I mean, every time I get on this site, it's "I'm attracted to a married man" this and "I'm married but lusting after someone else" that. Have things always been this way, it's just that now we have the internet to blab all about it to strangers?
2006-11-26 22:11:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Yes, unfortunately the breaking of marriage vows, has been around for awhile.
You know the bible says to "make your yes mean yes, and your no mean no". "If you vow something, keep that vow. It's better not to vow something, then to break it." What wise council many do not follow.
Alot of times women and men don't communicate to their spouses, that they are feeling neglected, or are feeling lonely. They just look to others for comfort. But that is not giving respect to the marriage, or to the spouse. It is really a form of cheating, if one falls for another who is not the mate. Even if physically they have not committed fornication, or adultery.
Not every marriage is gonna work out, that is the reality today. But many can be saved if we stick to our mates, and love them unconditionally. Also allow God to be in the marriage, he is the originator of marriage. He wants us to be happy.
We should think about what our vows mean to us personally, and how they should be kept, if we are falling for another.
Maybe our mate feels neglected to, especially since we are not talking to them about our feelings.
On the Internet people are looking for help and answers. But many are just looking for those who are committing the same terrible act. They want someone to tell them it is okay to cheat.
I'm glad you are not of the same personage as others.
2006-11-26 22:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Times have changed and people are more independent financially and the family unit does not mean so much to most people anymore. With 2/3 of marriages ending in divorce, it's clear that vows don't mean anything. Most likely there was a lot of people liking married people or being married and liking someone else - just a lot less acting on it - in the past.
2006-11-26 22:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by yessiamcute 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They don't have respect for themselves or for others lives. If someone is married, they need to stay away from them and not let temptation get in the way. If the married partner is straying, they need to think long and hard before they even think about it. They either need to get counseling or try to think of why they are thinking that way and try to put that energy into making their marriage work. They would be surprised at what ways they could find to put new sparks into what they already have. The grass is NOT always greener on the other side! It only causes pain and heartache and if there are children involved, it is much worse on them.
2006-11-26 22:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ive thought that too. I cant believe how many married people are cheating and lying. I take my vows so seriously. I made a promise infront of my husband, my family, my friends and God. I could never break that promise. I knew how serious getting married was and it didnt scare me one bit. We have our rough times lke everyone else but no other man will make it better. I pride myself on being an honest, loving woman for both my husband and my children and would never risk loosing them for one night of stupidity. I dont believe things have always been that way. People just rush into things these days and getting a divorce is too easy. Ive also noticed that a lot of answers are people telling them to get a divorce even if its over somrthing so minor & trivial
2016-03-28 21:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could be wrong, but I can't imagine that it was always this way. I believe there was a time when wedding vows were taken far more seriously than they are today.
With all the heartbreak in today's world, it's unfortunate that it has come to this.
Personally I am very thankful of being completely satisfied in my marriage. I feel no need or temptation to entertain the thought of breaking my wedding vows.
2006-11-26 22:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
People don't usually marry thinking "Let's get married for as long as we think it's a good idea". But that's exactly what happens. The idea of a commitment is vague. The idea of forever is vague. People don't even consider children as important. "If I get pregnant, I can choose to abort." Marriage is like life. You make a choice; then you work with it and live with it. We are quickly coming to a time when a generation will have no choice but to marry a half brother or sister or some such incest. There are too many mixed marriages.
2006-11-26 22:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think they've been like this a long time but it does seem more apparent now. I don't understand it, myself. I've been married FAITHFULLY for over 17 years now.
2006-11-26 22:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by schaianne 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not to the younger generation.
2006-11-26 22:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it has always been that way and yes this is another way to express it.
2006-11-26 22:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋