Is it possible for someone to TRULY change their sexual preference??

Question

Like some people say that they hate men so they only like women, but do they truly feel attracted to women by simply wanting to?

um. . .who said I believe, personally I believe people are born with their sexual preference

Answer 1

Its a complicated answer.

Alot of people in the world try and force their sexuality a certain direction, and actually live their life through like this.

If your asking whether someone can truely change their sexual preference, honest to themselves, i dont know..

I myself am gay, but in my opinion, lust and love are two different things.

I find men attractive only, but a long time ago i met a girl who was the sweetest thing on the planet, and she was innocent and in my eyes beautiful and i wouldve started something with her hadnt she left my life.

I feel that theres no such thing as gay or straight, but finding love, and choosing whether to deny it becuase of preference, or not.

The mind has a way of justifying itself, and if you do fall in love first, its afterward that sexuality comes into play, and alot of thoughts and things can get you sexually aroused and therefore introduce "sexual attraction" into the picture.

I dont think an initial prefference can be changed, no. I think if your attrated to guys for whatever reason, your attracted to guys, and thats that.

Some closet people may not like this lifestyle, and its completely possible that they may find something in a woman they like as well, and everything goes good. (but this means they're probably bi) But this doesnt CANCEL out what they liked in men, it just means they made a choice.

Life is about choices.

Sometimes you cant choose, like if you dont like women sexually, then you dont, and forcing yourself is wrong, and vica versa.

Sexual prefference is something that exists deep within ones mind, and its probably formed during childhood, small bits and pieces of your life that sculpt who you are, and somewhere along the line, connections are made as sexuality develops.

Anyway, i'm dragging on... I dont think sexual preference can be changed. I think it can be ADVANCED, better understood, "moved up to the next level", and whatever those imply.

Answer 2

Honestly, I don't know. You hear stories about people that have been "cured" but I know that it doesn't work for most. I know for sure that I will never stop being attracted to women or men (I'm bisexual). I guess some people have stopped having relationships with the same sex, but I don't think that they've stopped having feelings for the same sex. You also have to take into account that everyone who lives a gay lifestyle, may not be gay. They could be bi and not even know it and confuse it with being straight. There are so many scenarios that I can think of. Sexuality isn't something that you just change at you're convenience. I believe that if you are really gay, then you are gay whether you decide to live a heterosexual lifestyle or not.

Answer 3

Personally, I dont believe in a set sexual preference. We're attracted to who we're attracted to, for some of us that's one sex or the other, but it can be both, or neither depending. Sexuality, as the Kinsey study has shown us, is more of a spectrum than a black/white choice.
That said, many groups have claimed to be able to "change" sexual preference over the years. Most of them have quite embarrassing statistics of people who reverted back to the gay lifestyle. That's prompted many groups to change their way of thinking and just call for gay abstinence instead of gays getting married and leading a straight lifestyle.
For the men and women who believe they have truly changed their preference, I would submit they have instead chosen to focus on what attraction they had to the opposite sex. I hope they lead happy lives, but I fear they're giving up true attraction to fit in with the rest of society.
Another point to be made is that this sort of thing is extremely rare the other way around. There are very few people who've been straight and enjoyed it for 20 years, say, and then went gay. If you talk to most of those people, they'll tell you they've been gay their whole lives but were afraid to come out because of societal pressures. It indicates, to me at least, that being gay is "less desirable" sociologically and so people are more willing to get out of it and suddenly "turn straight" so they can be more socially accepted than they are to get into it, which means they have it as an inherent quality to begin with.

Answer 4

You are looking forward to the same answers which i did sometime back till I met a psychiatrist to discuss this problem and this is what he had to say:

"NO" this can never be changed!! What can change through therapy is one's behavior, there is no medical treatment that would change this preferance/orientation and this would remain like this all your life!!

There are 3 aspects to this whole thing:
1. Sexual Identity
2. Behavior
3. Sexual Orientation/Preferance

If the 1st of the above has a problem, most likely you would have problem with the rest of the 2 but if the first is fine, one can hope that the 2nd is also normal but again the 3rd may be a problem!!

Feeling sad and hopeless with my answer?? Yes, that's what I felt too when the doctor told me this and I still continue to fight my life through all the related problems which are even more troublesome :(

Good luck to you and to the rest of them having similar issues to deal with!

Answer 5

Well first off it's not so much a person's sexual preferance that you're asking about, but rather their sexual orientation.
Preferance suggests choice, which in that the answer would be "yes, of cource anyone can change their preferance."

But can someone change their sexual orientation, no. I don't believe they can. One can change the way they choose to live, but it doesn't change what their natural orientation actually is.

The problem with your wording is that sexual preferances refer to body type, image and sexual expression in the bedroom. Such as sexual positions and what not.

Answer 6

Recent studies suggest that bisexuality is much more prevalent among women than men. So women who "hate men" and turn to women are most likely bisexuals who have abandoned heterosexual behavior. Sexuality has a fluidity to it, ebbs and flows, but if you have homosexual attraction, it's not going anywhere.

Answer 7

I believe that God teaches that a man should be with a woman...but even if a gay person (a man for example) is attracted to a man...they will always feel that they are supposed to be with a man (even if they want to be with a woman).

So...I feel that it all depends on the person.

If a gay person felt that they were supposed to be with the same sex from the beginning...then they probably will always feel attracted to the same sex...

But if a "gay" person that is only "gay" because of certain circumstances i.e. hurt from the opposite sex, hurt, etc.; then I would say that they can truly feel attracted to the opposite sex by wanting to.

I hope that this helps.

Answer 8

Nope. If you are able to drop men and be with women, it implies that there's always been some sort of bisexual capacity within you from the start.

I believe that sexual preference can change, but you can't do it consciously like that.

Answer 9

its possible to repent of almost every sin.
except the few sins that are called sins unto death.
if you have not murdered someone or if you have not raped someone, then its possible to be forgiven. if you have a way of paying restitution and restoring the wrong and making it right. Then you have the ability to change and ask for forgiveness.
If you have lust in your members for same gender sex, i think people can be manipulated like Pavlovs Dog. if manipulation is present in the environment, then all you have to do is change that and it will change and go away.
just simply growing older will take away the lusts of youth.
but after all is said and done You have to be sincere and want to change and Yes, God made it so the will is stronger than the flesh. but most people dont know this

Answer 10

PEOPLE ARE CRAZY!!!! i hate that anyone says that, its such bullshit!!!!


okay, if you have a sexy man and woman right there ready for you do do them, i think okay man! yay! but if there was only a woman and i had to do her, i wouldnt be able to, my penis would go soft faster than i could touch it.



okay here is the gay test.






a penis and a vagina are in a tent, and its on fire. they scream for help but! you can only save one. which one?