if u were married for a yr n then got pregnant for ur husband whilst u came to know that he wasnt the guy the rite guy and he hardly bothers to take careof u n ilterates u very badly n u live in ur mothers house he doesnt come to see u neither the boys parents r bothered .what would u do?apart from thinking to separate from him coz of the childs future.
Give me practical answers plsss.
2006-11-26 18:28:16 · 16 answers · asked by Be kind! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
According to me u both shud go thru Counselling,and sort out the problem by talking to him.,Why is he doing such things. I think he really loves u ,but maybe due to some work pressure he might be able to see u, if u think he is cheating u,better u get rid of this marriage ,or else it will affect both of ur life.Dont marry anyone just for the sake of the marriage,u shud first know the guy with whom u r marrying.Anyways my gut feeling says ur problem will be solved and u will lead a good life with ur hubby.Dont take unneccessary tensions orelse it will affect ur child health.God Bless u
2006-11-30 04:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to me u both shud go thru Counselling,and sort out the problem by talking to him.,Why is he doing such things. I think he really loves u ,but maybe due to some work pressure he might be able to see u, if u think he is cheating u,better u get rid of this marriage ,or else it will affect both of ur life.Dont marry anyone just for the sake of the marriage,u shud first know the guy with whom u r marrying.Anyways my gut feeling says ur problem will be solved and u will lead a good life with ur hubby.Dont take unneccessary tensions orelse it will affect ur child health.God Bless u
2006-11-26 18:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by friend_simple_guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U seem to be in a tight situation. It sounds as if ur husband doesn't care much abt u.....so if i were u I'll get a divorce. Y spoil ur entire life if ur marriage isn't a happy one. U r thinking abt the future of ur child but ask ursely this....can u bring up a normal child in a hostile atmosphere??? Imagine what pyschological damage will be done to this child when u n ur husband keeps on fighting n he illtreating u. Move out...better to raise a child alone than let the child n u going thro mental torture.
2006-11-28 02:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by garfield 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi There,
Can't you make this marriage work? You have not married his parents so dont bother about them but why dont you speak to your husband and try and sought things out. Why cant you tell him that you feel negleted and that you have his baby and that you both should try to work on your relationship again. See it might help. Talking is the best way to solve problems in relationships.
But in case if does noth than firstly do you have a job if not than get one. Then speak to your parents if they would be fine with you and your child living with them if they say yes the next step would be find a good lawyer and apply for a divorce.
Hope things work out in your favour. And you find your love.
Good Luck & God Bless
2006-11-26 18:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound much like you've got a marriage...Unfortunately, too often people jump into marriage for whatever wrong reasons...Sounds like you learned pretty quickly that this guy isn't 'marriage' material, tho not before you made the plunge...If he's not taking care of you, not spending time with you, chances are he's replaced you. He's already distanced himself from the marriage. If I were in this situation, I'd get out of it...I can be miserable ALL BY MYSELF, tyvm...Not to mention, I know you must be miserable and your son is looking to mom and dad as examples for HIS future...Be a strong woman...Teach this child how a man is supposed to treat his wife and family, otherwise, he's sure to follow in his father's footsteps...Good luck to you.
2006-11-26 18:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by sweetthangjanee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce, how is this good for your child when its clear your husband does not care about him. Children are better off growing up in loving environments, not loveless environments. Do not put that stress on your child, you are already living with your mom, so stay there and either go to school to gain self confidence or just get a job.
2006-11-26 19:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not living with the family he is already separated.
In that situation it would proper to question the marriage the relationship is obvious.
I would recommended some serious conversations with him about the future and the situation before making life changing decisions........
2006-11-26 18:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by justpatagn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already answered your own delima. You already know he isn't the right guy and you deserve better than he is giving you both physically and mentally. If you had a daughter would you let her be treated the way you are?
2006-11-26 18:35:25 · answer #8 · answered by Special Edition 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to sort out the matter. try to make up bcoz all this hassle in the pregnancy stage is harmful for the lady and the child. try something seek some professional help or a relatives help and work out.
2006-11-27 05:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by yourfreind_forlife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best way is to lodge WPC ( women protection cell.).
IF u r in India, then recently there is a women bill where u can lodge complaint and all of them would go behind.
According to the new bill, no one can ask a lady to leave the house.
But apart from all the above, winning their heart is more important.
2006-11-26 18:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by SureshkumarYVS from hyderabad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋