Should you trust your partner
once they have cheated on you once? Is it a case of "once a
cheater, always a cheater"?
2006-11-26 21:21:19 · 15 answers · asked by Piemu Esquire Team 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you can find it in your heart to forgive, then do it, my mother always tells me to love like i have never been hurt before.
leopards CAN change their spots... if he really is regretful of what he did, try and put it behind you.
You need to remain cautious though, but do not become obssessed with trying to catch him out.
good luck
2006-11-26 21:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by He moonwalked on my <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have already chosen a partner it is assumed that you have chosen the partner after understanding him quite a bit. In that case if the partner has cheated you, you should take the blame.
There are times when you chosse a partner on impulse. Then again you should take the blame.
If it was a mutual decision, then your partner is to blame.
If you were the choice of your partner, then your partner has to be blamed.
It is not always true, once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-11-26 21:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to distinguish. I always say "once a cheater, always a cheater" in regards to men. I however have cheated on several boyfriends but it is not because I CANT stay faithful... I just choose not to. If I do not want to cheat, I wont. A man however has a hard time turning down any sex that is offered to them. I am sorry if I offended anyone out there... I am just giving my opinion.
2006-11-26 21:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by jasam4ever08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a recovering alcoholic. When I was drinking, I cheated. But, since stopping drinking (over 20 years ago) I've never once cheated, nor would I. I'm not that person any more and don't ever have to be again.
I also reaped what I sowed. Lost a 15 year marriage and all that went with it. He definitely deserved better.
So, is your mate a drinker? How does he treat you now? Does he make an effort to let you know you can trust him? If he's sincere this time, he needs to earn your trust.
Also, my cheating had nothing to do with my spouse. My own inadequacy was the reason.
2006-11-26 22:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, once a cheater , always a cheater. Even if he never cheated again, once is one too many. How can you ever trust him again?Believe me, it will always be in the back of your mind if you let him get away with it. It happened to me, I 'forgave' him and him, me and the three kids went off and started a 'new life' thousands of k's away. Guess what, wasnt long before he was 'at it again' , just couldnt help himself. The kids and I, we left him. Never regretted it. Give him away and do yourself a favor.
2006-11-26 21:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by Daydreamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO l don't believe in the saying " once a cheater always a cheater". I honestly think everyone deserves a second chance but only one, if you love someone enough you should forgive them for one mistake. If they were to mess up again though get ready to run. Chances are then that they will keep doing it.
2006-11-27 00:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesnt matter if they will cheat again, the big thing is that you will never trust them again. So that being said, the relationship is probably doomed. but to answer your question, I really do believe that just because a person cheats once doesnt necessarily mean they will cheat again. It depends on the situation. Sometimes people do things that they really are sorry for. If he has cheated on you and others then I would say he will again.
2006-11-26 21:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 100% positive that the married man I slept with has cheated on his wife before me. I don't think there can be any forgiveness with infidelity. Can you even trust the guy/girl after an affair? I think the relationship would be irrevocably damaged after an affair.
2006-11-27 02:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by jewusarmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the reason why he cheated... sometimes the problem can be fixed and sometimes it can't. That's why it's important to understand the motivation underlying his behavior... for more on this see... http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/question/quick_answer/once-cheater-always-cheater.html
2006-11-27 16:07:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never...! a cheater always find excuse to forgive them self than take the next opportunity to cheat again
2006-11-26 21:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by GojiAnn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how much you guys loves each other. You can get opinion from all sorts but the bottomline is do you really love your partner? If you think you can manage on your own then GO, walked out and find someone deserving of your love.. But if you think you cannot live without him..then stay. Life is full of choices.. we just have to be wise. Goodluck!!
2006-11-26 21:38:41 · answer #11 · answered by unpretty_gm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋