We have been married for 16 yrs. But my hubby has taken a new job a long way from home. He and I are finding it difficult keping our lives connected to eachother with such a great distance between us as we only get to see eachother one wkend in a 3 every three months.
Can long distance relationships survive?
2006-11-26 18:02:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My other half is a mariner away from home for long periods.His times at home are like a honeymoon we spoil him and do all the things he wants to do.I assume your hubby is getting better pay for being away?Bite the bullet and get on with it .Surely it wont be forever or you would relocate.Make ever y second count when you are together.If he is on land you can phone and e-mail.How about letters and cards we hide little notes and treats in my hubbies seabag .Of course you miss oneanother you will just have to work on your relationship that little bit harder.
In answer to your question .My hubby has been a seaman now for 48 years he has had one christmas home in the last 7 of those years and goes away tomorrow untill the middle of january Yes you can make it work,others have gone before and survived.Hope you get on O.K.think possitive and make your time together really count
2006-11-26 20:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by Xtine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's keeping you from moving to where he is? The fact that you haven't tells me that you and he may have been growing apart way before he took the new job. Him taking this position and jeopardizing the relationship was maybe his way of getting out of it and leaving you to make the hard decisions about your marriage. At any rate, statistically, long distance relationships don't last. So either move to be with him if that's what you both want or continue to drift apart. Sad to say, you're at a fork in the road and those are basically the only two alternatives.
2006-11-26 18:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by 2sweet 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not very long. This isn't the solution, can you work something else out? You moving there? Him quitting the job? The relationship WILL suffer and no job is worth it.
Hope you work it out, 16 years is a lot to invest.
2006-11-27 08:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly. Rama left his wife Sita for 14 Years.
How many Mariners and seamen leave their wives for Years and years?
Once an american mountain climber fallen down from the Everest and fall into deep coma for 16 Years. Amazingly he recovered from the Coma and returned home and found his wife married three times!!!!
In ancient times a warrior gave the key of his house to his best friend and said "I go to the war and if do not returned within a Month's time consider that I am dead and have my house and wife as yours" and went to the war on his horse.
On the halfway he saw his friend was riding an another horse at a cyclone speed following him and crying " Hey..........stop.!stop!!"
"What?"
" On your hurry you have given me the wrong Key!"
2006-11-26 18:34:32 · answer #4 · answered by Karunah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have lived like this for 15 yrs, it is hard, we have had many ups and many downs, but if you love is strong enough to cope with the pressure, you will survive!
2006-11-26 23:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by Welshchick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fyou wanna make it work then yes... ive been in a relationship like that where my girlfriend lived miles away... so she is now in the process of moving in with me. If its a problem then why not both of you move closer to where he works?
2006-11-26 18:05:59 · answer #6 · answered by 2 good 2 miss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It certainly can. What you have to makek sure though is that you are giving enough of mind stimulation, to make sure he hasn't forgotten, how do you do that, you know him by now. Send him e-mails, dont' call at inconvenient times and make him miss you but not for too long. You can do it for sure.
2006-11-26 20:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was over seas with the military for about a year. Very high pressure from time to time. Our relationship didn't work. Hope you have better luck!
2006-11-26 18:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by krash 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A relationship can last and even prosper over long distances and separations. Its all to do with whether you love each other enough to make it work..
2006-11-26 18:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by robert x 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes.. my husband work overseas, we will see each other after a year..
it can survive.. if love and trust is present
2006-11-27 00:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by labs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋