arrangements). I don't have anyone else in this world except my mum. I worry this is quite bad really. Does anyone else have the same lonely Christmas, or should I be grateful that at least I have a mum? I have 2 friends. One wants to spend Christmas alone and 'reflect on the previous year' and the other knows my circumstances, but never offers to have us for Christmas, as she has a very large family and she wouldn't come round to ours for Christmas either.
2006-11-26 22:03:58 · 18 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
ooh Poopsy just try and make it really special for your mum....mums are very precious and you are a lovely girl x
2006-11-26 22:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go out for Xmas lunch! Find a lively restaurant and book a table - it might cost you around £40 a head but you will find the atmosphere will lift your spirits, you will get talking to total strangers as everyone is so friendly and outgoing at Xmas, and that often the restaurant will have some entertainment.
It's really the best way to liven up what would otherwise be a gloomy Christmas - plus you don't have to do the washing up afterwards!
Hope you have a good Xmas, anyway.
2006-11-26 22:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if you do anything with your Mum at Christmas or is she like my mother who just drinks and snores and does not want to do anything at Christmas - just like any other day really.
I am in a similar situation. My mum lives in a small village and I do not know anyone well enough to socialise with them. Friends in my church all have large families so that is not an option.
Some churches hold social gatherings along with Christmas Lunch, entertainments etc. It feels a bit awkward, but I might give that a try or volunteer with a church to serve lunches - at least you might get to eat for free and socialisee with others. Christmas can be a very lonely time, but depending on where you live, you might find something to take your mind off it for just a day. I truly sympathise and wish I could go back to Christmasses past ............ but most of my family have died, got their own families, live abroad or are unwilling to have anything to do with my mother - and therefore me (because I am still talking to her, although I do not condone what she did) and one I do not wish to have anything to do with.
It sounds trite, but I do hope you will find something to do this Christmas. God bless.
2006-11-26 22:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by zakiit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are very fortunate to have your Mum but I can understand you wanting a traditional full family Christmas - like on the Christmas cards. My children only have me (their dad doesn't really bother with them). Do you know someone else who is going to have Christmas on their own. Maybe an older person in the community (or at Church if you are a churchgoer). If so maybe you could join up with them and make both your Christmas' better. - see what your Mum thinks about it.
2006-11-26 22:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by nettyone2003 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be greatful to have your mum, my mum died 2 years ago and every christmas without her is awful and very sad. Although I have a large family and we are very close i now go there for xmas. But it's not the same although it is lovely. My mum made christmas for me. So appreciate it while you're lucky enough to have it.
2006-11-26 22:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by fel t 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww, I like going abroad as Christmas just isn't the same at home anymore. How about going out for Christmas lunch for a change? Reflecting on the past year can be depressing!
2006-11-26 22:06:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel. I don't have much famiy in close and my mother is handicaped, my father has passed on ..I take care of her so... very oft...its a quiet christmas/yule for us.....if I can't get any friends to stop in...we just have a nice meal of favorite foods... doesn't have to be turkey or ham...just whatever we are in the mood for...we play favorite music and watch fav movies on dvd and just have a couch potatoe day .....so yes, be grateful you still have your mum...and invent a new way for it to be special for the two of you!Blessed be!
2006-11-26 22:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by Stormy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feel lucky that you get to spend xmas with your mum. Make it special for the two of you. Have a wonderful meal - it doesn't have to be turkey! - and enjoy spending some quality time together.
If you'd like to spend it with some more people, how about volunteering at a local homeless shelter or old people's home to cheer people up?
2006-11-26 22:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You got it right the 1st time. Be grateful you have your Mum. The first christmas without her will be a very bad one, sorry.
2006-11-26 22:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They say Xmas is for getting together with your family so you'll be with your family i wouldn't dwell over your friends situations as we are all individuals and like to do our own things even on Xmas day ,Could you not ask your friends if they would like to come to your place on Xmas evening for some supper and discuss their Xmas experience .
Don't feel bad about being alone with your mum on Xmas day because if you weren't there for your mum she would be all alone.
could you's not go to one of the church's which cater for people who are alone at this time of year you might be surprised at the welcome you get and you and mum will not be alone.
2006-11-26 22:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by Mea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety be thankful because there are those who have absolutely no one.
However, I offer this suggestion--------
Volunteer at a local church, hospital, or bring Christmas to a child who otherwise wouldn't have one (children's shelter/abused woman shelter).
If you have a military base or boarding school, even a nursing home for the elderly nearby, check to see if their will be anyone alone for Christmas and invite them to share it with you.
2006-11-26 22:13:31 · answer #11 · answered by CAT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋