I have tried talking to him about it but he just says he doesnt need it that much. He does not like to talk about that either. Other men find me desirable. It's so hard when I get compliments from other men and not my husband. I tell my husband about the remarks and he doesn't care, he says he is not the jealous type. I want sex. What should I do?
2006-11-26 17:26:13 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was married to a man like that for 15 years, had two kids,
and simply existed from day to day.
I was a damn good looking woman when I was younger (still am). My husband would tell me the exact same things yours is
telling you.
About the 12th year of our marriage I did have an affair, a one night stand really, and felt absolutely awful afterwards (guilt).
I was starving for affection, Just once a week would be better than every three or four months, because thats how it was for me.
We have now been devorced for 22 years, both remarried.
His new wife is now telling my daughter she's having the exact same problems I had with him.
Men like that don't change, I even tried to get him to have councelling with me, he refused..saying nothing was wrong!!
If you know for sure that he's not messing around, then the only
other thing it could be is HIM..plain and simple..
I just wonder if your marriage has always been this way.
I really don't see how you guys can survive this.
Every woman needs love and affection (including sex)..
2006-11-26 17:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually all the things you wouldn't do. Or the kind of exciting spontaneous sex that a lot of couples stop doing when they get stuck in the routine of day to day life. They like the fact that they get sex whenever they want it and they get the kind of sex that they want. If they didn't stray due to lack of sex then perhaps he was looking for the 'porn' kind of sex...maybe you wouldn't give it to him or maybe he didn't want to ask you for it. The best person to ask would be your husband. If you are trying to work on things he should be able to be honest enough to tell you what he felt was missing and what the other woman did to give him what he needed. For some men it wasn't as much the sex that drove them to it..It can be non stop arguing, constant nagging and the other woman is nothing but nice and he gets to feel wanted with the added bonus of sex on tap.
2016-05-23 08:02:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Well the statistics show that marriages have problems at about 7 years (the 7 year itch). Has your husband seen a doctor about his lack of sex drive? Could you maybe talk him into seeing an MD? Ask him if he will.
Do you still love this man?? Is your marriage important to you both? Maybe if you let him know that this could affect your marriage he might do something about it if he cares about you and your marriage enough.
How do you feel about this besides frustrated? Would you consider having an affair just to satisfy your physical needs. Maybe in addition to him seeing a doctor you might both consider counselling. I know getting a man to counselling can be like trying to walk up a wall but if you believe your marriage is worth saving think about it.
LL
2006-11-26 17:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by LeapingLizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are you? I don't know any women that aren't getting enough. All of the ones in our social circle complain that they have to keep "the old man happy", but would rather just go to sleep.
There is only one solution that I know of and it's not a cure all: testosterone injections. Your husband will have to agree to see a urologist or internist to find out if he has lower-than-average testosterone levels and then agree to the treatment. There are side effects, however, and that should be fully studied before entering into treatment.
If your husband has trouble finding cheap testosterone, tell him he can have some of mine....for FREE! My wife will be glad to extract it from me and give it to him.
2006-11-26 17:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a cold shower and cool your jets. An affair will only screw up your marraige. Get counciling and get hubby to see a doctor, there may be a reason for his lackluster libido. This is one of these "in sickness and in health, till death do you part" promises that you made, and I hope that you are not a liar.
2006-11-26 17:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by The Nag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has a low libido they have meds for that but i get the feeling since he doesnt like talking about it he damn sure wont feel free to take meds for it. some men can be a s frigid as women sometimes. you might have to go looking for other sources if he doesnt start pleasuring you try www.hustler.com/store they got a variety of toys
2006-11-26 17:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, be careful, there may be other reasons e.g
1) he is involved with another woman
2) he may be in debts or other problems and trying to cope with it and have no interest in sex ( physcological problems)
3) he may had contracted an STD or HIV and does not want to pass on to you .
Hope it is not serious, he will come back.
Good Luck
2006-11-26 17:40:12 · answer #7 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is on medications that might have lowed his testosterone level.Studies have shown that men with obesity, diabetes, or hypertension may be twice as likely to have low testosterone levels. He needs to see a doctor.He needs a check up.Its not all about you.If you need sex more than worrying about your marriage buy a vibrator.
2006-11-26 17:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by Joan C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a meeting fixed with a marriage counselor and a sex counselor. Make sure that your husband isn't too tired, exhausted and stressed.
2006-11-26 17:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seduce him. That's what I'd do. And jealous or not you shouldn't tell him what other men say and if you know these men you should ask them to stop.
2006-11-26 17:32:07 · answer #10 · answered by Just Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋