Do you believe that you CHOSE to be gay or do you naturally feel attracted to the same gender as in that you were born that way??
2006-11-26 16:46:43 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
To set things straight, I only asked gay people. . .
2006-11-26 16:59:19 · update #1
Why would anyone choose a difficult life? Especially when it would be so easy according to straight people to "choose to be straight." If so, I have a question for them. Why don't they CHOOSE TO BE GAY? See all those emotions running through you straights right now? That's how we feel. We feel "how can we change, if we could, wouldn't we? Same as straights who are asked to think gay." They find it incomprehensible to think about men, as I do about women. Its just not normal for me, sorry, does that sound like a choice or something I'm stuck with? I cannot remember feeling anything other way from the age of 5 on up. The men were always attractive the women were always the nice ones. So, while it may be a choice for some, it was not for me. The very idea that I could have CHOSE this life is laughable.
2006-11-27 06:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you only want to hear from gays and lesbians, but I think this may apply.
I was raped seven years ago, and I decided that I did not want to interact with the opposite sex anymore. I wanted to be attracted to the same sex (even though I have always been straight).
Needless to say, I have not even experimented due to the fact that I am not attracted to the same sex. And I have had to get over my fears so that I could enjoy a sexual relationship (with someone of the opposite sex).
I tried to turn myself gay (with the help of a very traumatic incident involving the opposite sex), but I could not. I believe we are born either gay or straight.
2006-11-27 01:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by the guru 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been attracted to girls...and eventually women for as long as I can remember. I had never been around, or even heard of gay/lesbians before, (while growing up) so figured there had to be something wrong with me. I dated men, until I was in my mid-twenties. By then I discovered there were other people out there like myself, and that I was not alone. I don't think I would choose to be lesbian, for myself or my family....it certainly isn't the easy way....but I am who I am....and I am proud to be me!
So in answer to your question, I would have to say...definatly born this way.
2006-11-27 01:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly K 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think if it was a choice, no one would choose to be gay. The world is hard enough, and being gay makes it eve harder; mentally, emotionally, etc. I think that people are born gay; once everyone realizes that it's not a mental illness and it can't be fixed (and doesn't need to be), maybe we can start moving forward.
2006-11-27 01:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you choose to be straight, or do you naturally feel attracted to the opposite gender in that you were born that way??
2006-11-27 00:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by question_ahoy 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I was born bisexual. For me, it wasn't a choice. Maybe for some people it is- I'm not them so I don't know for sure- but I don't understand why anyone would choose to be bi or gay; it's a lot of discrimination to deal with.
Thank you for asking a polite question. Too many people in this section are simply here to bash and/or proselytize.
2006-11-27 01:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by Zeke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not choose to be gay, I tried so hard to be straight, I even dated women and I was still attractive to guys. Yes, I was born this way, and proud of who I am.
2006-11-27 00:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Born! I never suffered any childhood trauma or had any LGBT exposure. I just remember that a little girl in the first grade was awfully cute. Thirty-six years later I am still interested in women in a romantic nature. I am who I was born to be!
2006-11-27 02:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by Hidisar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone is born bisexual, and people, events, and influences in their life send them in one direction or the other. ... Maybe.
Honestly, I don't quite know what to think. I'd prefer to believe that it's about love, not about gender. I'd like to believe that everyone has the potential of falling in love with anyone of either gender, because true love doesn't have boundaries. But I'm not sure what I believe.
So... I'm neither, thank you. I'm a lesbian because I was lucky enough to meet the greatest girl in the world. That's all.
2006-11-27 01:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by Brenda 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, having been on both sides, I guess for me it is more a case of being attracted to the particular person regardless of their sex. I have been married, have two children, got divorced and it was awful, became attracted to my now female partner. I am now in a relationship with her. She has always been gay, but was abused by her father. That may have something to do with her preference for women. Anyway, right now this is working for me and I can say that this is a much more open and comfortable relationship then my relationships with guys has been.
2006-11-27 01:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by kar506 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋