He 36 and i'm 23 I've been a stripper for a long time and I also work in nursing. I get very depressed by this and i can do better than him, but i care about him. Plus he never wants to go out of the house ever I don't know what to do but i can't take much more I want to love someone physical and mental. He loves me but can't give me what I need. I don't know what to do i just can't walk out of our relationship I have kids with him, and he doesn't ever want to get remarried cause of his ex-wife. I want to be married someday. So should I just cheat or what?
2006-11-26 18:55:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I guess I should have stated this again I don't dance now!!!!!!!!!!! plus that isn't the question.
2006-11-26 19:22:19 · update #1
BOTH OF YOU NEED TO SEEK A THERAPIST !!!
TO SALVAGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND MOST IMPORTANT FOR THE WELL-BEING OF THE CHILDREN !!!
2006-11-26 18:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok, hun, you need to rethink ALL of your life. Here is my suggestion. You are still young, and changing for your kids should be your first thought. QUIT STRIPPING!!! You can financially make it if you are really a nurse. And, if you do decide to leave him and he fights you for custody, that occupation could hurt you. Then....you need to talk your feelings out with him. See a counselor. If he does not open up and tell you, then move on. Do not cheat. That goes along with the stipping. You are a mother and need to be a role model for your children. You need to grow up, if for no other reason, for your children. These are kids, the world is hard enough as it is, without having a stripper for a mother, and an emotionally un attached father. Good luck!
2006-11-26 19:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by PROUD wife of a soldier in Iraq 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well first of all you are young sweetie...and no do not just cheat...have an honest adult conversation with your bf about how you are feeling..If you are not happy suggest changes if he is not willing to work on this with you...then I think the answer is clear..you need to move on and gain your life back. He will still obviously be apart of your life and you his because you have children together, but that doesnt mean you have to be a romantic couple. It sounds like it might be time for you two to go seperate ways romantically..
2006-11-26 19:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by thereis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all i would like to say how much i feel for you
because i am in the same situation minus the kids
i think you really need to talk to him
tell him u r suffering and that if he loves you he shouldnt hurt u like this
dont cheat u dont have to
because simply you can leave him and have the guy of ur dreams
i think may be he's stressed out or having an issue of some kind
2006-11-26 18:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by evildoodleeer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump his butt- and don't believe the line about not getting married because of his ex- wife-you have been w him since you were 18- he has something else going on- leave- and get legal custody of your kids and child support-HE has trained you- and helped shape your ideas- move on-D
2006-11-26 19:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you and I are in the same boat. I don't want to leave my husband but I do want to have sex!!! I have talked to him about it and then he usually is a little more willing in bed but it's not enjoyable he makes me feel like its a chore. I have made comments about getting my needs fulfilled elsewhere and he just shrugs. I have someone that is much younger then me that is looking for a purely sexual relationship and I personally am considering it.
2006-11-26 19:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like Christian gray from 50 colorings e book, or in different words, an entire douchebag. besides, any guy who'd call me a princess could discover himself back the place he got here from.
2016-10-13 04:46:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask for professional counseling.. the two of you..
maybe you need to stop being a stripper coz you have a family now.. just be your boyfriend's private stripper.
don't dump him.. think about your kids!!
2006-11-26 19:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 5 years everyone gets bored with an old toy... even a nice one like a Ferrari will lose its lust if you're riding in it everyday.
And if you're stupid enuff to think that your job suggests nothing about you then maybe its the lack of intelligent conversation that he has grown bored with.
2006-11-26 18:57:46 · answer #9 · answered by who 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you're planning to cheat, dump him first.
2006-11-26 18:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by star_puk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋