its about four months we have been friends .i never knew she had a fiance - so i wanted to tell her how i feel about her. but the period i wanted to tell her was the period she broke up with her fiance.though you may say "its better for me" but i dont think so because my knowledge of her relationship and breakup is making it difficult for me to tell her how i feel about her.should i tell her now or i should wait for some time so she could get over the breakup?
2006-11-26 18:44:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Help her get over the break up. Sounds like she needs that.
You can always tell her later and she may even be more appreciative of the fact that you were supportive and kept this to yourself in the meantime.
Good luck...
2006-11-26 18:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by jinz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait. Neither of you are in the position to start off a new relationship at the moment, and you wouldn't want to be the rebound, would you? Be supportive as a friend, and then let your friendship develop and deepen further. Only when she has found her level, and recovered from this breakup, can you consider making your current feelings known. And, who knows, your feelings might change, too.
Best of luck!
2006-11-27 02:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by bouncingtigger13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waiting is not always a good idea. You don't know how she is feeling about it, you don't know what exactly is going on there. If I were you I woulnd't wait, whether she thinks straight now or not. If you find it hard to talk, send her a long e-mail, a text to her mobile phone I have something very important for me to tell you. You can loose the chance, it might not sound very romantic but life can be very wicked.
2006-11-27 04:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was in ur friends position and u told me how u feel about me i would take it as u are just trying to chance urself. take ur time no matter how long its gonna be. she needs to get over the break up and make sure u know how he feels about u before u tell her, it might cost ur relationship. good luck
2006-11-27 03:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by vfm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should not tell her right now bcos she will feel that its not love but sympathy. The ideal thing is right now you give her all your attention and take proper care of her. But make your move fast else someone else will take the advantage of these weak moments and you will be left alone.
2006-11-27 02:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by nandru_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you play it by ear, as you are asking on here, then you are really not sure of anything, so give it time and you will know when the time is right........good luck and god bless
2006-11-27 02:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be friends and give her time to get over her fiance- good idea-D
2006-11-27 02:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two things i could tell from this...
one she probably festered some feeling for you for one, she didnt tell you that she was getting married, and two she broke it off with her to-be married hun.
and two, your confused by this abrunt settlement.
ssooo, you should wait a little, until you find out what you want.
2006-11-27 03:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a day or 2,
then let her know how you feel,
whilst acknowledging that she may not be ready yet ...
she'll let you know when she is ready
this type of question has been asked many times & answered many more
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2006-11-27 02:51:05 · answer #9 · answered by echo c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not in love with her at the moment.please move on ; life is to short. good luck.
2006-11-27 03:07:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋