is it strange to think about your ex?

Question

I sometimes catch myself thinking about my ex g/f. nothing sexual, just kind of missing her company. I've been married for six years. Is this wrong?

Answer 1

actually its completely normal. :) especially if the love you had for that ex was something special. you can never forget your ex. no matter how hard you try. most pple just kindof put it in the back of their minds. but no, its not wrong nor weird! everyone does it. technically its part of being human lol

Answer 2

After six years with wife you think about your ex g/f.Its not unnormal.I bet you think what if's.But the chances of your ex thinking about you is remote.She moved on.When you catch yourself thinking about the whatif's.Look at your wife and know that you choose the right one and think about what you can do for her,like maybe having a date night once a week.I bet pretty soon you wont be thinking about ex g/f any more.

Answer 3

This is about as normal as breathing. After all, regardless, this was a person who you knew very well and were intimate and close with at one time. Unlike good friends who we do not otherwise have sex with, ex spouses we often don't see or contact anymore, or society looks at it as funny if we even keep in contact with them. But go on with your life. You may be missing a fantom memory of a person you loved who never really existed in the first place.

Answer 4

It's not "wrong". But, don't obsess or react to it. Just accept it as a nice memory of a person that meant a lot to you. Now, you are in a commited relationship. Keep your promises. Honor your wife and any children that there are. Under no circumstances should you "look up" your old g/f. Let it go.

Answer 5

i only think about my ex when i am thinking of a way to get rid of murder. (which might explain why i am so obsessesd with crime tv.)

but i imagine this is due to you remembering the good times. you are reminicing. nothing wrong with that. she was a part of your past. we don't forget our friends we made back in elementary just because we no longer see them again. everybody misses something about their past especially if a moment made them smile.

so go home, and make some more warm memories with your wife. because you will be remembering that moment much later with a smile.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with it. There is, however, something wrong with telling your wife about this, if she is the jealous type. It will hurt your wife and it will cause tension. This is one of those instances where it should be obvious to anyone sane that "NO SECRETS" is a stupid policy.

Answer 7

I don't think so. I think its just natural. Don't feel bad..I'm married and think of my ex sexually. Is that wrong?

Answer 8

i don't think it's strange...but maybe there's a certain quality your ex had, that your new wife doesn't have and you miss it, even though it was an unhealthy situation. all i have to say is just don't tell the new wifey...she just might flip out on you!

Answer 9

Yes, its normal, it validates, it was a relationship, not a hookup, convience, etc. It honors that at one point you had a loving relationship, with someone. People change and relationships fail, but that doesn't mean, you have to hate them, or that there wasn't something there . . . . something that changed, but nonetheless something was there. Good Luck!!

Answer 10

i don't know if it is wrong for you. All i know ,is that i truly do not sit and reflect back fondly on my ex. I closed that door a long time ago .