Have you ever been out with anyone like this?

Question

She seemed to go through this pattern especially in relationships:-

-Met a person/any person
-Showers them with praise and love/Very flirty
-Gets tied up in sexual relationships
-Constant contact by text and phone
-Move on to someone else and tells you so/Loses interest
-Person confronts them and she gets easily hurt
-Cuts off contact and tells friends they are a nutcase to gain attention

Don't get me wrong it was me who got involved with her sexually so I do take responsibility. However it has happended before, she is divorced with 3 kids and she slags off her ex-husband something rotten and were together for 14 years.

Maybe I was a bit naive but I didn't realise that women like this existed! Now I know better, it just makes me more determined and I'm sure I will appreciate it more when I find someone more suitable

Answer 1

You've learned a valuable lesson grasshopper. Now you know. Meet them, get to know them very well, once you know each other well enough to make a life long committment to the relationship, THEN HAVE SEX!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Yes. I am glad you took responsibility. And there is the rub. . . IF you wait to have sex until after you get to know a person, then you may be able to screen out the ones like this. However, since guys are generally horn-dogs and a little flattery and flirting will go right to their small brain. . . good luck. Oh, and by the way, one instance does not a pattern make.

Answer 3

NO,I cant say I have had that happen, nor have I heard of it happening, maybe I am a little naive and maybe next time don't just hop in to bed due some praise and flirty. Choose the ones you get involved with a little more careful. get to know them, learn to ask the right questions and when they are speaking Listen

Answer 4

I know someone like this, it's because she got hurt so badly before, and I'd take a hazardous guess at this woman's ex husband being the culprit.
She longs for love but when she gets it, it's scares her off.
She dosn't want to get hurt so she puts up the barriers and stops it before she gets anymore involved and gets more vunerable.
It's a shame that you got caught up in it all
But it's that poor lass that you need to feel sorry for, you will find love & happiness, where she won't because she can't.

Answer 5

Been there done that. I was persistant and told her I was not just any guy. And like you I took responibility for getting invovled. We had two years of hell before she finally "woke up". Actually i told her enough was enough. That I was the best guy she would ever get( I treat her like a queen, so to speak) and to make a choice about her lifestyle. She's now my wife and we're quite happy but we've earned it too. Good luck to you in finding someone mature enough to realize a good thing when she sees it.

Answer 6

I guess she has a wacky attachment style due to her past history and experiences with relationships with family, friends, lovers, etc.

I dated two guys like this... I was naiive before, but now I have learned my lesson. It was the attention-getting stunts at the end that were really the kicker... that was what really makes me angry! the key is to try and figure out clues to that sort of behavior early on. It's hard though.

Um, well.... sex with crazies is bad, mmkay? [in the voice of that guy from South Park]

Answer 7

Nope, never have, because I can generally figure them out quickly and move on with no further contact. Of course I would not get involved sexually as quickly as you may have.

Answer 8

There are men and women out there like this. You need to just be careful. Good luck

Answer 9

i've met a woman that wanted a serious relationship with me after one week so i'm right there with u.

Answer 10

It takes all kinds to make the world....

not all women are like that ... so keep your options open! ;)
may be she was just on a rebound.... but didn't want anything serious!
neways there are plenty of fish in the pond... so move on ...
all the best!