2006-11-26 18:30:01 · 7 answers · asked by seeker 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Is it possible what you think makes you happy does not make you happy at all? I suspect its time to find what REALLY makes you happy....no one hesitates to do what feels GOOD!
2006-11-26 18:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by moosie2026 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are a man and I am a woman, it is a little harder for me to discern what you are getting at here. I suggest writing down a list of all the things you are really afraid of. You need to set some goals about challenging those fears.
I have had a fear of the dark and a fear of heights. Skiing got rid of the fear of heights, not that I am jumping out of an airplane anytime soon. The dark I am still working on, but it is a lot better than it used to be. These fears are defense mechanisms for anxiety and help to cover up traumatic experiences from early childhood that you don't want to deal with. Yes, I am psychoanalytical and I am probably right.
Anyway, you may have a fear of success that is haunting you. You could be very talented and smart but fear you haven't worked hard enough for other's approval. Sometimes, it is because of natural insecurity and other times people have made you feel this way by treating you badly. You deserve better. Everyone deserves to be happy, but you have to deal with the workload involved.
2006-11-26 18:35:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the classic "fear of success" condition, whereby you are afraid of how you would be able to handle happiness that you might not feel you deserve, or how to handle feeling happy most of the time. It's complicated. Read the novel "Feeling Good" by Dr. David Burns. And do like smart, succcessful people from all walks of lifee do: Get a referral to a pyschologist/psychiatrist....life is short. They will greatly help you take the bull by the horns and wrestle this problem down.
2006-11-26 18:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by unfinished_adolescent 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason to be scared to be happy is the fear of losing it. Think this way, that when u r unhappy u can't be happy, so y be unhappy when happy ?
2006-11-26 18:42:29 · answer #4 · answered by rani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. Each time there is happiness in our lives, there is sorrow sitting in the corner like a cat-ready to jump at the happy and careless rat the moment he feels free enough.
There is not an easy way out. One has to live in the present, and take life as it comes, welcome happiness whenever you find it, and enjoy it, at the same time don't forget/overlook your weak points, your shortcomings, your parents and family members. When you share your happiness with family and friends, your happiness increases many fold, and when you are in pain, sharing your grief with loved ones, decreases it.
In our life, there is no such time when there is total happiness, and no sorrow at all. In our happiest moments there is an iota of sorrow somewhere in our conscious. And god has structured our mind in such a way that we forget our happier moments very fast, though the sad moments make us sad even after decades.
So life is like that, and if you learn to live in the present, and not forget your duties even in the worst of times...you'll be happy for yourself.
2006-11-26 18:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by sameer s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest to believe in the God , that every thing
is planned by him , ask the God for every thing
need and do not hurry for the answer , because
sure it will come soon or later ,
2006-11-26 18:38:22 · answer #6 · answered by gulfhorizone 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be contented withyour life... it deosnt mean you need to be "happy nor "unhappy" just be who you are...
2006-11-26 18:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by bugi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋