Sick and tired?

Question

I am working overseas, youngest and only boy (26 yr-old, single) among the ‎seven member of my family. All my elder sisters were married (two are divorcee ‎and two are widows). I am supporting my sick mother and helping my three ‎sister's children for their school tuition fee and other expenses. I felt I am too ‎generous enough for what I am doing but I don't feel regrets at all. Each ‎month ends, there is nothing left in my salary to be kept as a savings. I am sick ‎and tired of doing this and need some good advise!‎

I came from far east (one of the poorest country in ASIA), Only one of my sister reach college, others dont as we came from a poor family. I am the only survivor and only person that can help them.

Answer 1

You're a blessing...trust me..keep doing what you're doing. God gave you common sense you'll know when your family is abusing your help but trust me, you'll be rewarded for what you're doing.

be blessed...

Answer 2

They are not your responsibility and you should not feel inclined to do it.
You simply just stop doing it.
You can also budget your money to give a smaller portion and keep the rest for your own savings.
If you don't regret it, then why are you worrying about it so much?
Either stop it, or just keep doing it, but just remember that a consequence of giving away all your money is that you won't have any at the end of the day, so it's up to you.
Do you want to be everyone's pimp or do you want something for yourself and future family?

Your future wife will NOT be happy with this arrangement, and if you don't get it under control NOW or stop it completely then you'll be doing it the rest of your life, or until all of them die.
I'm sure they can earn money.
I know a man who is severaly physically handicapped and can't even talk or use his own hands but he is remarkably brilliant and makes over 100,000.00 as a major executive in a large firm. Hey, if this guy can do it, so can anybody else who sets their minds to it! Just remember that while you're being so "charitable", you are also handicapping them to not be able to grow and learn to care for themselves.

Answer 3

You have to stop trying to be everything to everyone. At 26 you need to be saving and investing in YOUR future. It's nice to help family now and then if you're able...but these people are draining you of nearly every cent you make. I don't know what country you're from...but if it's the USA...the divorced sisters can get child support for the kids from the fathers...the widowed sisters can get social security benefits for their children...you mom may qualify for state assistance, medical card and food stamps if she is ill and unable to work. You have done far more than your share to help...now it's time to concentrate on your life...these are not your children to be supporting

Answer 4

From now on.....never start something that you can't keep up. You also need to stop spreading yourself too thin. Inform all parties envolved of how you feel and that you will not continue making those payments. Are they working? Can they take care of themselves? How did you get started making the payments in the first place? Do you know exactly what is happening with the money that you send for sure?

Answer 5

you are a good guy!!! you cant turn your back on your family in their time of need, but explain that you can only be partially responsible. tell them to take loans out to help pay for their kids' schooling. there is such a thing as being TOO nice!

Answer 6

Oh hun.. I think that it may be time for you to give your self a needed break.. which also means taking some of what you have earned and using it for you.. I think all would understand.. If not well, then really they maybe selfishly taking your kindness for granted..

Answer 7

You need to take care of yourself also. I guess your family doesn't realize that money doesn't grow on trees. You need to explain to them your situation. Remember that you have enabled them to the point where they're not willing to help themselves. Why should they? They have it easy and you have made it too easy for them. You need to tell them that in order for you to keep helping them, you also need to help yourself.