fix their plate?? I mean is waitng on your husband hand and foot, "out" or what?? Is it really that wrong??
2006-11-26 16:20:54 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While I do fix my husband's food plate and I do many other things for him as well that our daughter's consider waiting on him hand and foot, my husband does many things for me also. He rubs my feet after a hard day of work. He makes sure the oil is changed in our cars. He does maintenance around the house. If I have to work lots of extra hours he will fix dinner and do laundry.
So for us it is a two way street.
2006-11-26 16:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by pj_gal 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I did that for my x boyfriend all the time. I not only fixed his plate and took it to him, but also I carried the salt,pepper, drink,ketchup or what ever he needed to him while he watch TV. Did that a lot. When he was done, I either put the stuff up or he did. I waited on him hand and foot. I didn't have to do that either, I just did it cause I wanted too. And we both had jobs too.
2006-11-27 01:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.... seems like your having some issues with your hubby. I hope everything gets better. Now... this question can have a lot of different answers. It depends on your husbands personality. Is he a needy man? Does he EXPECT things from you? Does he appreciate the things you do? If he demands things from you on a daily basis and expects things from you than this could be irritating and I could see where you might be frustrated. I wouldn't say it's degrading. Now, if your husband asks you nicely to bring him his food or asks you as a favor than that is different. My husband makes his own food sometimes, makes me food too but other times I will make him food and serve him. In a marriage it's all about being a team and working together. It's 50/50. You got married for a reason and unless your husband is super controlling and doesn't appreciate you and bosses you around, I wouldn't worry about it. We never know when it's our loved ones time to go so enjoy every moment spent with your husband and live with no regrets. Happy Holidays to you and your family.
2006-11-27 00:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by journeythroughlife85 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I don't think it's degrading if its on occasion, but if it's all the time, where he feels she has to wait on him hand and foot all the time, then I think it is degrading. There are alot of times, I come home from work dead tired and I would love to have my wife wait on me, but she's busy during the day with the kids, and she's tired too, and so I don't expect her to wait on me. About the only times she does that is when I'm sick, but in return when she's sick I do the same thing for her.
2006-11-27 00:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Its not really degrading but i don't think many women our going to want to wait on there husband hand and foot. So you could try asking but it really depends on her.
2006-11-27 00:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think "degrading" was the right word! I don't see the problem with women being subservient....a lot of women don't know what that means anymore! If the man treats his wife with respect; he deserves to be treated with respect back...
2006-11-27 22:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am currently not working (on maternity leave) and I always have dinner ready for my husband when he gets home from work. I think it's just fair that I cook and do the housework when I am home. However, when we are both working, we share the household responsibilities. "Waiting on your husband/wife hand and foot" doesn't really apply in our home.
2006-11-27 00:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by newmum06 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, If you asked me to wait on you hand and foot I would probably tell you NO, now that does not mean I am not going to do things for you, but I am not your personal slave, and you are a big boy and you can do things on your own. If I were your wife and I worked all day and you treated me like that we would have big issues, it is called respect and you should both have it for each other..
2006-11-27 00:33:17 · answer #8 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Depends upon the circumstances and the family values. I help my hubby whe he is busy, sick, or having a rough day, and he does the same for me. I am far from Susie Q. Homemaker though and most nights if I make the dinner, he does the dishes or vice versa.
2006-11-27 00:32:22 · answer #9 · answered by Toadsputum 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I dont think its wrong. Its not degrading, its called taking care of your husband like you vowed to do the day you got married. I fix my husbands plate sometimes, and sometimes he fixes mine. Marriage is supposed to be 50/50, full of compromises and working for each other and not against.
2006-11-27 00:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by babyj248 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋