I honestly dont think a man should have one or the other but should have both.
It is a question ratios tho .
The heavy armor of chivalry(masculine mental tougness) is heavy and tiresome for men to wear but its what i hear women cry out for in there men all the time.
On the other hand men including myself want to be chivalrus but we have learned to be be perceptive .The crossbow bolts of misandry can pierce the thickest of plate armor of stoicism.
mental agilty and perception seem to take on more of an important role for us males these days , then the heavy armor of stoicism .
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2006-11-26 21:13:54 · 4 answers · asked by bolounit1 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Kate had a question . i will answer with a "nope"
2006-11-26 21:30:32 · update #1
Maybe I'm old fashioned but I am always impressed and appreciate men with chivalry.
2006-11-26 23:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by Craiova 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't ask my lover to open a door for me unless it's in one of those situations where it's simply polite and should be done for anyone. I don't expect him to order my food for me or do all sorts of things for me because I am of the weaker sex (chivalry). As the other answerer said, it is sexist and a man should be nice to be because he respects me as a person not because I have a vagina.
If by perceptive and mental agility you mean, taking time to notice the person you are with instead of the gender your are with and then acting on the situation/person as opposed to simply the gender well then yes, you are correct. These days, women are more than a simple once over as the 'weaker sex'. Basically, just be yourself and care and respect the person you are with.
2006-11-27 06:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whilst i would like all people to be perceptive, chivalry holds sexixt connotations.
Chivalry implies being nice to one gender, & usually infantalising them. Why not just be equally nice to both genders?
I don't expect someone to open the door for me, but if i'm right behind them, it's probably polite to do it no matter what gender they are.
2006-11-27 05:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by eauxquet 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes , I believe you've got it ..... Although, an casual door opening would be cool to..... LOL Are you married?
do not answer that ! lol....you know I am kidding!!
ms.Kate
2006-11-27 05:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by rrainn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋