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Question

What did you do for your honeymoon (where, etc.)?First anniversary or two?How long were you engaged before married? How long did you know person before you got married?Do some people put kids off for as long as five years or more? Do you get along with the in-laws/spouses' siblings?What kind of wedding did you have?any theme, colors, etc?If the wife, do you stay at home (housewife), or work because you want to or have to/just do? Do you look down on housewives? Is a man who takes care of his wife traditional, overprotective, jealous? Do you think your life is so much different compared to what it was before? Do you miss being a teen/ or hate growing up so fast. I want to still finish my bachelor's even though just for personal reasons...good for me? I wonder where I'll be in five years/doing,etc? I guess I'm just thinking a lot now. Please just give any marriage/life experience advice. I was just wondering what marriage is like to others? Thanks.

Answer 1

What did you do for your honeymoon (where, etc.)?
Honeymoon in Chatanooga, TN (Great time!!!)

First anniversary or two?
1st anniversary-Wimberly, TX (Bed& Breakfast-absolutely gorgeous)
2nd Anniversary-St. Charles, MO (Casino-first time ever & I banked!!)

How long were you engaged before married?
4years

How long did you know person before you got married?
4years

Do some people put kids off for as long as five years or more?
We did not, I had 2 from previous, he had 2 from previous, 1 together, and adopted 1

Do you get along with the in-laws/spouses' siblings?
I have the most awesome in-laws, I love them so much, and he gets along with mine the same.

What kind of wedding did you have?any theme, colors, etc?
Quiet and Intimate wedding, we lived together for 4 year prior, so we did not need the big sha-bang.

If the wife, do you stay at home (housewife), or work because you want to or have to/just do?
I am a housewife and a mother. I homeschool ALL of my kids, and I take very good care of my husband, it is by my choice, I love it, and I would not change a thing.

Do you look down on housewives?
NO WAY!! I do not think we get enough credit or respect anymore. I work VERY HARD for my family, we are not on any public assistance, nor have we ever been. I think we are looked down upon these days, but I think to each is own! I am tired of being looked at like I am nuts. We have 6 kids, and I get to take the credit of raising 6 wonderful souls. (Not one with drug problems, no run a ways, no drinking. just GREAT kids) I take a LOT of pride in that!!!

Is a man who takes care of his wife traditional, overprotective, jealous?
I think that my husband works very hard to take care of his family. He is not jealous, but he is very overprotective, and I LOVE that security. Not only has he raised 6 kids, but he is in IRAQ as we speak, protecting our Freedom. He is a wonderful man, and I take pride in the fact he is my husband!!!!

Do you think your life is so much different compared to what it was before?
I think my life is my dream life. I always wanted a lot of kids, and a good husband that loved me. I got it all, I am the richest woman in the world! ; )

Do you miss being a teen/ or hate growing up so fast.
No, I like being an adult. Teenage was hard. I have 5 teens now, and I would not want to go through that again!!!

I want to still finish my bachelor's even though just for personal reasons...good for me?
GREAT FOR YOU!!! You know, I am not an idiot either. I went to school and recieved a bachelors degree and 2 associates degrees. People think I stay at home because I am lazy or I do not have any trades or experience, but I CHOOSE to stay at home, and I choose to homeschool my children. I like knowing that my children are getting a great education and I get the joy of experiencing every step of life with them.

I wonder where I'll be in five years/doing,etc?
In 5 yrs? hmmm.........I SHOULD have only 2 kids left at home, and maybe some grandkids by then. That would be cool. My oldest is 18 now, and the 2 boys are 16, so might be lucky to get at leat 1 grandkid by then.

My advice is to take one day at a time. Do what you enjoy. Do not worry about what others think. I live my life for me and my family. I do not need anyting else. Honesty, trust, & communication ....& LOTS of love is what it takes to have a good marriage. Same with raising kids. I have an awesome line of communication with all of my kids. I do not try to judge their feelings even if I feel they are not right, I try to just discuss it with them. Good luck with your future. I hope that it is filled with all of the love I am blessed with.

Pray for our Soldiers!!! There are families out there that are sacrificing a lot for those soldiers to be there!!!

Answer 2

What did you do for your honeymoon (where, etc.)? GATLINBURG,TN...IT WAS MORE OF A FAMILY VACATION AFTER THE WEDDING

First anniversary or two? A QUIET DINNER, A NICE GIFT. I THINK THE FIRST YEAR ANNIVERSARY IS A PAPER GIFT.

How long were you engaged before married?6 MONTHS...HAD TO DO PREMARITAL COUNSELING.

How long did you know person before you got married? TWO YEARS

Do some people put kids off for as long as five years or more? YUP...IN MY CASE WE'RE OLDER AND I DIDN'T HAVE ANY KIDS...SO WE GOT STARTED RIGHT AWAY.

Do you get along with the in-laws/spouses' siblings? YUP...WOULDN'T HAVE IT ANY OTHER WAY.

What kind of wedding did you have?any theme, colors, etc? WE HAD A VERY SMALL WEDDING! VERY INTIMATE.

If the wife, do you stay at home (housewife), or work because you want to or have to/just do? I'M A STAY AT HOME MOM WHO DECIDED TO HAVE A HOME BASED BUSINESS IN ORDER TO SPEND TIME WITH THE BABY.

Do you look down on housewives? A LOT OF PEOPLE DO...BUT IT'S A NOTEWORTHY JOB WITH PLENTY OF BENEFITS.

Is a man who takes care of his wife traditional, overprotective, jealous? IN SOME CASES YES...BUT I TRULY BELIEVE THIS IS GOD'S ORDER. MY HUSBAND LOVES TAKING CARE OF US.

Do you think your life is so much different compared to what it was before? LIKE NIGHT AND DAY...IT CAN BE SCARY MAKING SUCH DRASTIC CHANGES BUT IT'S FOR THE BENEFIT OF THE FAMILY.

Do you miss being a teen/ or hate growing up so fast? NO...I DON'T MISS IT.

I want to still finish my bachelor's even though just for personal reasons...good for me? YES...IT'S GOOD TO COMPLETE YOUR GOALS IF YOU'RE ABLE TO.

Answer 3

I went to Myrtle Beach for my honeymoon & just relaxed. We took our son with us. We went to an amusement park for our first anniversary. We were divorced by the second. We were engaged for about 7 months before marrying. We knew each other for 2 years. We didn't put off having more children. We had more immediately. I get along well w/his siblings and his parents (although i think they are weird). A small wedding. A big reception. THe colors were white & red. I work because i have to. I don't look down on housewives, I wish I could be one. A man who takes care of his wife is traditional & a gentleman. Life isn't different but marriage is hard. I miss being a teen like crazy. I think you should finish your degree, yes it's good for you. We got remarried this year.

Answer 4

Okay let me try to answer these. 1.I didn't have a honeymoon my first marriage, and my second we went to Pigeon Forge and Gatlinburg in Tennessee. 2.We are on our 5th anniversary. 3.Me and my current husband were together for 10 month before we got married, but knew each other for years, but never talked. And me and my ex-husband were together for 2 yrs. and married for 2 yrs. 4.Yes, some people put off kids longer. 5. I didn't get along with my ex in laws, but I love my husbands family like they were my own. I do try to avoid one sister in law, but we've always gotten along when I do have to see her. 6. My first marriage was the courthouse, my second just a small church wedding. 7. Pale yellow and white. 8. I've stayed at home with the kids for 2 yrs. now, but always worked cause I had to before that. And plan to do some kind of work after the youngest goes to school. 9.I think it's great if a woman can stay home with the kids. 10.It depends on the man. Although my husband doesn't care if I do work he's also happy to be able to take care of us while I keep up with the kids and housework. 11.A lot different. 12.I don't really miss being a teen, just some of the things I used to do back then. And I wish I hadn't been in such a hurry to grow up so quick. 13.I think it's great that you still want to finish your bachlor's degree and you really should. 14. Only time will tell. 15. I love my married life now. I didn't with my first husband. When I think about it now, I can't remember ever thinking about the future when I was with anyone else, but I think about the future with my husband all the time now. I've never loved anyone like I love him and we would do anything we had to do to make the other one happy. Are you married now or just thinking about it? Hope this helped.

Answer 5

I'm going to try and answer your questions in the order you ask, hope I don't miss any!
Las Vegas
Phoenix & Nashville
engaged 2 yrs.
I knew him 5 yrs..
yes they do.
I really like my in laws
Simple private ceremony
I gave up my career, my choice.
My husband is old fashioned, although he would have no problem if I decided to restart my career.
My life is very different, and I wouldn't change a thing.
No way do I miss being a teen, and I agree you should finish school, for yourself.
If the two of you really love each other and don't try to change one another and keep the lines of communication open you'll be as happy as I've been. Just make sure you get the career thing and desire for, time frame when to or not to have children settled first. You don't want to marry someone that in no way wants children if you know you do or vice versa.
I enjoyed my career and from time to time (kind of) miss it, but I wouldn't go back to work. I'd miss getting to have lunch with my husband everyday and going on his business trips with him too much. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Just went home, went out to eat on other anniversaries, 2 months, 6 months, had first one after being married 2 years, got along with them fine, got married by justice of piece, I had to work--not enough money,no--they get to be home with the kids, traditional,no it was worse--to much abuse--got a divorce,I don't miss the teenage years at all.

The best advice that I can give you from my own past experience, is to make sure that you are honest with your wife at all times, never ever cheat on her, be very affectionate with her at all times, take her with you as often as you can, communicate with her about everything, never hide anything from her, give her flowers for no reason at all, remember her birthday, give her gifts from time to time for no reason, be very understanding and ready to listen, make sure that you let her know how much that you appreciate her all the time, tell her a lot that you love her and how much you love her, help her out with house work and any thing else that she does as much as you can, give back rubs and even rub her feet.

Hope this helps you out and also hope it don't scare you off from women. Not all women like all this stuff, but most do. The better you treat a woman the better they are, or at least that is the way it is with me and some of the women that I know.

Answer 7

We have been married for a long time so. We had no honeymoon,he was going to collage at the time.We lived together 3 months before we married.We waited 4 years before we had our first son (our choice to wait ).I love my inlaws.My motherinlaw will take up for me before any one eles.We went to the justice of the peace.I didnt want a big wedding we had no money and I wore a short white dress and he wore a suit.I stayed at home and raised my sons.I am jealous now of other women who went on to have a career.They are gone I need a job .I have no work record.I will not be able to draw SS because I never worked outside the home.He was jealous in the beginning but over time he stopped because he learned to trust me.he isnt over protected of me he is the best friend I ever had.I was 18 when I married.I feel like i havent missed a thing.I dated before him so I knew what was what.Finish your school.Get your education .It is good for you .The only reget I have after being married for so long is I have no work record,now that I need one. Being married has been a adventure.A good one.Like riding a roller coaster instead of a merry go round. GET YOUR EDUCATION.

Answer 8

We went to Hawaii for 10 days. (the place was overrated), We went out to dinner on our first yr, we got invited to lots of parities so we celebrate w.friends as well. Engage for 1 full yr before tiding the knot. I knew him 3 yrs before getting engage. we had long distance relationship. We got married for 2 yrs now and plan to have kids. We figure 2 yrs is enough time to spend w/ each other before having kids.I get along great w. his siblings & mother. but I don't like my mother in-law. She's to blunt. if she doesn't like something about me she'll tell me so in my face she don't care if she hurts my feelings. We had 2 huge traditional weddings. one in East coast one in West coast. Color were pink & lavender theme were romantic. I am still working at the same job before marriage. Life is much different after marriage. More responsiblities, went out alot less, can't do thing spontanous gotta think about your other half.Of course I missed being a teenage. No bills to worry about. You should finish school before getting married. Take your time and have fun while you can.Marriage is not as easy as it seem. It's can be frustrating at time. There is no rush to marriage if you truely love one another.

Answer 9

i went to nepal for honeymoon.first wedding anniversary i dined with my family and friends in a big restaurant.i was engaged for 7 years before we got married.i knew him 13 years before i got married,he was my neighbour next door.i think people put off children cause they want to be financially stable first. i put off having kids for 3 years.well, i do get along with my inlaws but they are a handful. you must know how to handle your inlaws.i had a big wedding , with 400 guests.the theme was traditional indian wedding.i was studing when i got married.after marriage i finished my studies and worked for a year.now i am a housewife and its my choice. i think its your choice who you want to be.no, i never look down on housewives. i have been a career woman and now i am a housewifeand i know how in both situations women work a lot.a man who takes care of his woman is a real man. instead of eating off his wifes hard earned money, he is taking care for his wife, but he should also give his wife a chance to work on her own, then he is not jelous.yes, life changes drastically after you get kids. then you cant only think of yourself but you have to think of your kids too.i miss being getting married so soon. i wish that i could stdy a little more and made something of myself before settling down.my advice is that you finish your studies and make your dream come true. cause once you settle down there is no going back. you only live once ,so dont get into the marriage hoopla unless you have completed your dream and wants to retire. cause marriage is a retirement from your needs, your wants and your identity. after marriage you just think of others but not you. you leave your life and start being a slave.

Answer 10

It is often a good idea to put off having children for a while. Get you
goals in order and do them. There is nothing wrong with being a housewife! You work if you want to or need to. Children are costly,
this is why folks limit the number of children they have! There is nothing that says you must have children!