we are not staying togather now , its kind of joint family and my husband is like a doll in parents bro's sis's and sister inlaws hands they creat problem to me and now we are away from each other what can i do now
2006-11-26 20:27:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
stay strong ..try to work things out with a clear mind
2006-11-26 20:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Fallen_ AngeL♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband wont leave his family. You have got to accept it either you go back to your house where your husband is or accept a life without him which will eventually lead to a divorce.
I feel you speak to your husband about how you feel. Tell him your problems. Tell him what it is that is bothering you so much. Even after all that you have told him he does not believe than you have to make up your mind and be strong.
On an mean note ... if your husband does not accept all the things you speak about his parents and siblings. Than accept the mistake and say sorry to everyone in the house. In front of your husband be very nice to all and when he is not around fight with every one and make them miserable.
2006-11-26 20:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, dear, there are always going to be people who influence your life. You just don't have to incorporate their misery into your life.
Try to focus on what needs to be done in a day. Then find something that you enjoy, reading, working out, take a class, become a Girl Scout Leader, etc.... and follow through on that. Focus on you.
He's going to do whatever his family tells him to do. You can't make him do anything. Keep your opinions to yourself for now. Observe how this goes. And know you are a worthy person regardless of his actions.
2006-11-26 21:40:34 · answer #3 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe
this is wat is called arranged marriage .. i have been through the hell and let me tell u that u will have face this life long .. since ur parents look for boys family and background .. ur literally married to whole family and not ur husband and u have to keep everyone of them happy and u think ur husband is a doll one day he can become urs or never urs
this is bad gamble played by families in india and girls like u ... who believe in ur parents have to suffer like this .. i know u have great respect towards ur parents but in few days they will send u back saying they don't beat u naaa... and all kind of sentimental warfare common to indian society
i will tell u ... if u have rejected some lover of urs over ur parents interest u can never be happy with ur husband and parents
this is silly but true ...ur parents might have seen everythin abt the guy's background and they never look at ur likes and dislike .. ask ur parents abt the guy ... they have greatest thoughts for him .. not because he good ... only because they have such an ego
do let me know wats happening there ..
2006-11-26 23:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by Sansita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi...
did u remember the day u r parents matched u r kundali with him.. u r caste... and all that bull **** goes that before marrage... ask u r parents is this life what they dreamed for u...cannot change past... woman is a godess of patience..give him chances... if not 1 then 10... talk to him... persuade him to listen to u...he has some responsibilities towards u... afterall u r his responsibility for life... if he dosent understand that.. and licks u r in laws A... every time...then i think u should go in u r way... yeah easier said than done... but it's u r life.. u already made a lot of compromises i guess... if u dance to there tones.. 1 day u'll loose u r self... and u'll jus see no point in livin.... u''ll be just a machine in which blood runs in place of oil...u'll start hating u r self.. and they have no right to do that.....u deserve respect.. and if u don get it.. u should jus walk off....i'm writin this coz.. i of my friend has also given her views... sushma. talk to her... she can help u out.. and don forget me...
2006-11-27 06:12:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your husband into confidence & try to explain him your problem.One thing is very much important in married life is the girl has to compromise a lot. analyse the entire situation. if your husband is good then ignore the rest of the things. give some amount of time to your in-laws. then they will also realise that you are good & they will change themselves. it takes a minute to break & spoil the relations but it takes ample time to build the relations.
inspite of giving some opportunities to your in-laws to realise that you are good for their family ,if they still behave bad with you then you insist your husband to live with you seperately.
even if living seperately you can maintain relations with in-laws.
2006-11-26 21:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by s d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about grounds for annulment, in preference to divorce. You do want a legal professional. in case you may't have adequate money one, you may qualify for loose legal tips. If not, you will get an legal professional who will be prepared to get your husband to pay your legal expenditures. in case you own the homestead you're in, do not move out. the guy contained in the homestead is the threat free spouse in some states. the guy who left is the to blame one, and the homestead is regularly provided to the guy contained in the homestead. Your husband will be required to pay his percentage of each and every of the expenditures, in case you get a sturdy legal professional. call legal help, or call any legal professional on your city and ask the position you will get "professional bono" amenities (loose), or the right thanks to get represented on a charge plan. No, I doubt you will get alimony. You were absolutely married 4 months. yet you will get a million/2 of those expenditures paid. sturdy success.
2016-11-27 01:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi for ladies there is nothing is impossible. once talk with u r husband and talk to him about this situation if not possible just go to tour with u r husband for one week and discuss what to do the come to conclusion
2006-11-26 20:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by Alex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be big / open hearted , its like a making new friends in life ,be very polite &dignified. give respect to everyone & most imp thing take in confidence to ur husbond by all means.tyr to opt give &take respect policy.
2006-11-26 23:55:05 · answer #9 · answered by hem4238 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where do u stay? In india ? then no problem. Go to Women protection cell. immediately they will get set right.
2006-11-26 20:34:34 · answer #10 · answered by SureshkumarYVS from hyderabad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋