If you had amnesia and over the next couple of years you saw vidoes and photos and talked to people and came to really like who you USED to be (what you used to be like) would you try to find a way to be that person again? How would you do it?
This is the position I'm in. I hate the post-amnesia me and all my friends and relatives say I'm so different and I personally hate the kind of person I am now and hate my "new" personality.
I used to be known for being patient, extremely nice, competent, and so on. Post-amnesia I'm impatient, not so nice, easily frustrated, not good at things I used to be good at. I can't help it; it's just what comes naturally, like being the other way came naturally before the amnesia.
2006-11-26 21:38:55 · 5 answers · asked by sen 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Maybe the old self wasn't as great as you think. Remember people always speak better of the dead. Your old self is dead and so she seems perfect to everyone perhaps, yes?
What can you do to take a break from trying to remember (and take a break from the photos and videos -- that would be enough to drive anyone crazy or make them unhappy or moody!) and just learn how to be you? If the things your old self used to do were that important you'd still want to do them I believe.
Try to learn to love the new you. You're not stuck as you, you're always learning and growing and changing. If friends and family stop pushing perhaps you'll be able to find out who you are now and they'll just have to get to know the new you instead of being compared. No one does well compared to another person constantly and that sounds like what's happening. I read your other question about this and what happened was a medical problem, not your fault in any way. You don't blame someone for having diabetes or a heart condition, so you can't be blamed for brain damage and memory loss.
I don't know if I would try to get back to the "old me" if I had amnesia. As for you, I think the whole trauma of it all would make Anyone rather impatient, easily frustrated, etc. Go easy on yourself!!
After some time leaving it alone can you try to find on your own what were perhaps some defining moments for the old you so you can perhaps get to know her better if you feel ready? Go slow, and see a therapist if possible. It's not an easy road you walk.
2006-11-27 12:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by le païen 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i havent changed alot.. except 4 being more tough & strong now but that's cause of 1 major event that changed my life completely...
im still d same sweet, naughty, stubborn, moody & witty person b4 & now..
2006-11-27 06:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by 2D1iLuV 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my case i wouldn't because my old self is a boring stupid everyday normal guy doing nothing.. i want my present me better. well, that depends though on the persons past and present characteristics.
2006-11-27 05:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Shred 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not so bad...its like starting over again. may your "old self" rest in peace
2006-11-27 05:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by xapao 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-11-27 07:29:08 · answer #5 · answered by BRAINY SKEETA ® 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋