She seemed to go through this pattern especially in relationships:-
-Met a person/any person
-Showers them with praise and love/Very flirty
-Gets tied up in sexual relationships
-Constant contact by text and phone
-Person starts to have feelings for them/get close
-Move on to someone else and tells you so/Loses interest
-Person confronts them and she gets easily hurt
-Cuts off contact and tells friends they are a nutcase to gain attention
Don't get me wrong it was me who got involved with her sexually so I do take responsibility. However it has happended before, she is divorced with 3 kids and she slags off her ex-husband something rotten and were together for 14 years.
Now I feel bad because I'm not sure whether it's my fault for her meeting someone else, maybe I should just not of told her how I felt?
2006-11-26 23:13:23 · 16 answers · asked by dfds i 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lord have mercy!
2006-11-26 23:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by kimbersweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met someone like this once, almost got involved, she got me pinned up against a railing when three kids come out the door. Wow! then she got me inside, the kids in the next room with the door open she wanted to know how I thought she still looked and started taking off her clothes.
I was there to fix the furnace, she was twenty years younger then I was and, I found out later was the Ex wife of a huge cop. She does this to everyone.
This woman sick, She is nice, you could have a nice relationship but, who's crazy enough to want one with a kook!
These people are juvenile they're not grown up or mature. To start a relationship is to create problem here, the sex isn't worth it down the line and it's only destroying lives.
2006-11-27 07:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Past behavior is a predictor of future actions. She is a person with shallow feelings. Once the adrenaline from the lust wears off and she has to assume responsibility for her actions and for the feelings of someone else she bails. It's not your fault you reacted the way a normal person would. I feel sorry for her kids growing up with that sort of a dysfunctional parent. Her husband must have really loved her to put up with her bullsh*t for as long as he did. Just learn from the experience and be more careful next time.
2006-11-27 07:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not your fault,.... and really isn't her fault either. Sounds like she's really been hurt, tries to get close to someone, but can't let herself trust him. She wants the intimacy....and thats pretty obvious by how fast she gets attached/intimate. But she sounds too guarded and too scared, and just can't commit. It seems like she's questioning her own judgment, not trusting her choices, and cuts her losses before she's the one that gets hurt again. I wonder how long since her marriage broke up, and what caused it. Someday she'll sort herself out, but maybe for right now, she doesn't know any other way to be.
2006-11-27 07:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about she is who she is and who she is has absolutely nothing to do with you.I can't believe how many people take responsibility for other peoples bad behavior or feel responsible for other peoples mistakes.The only mistake is you choosing her,your choice of partners id what makes or breaks you.If you are not strong enough to recognize when others have serious issues then you aren't ready for any relationship.People usually show you who they are and whether we want to see or not is up to us but that's a choice to be blind and to want a a person to be who they aren't.
2006-11-27 07:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your fault....it sounds like she is messed up and doesn't know what she wants in life or in a relationship....move on with your life and put this experience behind you...there are lots of women out there who want to have a relationship with one really good guy....find one of them...good luck to you and don't give this one anymore thought....
2006-11-27 07:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U had sex with this Woman when she was married?
If U write it correctly... then your action was outrageous...
In Iran the punishment for these kind of crime is very harsh...
may be a man be punished to Death Penalty!
U must stop seeing any Women! Talk with a dr. to see what caused U perform such crime.
2006-11-27 08:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by Iranian Amigo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like the girl has some real self estime issues. Be glad she has moved on. Drama, you dont need.
2006-11-27 07:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well instead of spending so much time and energy analising her patterns and behaviours, why not do the same with your own? then al least you can change something.
2006-11-27 07:49:49 · answer #9 · answered by artistry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times will you ask a question differently but the story is the same?
2006-11-27 07:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like you were just another cog in her twisted wheel.
Consider yourself lucky to have escaped that nutcase.
2006-11-27 07:16:25 · answer #11 · answered by negrito con sabor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋