well im 15 and my b/f is 17 im pregnant and dont know what to do if i should keep it or not or what? help?

Answer 1

This is really a question that only you can answer. There have been many teens out there who have had babies who live with parents who love and support them, but I'm sure there have been many others who did not have any support and had to face this on their own. The first thing I would do is talk to your parents. If you want to try and keep your baby, then be ready to face the consequences of your responsibilities because all though having a baby may be a very enjoyable thing, it also means you will miss out on a lot. If you feel you will not have the support or just don't want to keep your baby, then by all means give your baby up for adoption. Please, whatever you do, DO NOT abort your baby. There are plenty of people out there who cannot have children and would love to adopt your baby. My wife and I have been married for a little over 10 years and have been trying to have a baby since day 1 of our marriage. Unfortunately, this past March my wife had to have a hysterectomy because of some medical problems. We are now one of those many couples out there who want so desparately to have a baby, but cannot physically have a child of our own. My wife and I have went through all kinds of things these past 10 years in order to have a baby and now its not possible. There are so many people out there like us who are trying to adopt, so please give someone a chance to give your baby a loving home if you choose not to keep him/her. I pray everything works out for you so that you can keep your baby if you can and also that your baby finds a good home if you choose the adoption route. God bless and please know you are in my prayers.

Answer 2

Whatever you do DO NOT abort it. I know from family and friends experience that you should keep it. My mom had two babies around your age one of them two or three years after each other andfrom a different dad but anyway it was hard for her at first but then she got saved and people at the church she went to and also her parents helped her take care of them both, then she got married when my oldest sister(her daughter of course) was 4. She survived through everything that means you can too! I also know two other people who were your age when the got pregnant and they survived it too. They are all very happy about keeping the baby they had. My oldest sister is now 24 and getting married(luckily not because of pregnancy). The other two people had girls also the older person has a 15 year old and the younger person has a five year old and everyone is happy. Also did you know that Angelina Jolie aborted a baby a few years back? Now she is regretting that she did it and is now adopting children because of it. You will feel the same way if you abort it and also the baby IS alive its heart has ALREADY started beating on its own don't listen to the doctors who say that the baby isn't alive because they are lying because all they want is money. If you don't want to take care of it put it up for adoption. But NEVER EVER abort it. Another thing if you haven't talked to anyone about it you should. Talk to your b/f, your parents, his parents, and your teachers(preferably your female teachers since some of them have probably experienced the same thing.)

Answer 3

If you believe you can trust your parents to guide you and support you, talk to them. If not, I suggest talking to an adult that you trust other than your parents. If you feel you have none you can trust, please talk with a counselor.

At 15, I would HIGHLY recommend against keeping the baby, as it is nearly impossible (not impossible, but nearly so) to secure a good education and a decent paying job while attempting to raise a child so young. Also, due to your age, you need to keep in mind that there's a higher chance of pregnancy complications during the birth (due to your body not being fully mature yet) than there would be if you were older. If you do decide to carry your pregnancy to term, I urge you to begin good prenatal care as soon as possible, and make sure that when the time comes you give birth in a setting fully equipped to handle any complications that may occur during the birth.

At your age, I would suggest that your best options are either abortion or adoption.

And regardless of what you decide to do, you MUST finish high school--and college as well, especially if you decide to keep the baby, as it will be your responsibility (if you keep the baby) to support it financially and give it a good life, and this is very hard to do without a college education (and impossible to do without a highschool education or a GED).

Answer 4

Don't make any decisions until you've spoken to your parents and your boyfriend's parents. They'll be shocked and the situation will be pretty nasty for a while but you can't make a decision about this on your own, you're too young. Having said that, they'll help you but don't let them force you into doing anything you don't want to do, this is your baby, your decision. There are professionals you can talk to about your options, don't make any haste decisions, you need to think about this or you could do something you'll spend the rest of your life regretting. Remember that teenage girls become pregnant every day, this is not the end of the world, even though it may seem like it right now. You'll get through this, just be strong.

Answer 5

In making this decision, please take into account not just the seemingly wonderful part of having a baby, but also the HARD parts too. Babies are beautiful and loving, but they are also expensive and hard work. The reality is that most 15 year olds would not want to be responsible 24/7 for another person. Think about finding a babysitter so you can go to the prom! Good luck with whatever you decide and I hope if you decide you can't support this child you will consider adoption as well as an abortion.

Answer 6

I am afraid that this is a decision that you will have to make on your own. Children are a blessing and I can't imagine every letting one be adopted out but you are only 15. You need to think very hard before making this decision. You have your whole life ahead of you and your boyfriend may or may not be in it for the long run. Life with a child at such a young age would be very difficult but so would the thoughts of living without the child. You need to decide what will be best for you and your child.

Answer 7

You really need to sit down with your b/friend and both sets of parents and think/discuss this. My sister had her first baby at 16 and she said it was the most hardest thing she's ever had to do. There is always the option of putting the baby up for adoption. You are a kid, having a kid. (putting it nicely) and I really wish you kids would use protection! In this day and age, there is no excuse for unplanned pregnancies! If you choose to keep the baby, it is going to be hard work, but maybe if you have plenty of support from your parents and his, it will be OK. Remember that when your friends are going out to parties and nightclubs and having lots of fun, you will be home looking after a baby.

Please believe me, I was a first time mum at 20, and that was bloody hard! You are so young, but whatever decision you make, you have to live with it. I wish you and your boyfriend well. Good luck and best wishes to you both. xo

Answer 8

i think you should tell an adult or some one thats had children and dont let them talk you into and aborstion if you dont think you can live with yourself after having an aborstion but dont let the father of your child force you into keeping it either if thats not what you want. maybe you could go ahead with the pregnancy and an older familly member e.g parent could bring up the child while you finish school ect. ALSO WHAT EVER YOU DECIDE PLEASE CONSIDER THIS : YOUR 15 AND THE BABYS DAD IS 17 SO THEREFORE THE BABYS DAD COULD GET ARREST AND PUT IN PRISON BECAUSE LEGALLY YOUR UNDERAGE TO HAVE SEX AND THAT WOULD BE CLASSED AS RAPE. gd luck huni hope this helped xxxx

Answer 9

It is ultimately your choice to keep this child or not. If you want to keep it, then great. That just means it is another responsibility for you to have. If not but you do not want to get an abortion, then I suggest that you give the child up for abortion. The last choice is to have an abortion, but I must warn you, later on as you think about it, you may have regret for not having the baby. When it comes down to having a baby, you need to talk about this with your boyfriend or talk to someone who deals with pregnant teens. You will find more help that way.

Answer 10

Having a baby is the most beutiful gifft you can get. If you didnt want a baby why did you have unprotected sex. I dont think you should abort it. Talk to you're parents and please think about it. Its youere decision but i believe you shouldn't have an abortion. How many months are you. Im 16 and put it this way. Im 16 and im a proud mom. I did it with my boyfriend. I was kicked out of the house and you know what its hard but with my boyfriend we did it and were a very happy family.