Me! I have a crush on my best girl-friend. She is just so amazing. She's a great actress, singer, increadably smart, eco friendly, sensative, etc...
The way i see it there are only a couple things going on here
A. A gay guy (me) has a rare "straight" crush on the opposite sex
B. I'm way more bisexual than i admit to myself
C. It's just innocent love twards your friend
In the beggining she told me things like "wow if you were straight i would go blow you right now ha-ha" and she's always all over me and keeps grabbing my hands and making me touch her in innapropriat places lol. Now I've told her i have a crush on her but she said we can't act on it if its not physical and it realy isnt. I think i fell in love with her soul and how increadably tacky is that?
What do you guy's think?
2006-11-26 20:25:43 · 14 answers · asked by sined 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Some women flirt with gay guys because they know it's "safe" and they think nothing will ever come of it. It is unfair to mess with your head. But a true friendship can balance on the edge of a physical relationship, no matter the claimed sexual preferences. There could be some truth to the fact you feel some "soul" connection to her...I believe strongly in these things. A relationship from a former life, if you believe in reincarnation this can be possible (soul mates). Keep it casual, because it can be fun. If it gets serious to the point of a possible sexual encounter, she will back away or not. If you are open, let it happen....it could be the beginning of a wonderful relationship of just friends. I believe, if she thinks she will get hurt, she will back out. Do remember hearts are on the line, yours and hers, and many times sex can ruin a good relationship. Communicate with her all your feelings and you can seldom go wrong. Good luck.
2006-11-27 02:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by truckinotter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That it's not abnormal I mean before I came out of the closet I had been with girls, but in the end the relationship was usually heartbreaking for the girl. Just because your gay doesn't mean you are not going to ever feel anything for a girl. However if it goes further you will only break her heart in the end, and you know this. Girls are very perceptive, and will catch you in that gaze toward a hot stud that passes by. The urge for men will only grow more if you deny the need. I speak from personal experiance crushes are cute, but leave them at that. What you feel for men (if you are gay) is more than a crush its desire, and there is a differance.
2006-11-26 20:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by foxy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had crushes on both as child. It could just be a security issue at a young age but at age 6 I had a crush on the neighbor girl Lisa who lived on one side of us and a crush on Trevor who lived on the side of us and on Steve my brothers best friend who was 2 years older that lived down the street. At that age and proximity it seemed very real then but now it looks like it may have just been an attempt to maintain a comfort zone.
2016-05-23 08:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww, that's sounds so sweet. But if your not wanting it to be physical, then it's best to stay friends. It sounds like she wants you, and would want to take it further but it would be odd to have a boyfriend that would never want to be physical. She deserves to have that type of connection that you can't give her.
She seems to have started something by saying things and getting you to touch her. Take a step back. Ask her kindly to stop. Think it through before you do anything you might regret. What's going on in your mind probably isn't realistic.
2006-11-27 01:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by pippy4tao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally natural.
Happened to me, I met a girl who was just incredible, and she had a raging crush on me for years. We messed around, once, and I realized that...it just wasn't happening. Attraction's both physical and mental. You can be attracted to someone mentally and that doesn't mean you have to go questioning your whole lifestyle. I'd say, if youre overly curious and she's willing, to "experiment" with it, but only if she's aware that its just an experiment and your feelings sexually are...less than existent. If it doesn't work, it doesnt work.
I'm leaning towards C. though. Many straight people have the same thing from time to time, an innocent admiration that leaves them confused because it's very like attraction.
2006-11-26 21:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by KitsuneBoi85 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is fun! i experienced something a bit similar to your situation. i'm a lesbian, and i'm more on the butch side. and i have a gay friend who used to have a massive crush on me! nothing blossomed in any way though, but he always made it a point to let me know that i was always on his mind, stuff like that.
anyway, back to your case, as long as you and your friend can make some sort of arrangement between the two of you, then there's no reason for you guys not to get it on! \m/
2006-11-26 20:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had a very similar experience. I love my best friend and we've talk about it our feelings for each other before, but she knows I'm gay. We connect really well and can talk easily to each other, but it isn't physical and I know that it would just be awkward if we ever dated so we are just really close friends.
2006-11-27 18:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by Liir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't imagine having a sexually satisfying experience with her, then I think you're in a case of option C. If you can, then I have a feeling it's a case of option A.
I doubt you're bisexual- usually you need to extrapolate those feelings to the whole gender for that to be true, not one person.
Hope that helps.
P.S.- I don't think that's tacky at all!
2006-11-26 20:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you love the person you will love the body they are in, gender makes no difference. A physical relationship will be beautiful.
2006-11-26 22:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by Ian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick one dude........I have no problem with gay....but bi is retarded......What stops you from liking animals??? Or like being urinated on??? Got have a line somewhere... She likes you cause your gay...probably thinks she can convince you to turn straight so while you sit there thinking that I am insulting you so bad...It's actually her who doing the insulting cause she is supposedly your best friend yet she can't even take you serious as a gay person.....She's gonna turn you..........right??????Didn't think so
2006-11-26 20:32:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋