A guy and girl at work are having an affair. He is married with children and the woman from work that he is cheating with is living with her boyfriend of 9 years. They go to company get togethers and are all over each other. I know the wife of the guy, and the boyfriend ot the girl, but I'm not really friends with either of them. It kills me that these people are being made fools of. Next week at the company christmas party they are all going to be there. Should I tell the wife or boyfriend, or is it none of my business?
2006-11-26 21:10:39 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He will deny it and you will be branded the Big Bad B***h who was trying to split up a happily married couple coz you fancy him yourself. ....Well thats what he will say anyway!!
You will have enemy's coming out of your ears love!
It's a prediciment all right, I personally would like to know if it was my husband cheating, and I'd hope that someone would tell me.
but don't do it face to face, write an anon letter to her telling her days they are together etc (He may say he is working late) and company do dates that she should be coming to as his wife that way she can investigate more and she can catch him in the act.
Good luck
x
2006-11-26 22:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, a Christmas party is not exactly an ideal place or time to find out such information. If you really have to put your two cents in, you can make a call from the office, in priviate, and leave a message to the effect that people have observed suspicious behavior between party A and party B at the office. And leave it at that.
Or next time there's an office get together, call the partner and invite them down.
2006-11-27 05:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the boyfriend of the girl, from my own experience I know for an absoloute fact that most times telling the wives gets blown back at you. Telling a cheated man is better because with his anger he'll do something about it. The wife may hate you for it and do nothing.
2006-11-27 05:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by Craiova 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its true, the wife is the last to know. Tell her.If someone had told me, I wouldnt have had the misery of knowing that I wasted 10 yrs of my life before I found out.
2006-11-27 05:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by Daydreamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly understand your delemer but a word to the wise stay away from it and out of it you will be blamed for it all and no good will come of it if none are your personal friends run like hell!
2006-11-27 05:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by tofatandblack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really none of your business, but as women, we have to have eachothers' backs. I would find a way to tell her anonymously so that you do not have any repercussions at work.
2006-11-27 05:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by jasam4ever08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is none of your business
but, that having been said
What would you like to happen if you were in that position and how would you live with the consequences?
Your choice.
2006-11-27 05:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if you say, because they are not going to believe you...in any case if they do or not, afterward you will have problem with both of them at work...so ask yourself do you really wanna be the victim here???
2006-11-27 05:14:33 · answer #8 · answered by Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. There is no reward for being the bearer of bad news. If he is so open with his affair, she will find out anyway.
2006-11-27 08:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a long distance relationship for 5 years now,he went away with good promises,days passes i felt like falling out of love, but, when i heard that he is cheating, it gave me sleepless night..maybe we will not be able to know the importance of our loved ones once their gone...esp.if for real!
2006-11-27 05:37:05 · answer #10 · answered by nightingale 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋