please note: i don't need your comment if you are against abortion!!
i dont' think abortion is killing a life, it might not be the best thing to do. but you got to see under what circustances, my girlfriend is pregnant and she think that abortion is so wrong, how should i tell her that it is no a big deal, when there's been 50 million abortions in this country.
2006-11-26 22:25:28 · 12 answers · asked by doggystyle44141 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm not against abortion, I'm for it, but you need to know something, abortion is A BIG DEAL!!!!!!!! It is ultimately her body and if she wants to keep the baby, then you have no right to tell her otherwise. First off you should have been more careful in the first place, especially if you don't want this child. If she sees abortion as a bad thing then you should respect her wishes. You said you don't need any ones comment if they are against abortion, why? You are being a hypocrite, you don't want advice from a pro-life person, when you aren't even seeing your girlfriends side, why she wants to keep the baby and why she thinks its bad. I think you need to set down with her and listen to her. If she wants to keep the baby, suck it up and deal with it. And yeah, there have been a lot of abortions done, that still doesn't make it no big deal and it doesn't make it right for everyone else.
2006-11-26 22:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Views on abortion are usually very strong beliefs. You yourself have very firm belief that abortion is not wrong, so why would she, who believes in the sanctity of life, put down her principles for yours?
Ultimately, it's her body and her choice and you should respect her feelings. If you make her do something she feels is wrong, she's the one who has to live with the guilt, which is often life-long, especially if she believes that abortion is tantamount to murder.
If neither she nor you are ready for parenthood, then a good compromise would be for her to carry the baby to term and give it up for adoption.
On your part, while I will respect your opinion, it would still be a good idea to question why you think abortion is ok, because if it's a case of "other people do it, so it's ok", then it's the wrong reason and it definitely won't convince her either. You need a stronger belief foundation for a major stance like that.
2006-11-26 22:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by Andromeda_Carina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not for or against abortion I am Pro-choice meaning I believe a woman has a right to choose what will happen to her body..
Therefore I feel your girlfriend has the right to choose whether or not she will continue with this pregnancy... She has already stated her opinion that abortion is wrong and I back her up complete in her choice... Nothing you say can or will change her mind she has already made it up, all you can do now is decide what you are going to do are you going to stay with her, are you going to leave her, etc.. Making those decisions rather than trying to force your girlfriend to change her mind to suit you would be a much better use of your time and energy...
Abortion is obviously a big deal to your girlfriend if she believes it is wrong, downplaying her feelings is not what a boyfriend worth anything should be doing... Are you worth anything??? Now is the time to decide...
2006-11-26 22:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Diane said everything I was going to say. I went through your same issue 6 months ago when I got pregnant except my partner knew that abortion was killing a life (a fertilized egg is a life) but told me to put my personal feelings aside for the baby and "just get over it." To a woman who is pregnant it IS a big deal whether you think so or want to believe it is or not. Ultimately it is her choice and instead of trying to convince her that it's "not a big deal" try to support her and decide for yourself if you are worth being there for her and the baby. Good luck.
2006-11-26 23:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by october g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please try to realise that when you are pregnant, everything changes. Logic really isn't going to work with her - remember, she's got 'mother' hormones coursing through her body that are a lot older and more powerful than a few logical arguments from you.
If you have decided together that a termination is best, and if she is having difficulty coming to terms with it, then try and find some sympathetic counselling for her so she can cope with it and get on with her life. However, if she actually doesn't want a termination, DON'T bully or try to force her into one. She will never ever forgive you, or herself, and I can't imagine that is what you would want for either of you.
Remember that in the end her body is just that - hers. She gets to have the final word on what happens to it.
2006-11-26 22:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by gellhorn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is HER body! You should support her in the decision she makes. After all, it does take two to create a life! There are many options besides abortion. There are lots of people willing to adopt this baby!
2006-11-26 22:39:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You respect her choice. She's the one with the uterus. You both made the baby. But you cannot force her to kill it. As her partner, you need to be supportive, not pushing your own agenda. Since you know how she feels, talk about adoption. But quit pushing an issue she disagrees with.
2006-11-26 22:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because the mother is the one that has to incubate the child, it is her choice.
You can't convince her she is wrong, because she is not wrong.
Her body, her choice, her conscience. Not yours.
2006-11-26 22:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by Gem 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cant! if she doesnt want one you cant make her see that its a good idea! i am pro-choice on these matters, Do you want her have one??? is that the real question?
2006-11-26 22:34:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good thing your mother did not hold your beliefs.
2006-11-29 03:52:45 · answer #10 · answered by debra_har 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋