think she is using him like a replacement of his dad who left. She sounds a very lonely person because she will not let him lead his own life. Get away from her telll her to get some counselling. To think of your son like tha is sickening, an to tell you that, I feel sorry for him having this sort of mother. He needs to get away from her and get some counselling himself she is enough to do anyone,s head in. Tell him its what God thinks of him that maters not his mother. God loves him dearly.
Get away from her.
2006-11-27 07:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by denise g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her and your boyfriend how you feel in a respectful manner :)
it may be hard though because she treats her son like a child so expect that it may be a hard fight, if you can get your bf to help you then i don't think it would be too hard
show her the pros and cons on how she treats her son
2006-11-27 07:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is fishy from the angle what you have stated. I do not want to go deeper but I would suggest you to leave him because there seems to be more in there relationship. (I may be totally wrong)
2006-11-27 08:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok thats sick and twisted!!
2006-11-27 07:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that she needs to see a specialist
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2006-11-27 08:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by john doe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋