I am lusting for a man I shouldn't. How can I stop this craving? I daydream about him all the time!?

Question

btw, I'm married!!!

Answer 1

Direct your energies into something else, maybe art, write a story about someone in your prediciment and have your character fulfil your desires instead of acting on them yourself, allow yourself to obsess a bit, but if it gets too much, do something else. Don't try not to think about it, or not to do something, but make sure you are occupied and busy with other things so the opportunity is not there.

Answer 2

You didn't mention if you were happily married or still in love with your husband. The snare we humans always fall into is entertaining thoughts that we know are destructive but continue in our patterns. You are about to make a move and a decision that may cost you a price you don't want to pay. Things always look better somewhere else. Why not start your process of thinking and pondering on your husband and his attributes and why you married him. Daydream of the things that do belong to you. Don't fall into the forbidden fruit syndrome because once you cross the line it is a long hard road back. Have a great sit down with your husband and just talk. No need to hurt him but you do need to talk. There has to be a clitch somewhere and getting to it fast is the best way to curb your appetite. And if there is truly no problems there you just may end up with your imagaination out of control and the reality isn't what your daydreams thought they were.

Answer 3

First I hope that this isnt your main yahoo account. I would hate for someone to recognize it and spill your beans. Second I think it is ok find someone outside of a relationship attractive, but if they are attractive enough to draw you out of your relationship then how much did you really value your relationship?

There has to be more than lust for 2 people to be married. Maybe you should try to resurface those other reasons why you accepted his ring. Think about the times when he was courting you, think about special moments you shared and relationship problems that you all have made it through so far. I can tell you that emotions make people do some crazy things in their lives but I do know that Lust never lasts as long and is as meaningful as LOVE.

Answer 4

There is something wrong in ur marriage if u are thinking about someone else! Is this man available to u? If so dose he feel the same? if he dose u need to be honest with ur husband and tell him. If this other guy doesn't feel the same or isn't available then stop it and try to work out ur marriage or leave him.
Ur being unfair

Answer 5

I noticed that you asked another question about how to not be sad and lonely.

This seems to indicate that your husband is not paying you enough attention. This is a sign of a marriage in trouble. I would suggest marriage counselling if you want to save the marriage. However, if you don't think your husband would go for marriage counselling, then maybe it is time to end the marriage.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong in this. Its a good sign of virility. Many women want to lust but they cant. You are a lucky one. Go for it and have fun.

Answer 7

After you are divorced, wait a year and see if this guy still looks appealling. 1 million bucks says he doesn't.

Figure out what things you like about this guy and try to apply them to your husband. You did vow to stay faithful to him, right?

b.t.w. do marriage vows just not mean anything to people nowadays?

Answer 8

You again.
Ok now i must Either go and do it with him or simply just masturbate as many times you think of him.

Answer 9

one won't be lusting for another one who shouldn't !!
so , take it easy ..

Answer 10

jump your hubbies bones every time you think of the other guy.