my friend is 20yrs old she says shes off men for good and is sick of looking for a relationship, and that being the focus point of her life, shes decided to concentrate on work, fitness, going out with friends, and travelling.
shes really pretty, and nice. do you think this is a good idea for her shes never been in a proper relationship
2006-11-26 23:20:44 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think she has the right idea - it's when your not looking that it finds you
2006-11-26 23:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by Jen S 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There're two sides to this: it's either you've disappointed her the time she wanted you to propose to her to the extent that she can even trust you now that you're ready to do it. The other option is that she might have had a rough deal with regard to relationship with some guys to the extent that she's now frustrated and have made up her mind NEVER to trust any guy again. But whatever the option, you still stand a better chance with her if you're persistent and resolute to convince her that she needs to have a change of mind on this cos living an isolated life will NOT be the best for her. I wish the best of luck, and cheers!
2006-11-27 07:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is probably the best idea she's had in a long time! Once she learns to relax and enjoy life she'll be more appealing to the opposite sex. Men can smell desperation a mile off! Im sure if she does what she says she will, she'll find a boyfriend soon enough!
2006-11-27 08:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by Pippa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds awesome. She's only twenty, what does she need a relationship for? She sounds like she's got a good plan. Its actually refreshing to hear of a woman taking control of her own life. Everything she is doing will make her a more interesting person of substance. Independence and confidence are good things. Be glad for your friend. When the time comes for her to be in a relationship, she won't be one of those whiny, weepy, possessive, needy people that lose themselves in the process.
2006-11-27 08:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i do, my sister is the same, she is happier now after she went traveling, got fit and did her own thing without a man. She was just sick of "waiting" for someone nice to come along, instead she adopted the attitude that life passes by and you need to look after yourself and do what you want to do. Sometimes being in a relationship is restricting, and you cant care for someone else untill you care about yourself
2006-11-27 07:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by herbal ashtray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best idea at 20 ! She will be able to focus on the family life a bit later.
2006-11-27 07:24:41 · answer #6 · answered by Everona97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good for her, may be she can't do lot of things at the same time: now first she concentrates on her work and then may be in her office she'll meet the right person!; so she's young, go with your friend and enjoy time!
2006-11-27 08:19:47 · answer #7 · answered by Marafrica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she has made a decision based on her experiances and you should take her seriously. Though I bet if she started to live her life and stop looking for a man then she will start to attracted the right sort of men. She is 20 and i think she needs to live her life for herself and not get involved. They could hold her back .....infact they will hold her back.
2006-11-27 13:52:12 · answer #8 · answered by cinders 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there will be a Mr Right show up someday. Maybe being single for awhile would be a nice idea, but keep an open mind!!
2006-11-27 07:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just need a break from the whole dating scene.
Me and my friends have said this hundreds of times and you never really mean it. Don't worry about her too much, she'll get back in the game when she feels ready =0D
2006-11-27 07:56:52 · answer #10 · answered by Kerri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will not hurt your friend if she side-tracks to other things and interests. why should she have to spend her time looking round for a relationship, particularly is possibly she may not be ready for one. let her enjoy what she is doing....perhaps she may meet someone in the things she is doing when she least expects it. good relationships have been known to happen via that way, you know.
2006-11-27 09:57:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋