I've known this lady about 4 years and the only time we meet is when I do the inviting. She's been to my home for dinner a few times. She keeps saying "You must come over for dinner at my place and also go out for a pizza sometime", but I never see it. I've texted her 'hellos' and invites, but she never answers. When she rings, she phones when she knows I'm at work and so my mom answers it. In the early stages of the so-called friendship she said to me, "When I first saw you, my heart lept and knew we could have a good friendship". She rang my home twice last week (again when I was at work) and each time told my mom she'd ring me later when I got home, but never did. What shall I do? If someone says they'll ring me back, then I do think they should and me not rush in to ring her back.
2006-11-26 19:35:16 · 19 answers · asked by The way I are 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds like this person just calls when SHE needs you. That sucks. I know a few people like that too. I can't believe you have know her 4 four years!!! I think you should not make yourself so availiable to her, then she may see what a good friend she is going to loose!!
I'm sorry about that girl!! You sound like a nice person.
Love
2006-11-26 19:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"She rang my home twice last week (again when I was at work) and each time told my mom she'd ring me later when I got home, but never did."
This behaviour seems to indicate that she is testing your friendship by seeing if you ring her.
She appears to be a quite insecure person from what you have said.
Maybe she has had bad friendships in the past.
To have known her 4 years and not go to her house is not usual.
The best thing to do would be to try and arrange something there and then next time she suggests you come back to hers.
Also don't rely on this friendship lasting too long, because if you push the issue she may just back off completely. Take it slowly and don't expect too much from her.
I'm sure you have other friends so work on them also.
All the best.
2006-11-27 04:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by daddykojak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds simple but I would ask her.
If she's done with the friendship than you have nothing to lose. Or she could being going through something. Or maybe you have upset her some how and she is scared to say something about it. Really if you have been friends this long and she felt so good about the friendship at one time than being open with her should not be a problem. Just ask I'm sure it's not as bad as you think.
Good luck
2006-11-27 03:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by tsostler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she says you must meet up, tie her down. Say "when". Do you enjoy her company? If so, take what she offers - be glad to see her but don't expect any more.
Perhaps she can't afford to entertain/phone you? Or she might be tight. Does she work?
I had someone tell me the something similar when they first met me. Good friendships are developed. It takes two to make a friendship and there seems to be a problem here. If you enjoy her company, dont' expect much.
2006-11-27 03:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess your friendship is being tested and tried to see if it can endure the storms of this world. One thing you ought to do is talk to this lady and let her know about your concerns and the need for the two of you to keep communicating, and if surely she values your friendhip, she will change. And lastly 4 years is such a long time to give up on somebody. Wish you luck.
2006-11-27 03:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by Sammo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically shes not a true friend is she. She just uses you when she needs you. Friendship is a two way street. Say to her that your not going to go out your way to be her friend anymore becuase you feel shes not being a friend to you.
2006-11-27 05:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by Minnie Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone who has commented.
Just stop texting or calling her. Or at least dont do it too often.
Dont chase her.....if she wants to be friends then she will make sure she calls when your in, or actually have you over for dinner.
Otherwise I would say to phase her out of your life!!!
2006-11-27 03:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly that's pretty weird for her to tell you that her heart leaped when she met you. Maybe her intentions are not as pure ans sincere as yours. Try asking her straight out if she knows your work schedule why does she call when she knows you won't be there ask her confront her about it and be prepared to hear anything Cu's she seems weird to me.
2006-11-27 03:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by calimexgirl!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Short and simple...she is a user,a freeloader. If she cannot even be bothered to return just the one 'phone call to you when you are at home,then she really is not worth it. Suggest to her that she slings her hook elsewhere.Bin this bint.
2006-11-27 04:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds scary make sure you know her properly as she mite not be someone you want to know .But she might of forgot about the phone call.
2006-11-27 03:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋