pregnant and single i need help?

Question

im 16 years old i was in a good relationship for about a years 6 months into the relationship we decised to have intercourse i found out that i am 3 months pregnant i told the guy and he left me i dont know what to do or how to tell my parents i need help

Answer 1

well first off the guy is an idiot i would take him to court for child support just tell your parents straight up if you wait to long they might get mad but back to the guy hes not worth your time if he tries to get back with you i guess go ahead so both parents can be there for the baby but if he don't i wouldn't worry about it you know you always have your parents there to help you

Answer 2

No matter what, your parents love you. They may be upset, but above all else, they love you. Remember that when you go to talk to them. We are all human and make mistakes.

With that said, talk to them.

Raising a child is never an easy thing to do, especially if you are a signal parent, but it can and has been done. Successfully :)

Consider, if you want to keep this baby. Just because you are young doesn't mean you can't keep the baby. You can still finish H.S. and go through collage with a baby :)

If you decide keeping the baby isn't going to be good for you, adoption is a GOOD alternative.

I would NOT recommend an abortion. Besides all else, abortion is very emotionally hard thing to do, and live with. Many people who have had them, end up regretting it years later.

Try going to this website to find a Crisis Pregnancy Center near you: http://www.cpclink.com/

Talk to you parents. Check out the website. And DON'T let yourself be pressured into doing anything you're not 100% sure of. This is YOUR decision, and your baby. You are the person who have to live with the decision you make.

Take a deep breath, and talk to your folks.

Good Luck, be well.
Tree~

Answer 3

I had a girlfriend that got pregnant when she was 17 and her boyfriend didn't want the baby or her. She had her son anyways and she met a guy who loved her and her son and they got married, and are now having a baby of their own. I think it is a wonderful thing to have a baby, although it isn't for everyone or every situation. I hope that you tell your parents, and I hope that you keep the baby. It might make your life tough but it will make it better in the end. My aunt also got pregnant when she was 17, my grandpa kicked her out of the house, and she came and lived with our family. She ended up meeting a man and getting married also, they tried for years to have a baby but couldn't. If she hadn't have had my cousin she wouldn't have ever had kids. You never know what life will bring you, embrace it!!!

Answer 4

I got pregnant at 15 and I thought my parents were going to flip, but they didn't. she left the choice up to me, and I had my daughter right before my 16th birthday. Now Im 26 and I take in 1 teen mom/pregnant teen at a time and provide them with free long term room, board, supplies, and medical insurance for both mom and baby as well as teach the mom newborn/infant care. Education is also very important, if you choose to keep your baby be sure to finnish school, there are schools for pregnant/teen moms that provide special hours and free child care. I provide my teen moms with free child care so they can further their education. So go ahead and tell them, it's better for you and your baby because you both need to be seen by a doctor. and if they do flip you know you will always have a safe place to go. My email is [e-mail] I can give you some more info.
Good luck!

Answer 5

2 years ago, my daughter who was about your age found out she was pregnant and was afraid to tell me too. I figured it out anyways (the morning sickness can give it away) and found that no matter what she did, that I love her as much as always and I have been there for her for the whole thing and love her daughter beyond belief (and am so proud to of what my daughter has accomplished since then.) It is hard but tell your parents and I hope they give you the support you both will need in the months (and years) to come. Good luck!

Answer 6

The first thing you need to do is tell your parents. I know how you feel. I was in your shoes at 15. I sat down with my mom and told her that I have something to tell her that is going to upset her, but that I need her more now than ever. I told her that I made a mistake and that I'm pregnant. It took her a couple of days to calm down, and then she helped me with all the legal things such as DNA tests for court and child support. Whatever you do, don't let the jerk that is half responsible for this get away with not helping you at all.

Answer 7

I got pregnant at 17, even though it was a few months away from my 18th birthday, it was still very hard to tell my parents. Instead of telling my mom right out that I knew I was, I told her that I THOUGHT I was and needed her to get me a pregnancy test to see, so that way when we found out together it wasn't nearly as shocking, even after I went to the doctor and found out that I was about 4 months along.. You need to tell your parents so that they can help you figure out everything that you might not think of to be prepared, and especially to get you insurance, or to the doctor, so you can take care of that baby! And my boyfriend also freaked at the time, he went away to college as was already planned a week after we found out, and acted like nothing happened. But then he decided that he wanted to come home and be with us and take care of us, so he came back, we are now married with two kids and very happy! Things really take some getting used to, and if the guy doesn't come back, you don't need him, and it's not worth it! But do make sure that he takes some kind of responsibility for his actions!

Oh, and one more thing.. Don't even try to talk to him before you make up your own mind. More than likely, he will tell you that you need to get rid of the baby and make you feel bad about yourself or just in general, and it's not worth it. If someone else knows before you tell him, then you won't have to deal with it alone! And you can email me anytime [e-mail] if you need to talk!

Answer 8

I think, in my opinion, you should try to contact your BF first & talk to him about your situation. And then, try to see if you can talk to your parents. Of course, you know they're going to be mad at first but if you talk to them I'm sure they will understand esp. now that you are pregnant. And then, try to see if you can get some medical assistance immediately. You need to see an OBGYN immediately because, remember that the first trimester is the most critical stage of the fetus-unborn baby. So no matter what happen, you should see a Doctor right away. And lastly, take advise from people that you love and trust.

Answer 9

Oh girl, i was in almost the exact same situation last year, but i am goin to ask you to please not get an abortion. i didnt, i am also 16 and my son was born im october, but i choose adoption. So please email me and we can talk about it more, [e-mail]. I know how hard it can be to tell your mom that you are pregnant, but i would write her a letter or something like that so you can get it all out in the letter and then ou both can talk about it. GOOD LUCK SWEETY!!!!Oh and you might try to figure somrthing out with your man but no offense you probably wont get much of a response guys dont care......A$$ holes

Answer 10

first of all delaney i think is an IDIOT! abortion is an option. im only 36 and a grandmother why? because my daughter was in your shoes not that long ago NO i didnt think abortion was an option for her. anyway she was scared to tell me like you are she thought id be upset and unforgiving. honey im sure your mom loves you as much as i love my girl, i was shocked and yea hurt but i ( and your mom) stood by her every step of the way, we told her dad together we let her make the choice that was right for her and yea her life changed drastically but we now have the most beautiful grandson NONE of us would give up... so go to your mom right away it will only stress you more waiting and as for the guy he showed his true colors good luck